My mom hates me I'm sure of it. I'm 13 and everything I do is a mistake she always yells at me when I do something wrong but when my sister does something wrong it's okay in her eyes but it's gotten so bad that I've tried cutting before, I've never burned myself but I've tried to cut. Yes it hurts cutting but it feels better than being yelled at. My mom doesn't understand me at all I just wish she wouldn't yell at me and I wish she would speak calmly to me but that never happens. My mom favours my little sister who's 6 and thinks she's an angel. I've trying really hard this year at school and at home but I'm always yelled at, I understand sometimes why she would be mad but kids make mistakes right nobody's perfect right? Well since I've worked my off my mom said that she would finally get me the phone I wanted, I've wanted this phone for about 2 years and I've tried to do everything she's asked of me but today I slipped up and she finally had a decent reason to yell at me. Instead of just yelling she screamed that she wasn't going to get me the phone I wanted and that she totally had enough money to afford it but them she said that I'm done for 2 more years and that she's not getting it for me. I've waited two years and now I have to wait another two years my mom just wants to get me a crapy phone that totally sucks. And get this it's not my sisters birthday or Christmas but my mom wants to buy my sister the newest iPod for the vacation that we're taking in December, why would she do that she always claims that she's not saving enough money through her job even though she's a freaking doctor and how she doesn't want to spend anymore money than she has to. The funny thing is that my moms totally OK with spending money on herself but when I comes to me she doesn't want to get me anything nice. I haven't gone clothes shopping with her since 4th grade so I have to use my own money to buy clothes.(I really don't have that much money so it's hard) and my mom just went shopping with my little sister yesterday. My sister has about 50 dresses and I barely have one. I just don't think that it's fair how she yells at me and takes everything away from me. I can tell you right now that if I had a gun I would shoot myself in the head because I honestly feel like there's nothing worth living for anymore.I would love to commit suicide today but I don't want it to hurt so I was planning on jumping off the roof of my house but I'm not sure if that's high enough. There are trees that are way higher than my house so I was planning to climb one and just jump off the top pretending I could fly until I hit the ground. My mom couldn't care less about what happens to me so what's the point in living if there's nobody who cares.

Put some of this into perspective. Right now, anything that goes wrong is going to seem major because that is the mindset that you have right now. Without realising it, you are just looking for any opportunity to justify your thinking of her not caring about you. Yelling at you does not mean she doesn't care. Seeming to favour, or even if she does right now, a little sister does not mean that she doesn't care. Little kids need more consistent attention. As you get older, more will be expected of you... that's how it works.

If she didn't care about you she would be apathetic towards you. That means she wouldn't react to anything you do because she truly wouldn't care one way or the other how you behaved.

Since you are able to use your own money to buy clothes, why not start saving it to go towards a phone? That your mother would buy you a "crappy" phone is more proof that she cares. You don't NEED a phone at all, and should be glad to have one at all! You barely have one dress? Go count exactly how many? Do you have other clothes? If you have several items of clothing to make several different outfits, you have enough.

Cutting, burning, or thinking about suicide because your mother yells at you, or you don't think that you are being treated fairly, is not the answer. It gets you nothing. It changes nothing.

How about instead, you try talking to your mother. Find a quiet time to let her know that you have been trying, and that you know you've made some mistakes and understand that she would be upset, but ask her to please not yell; just talk to you about it instead. Try it. If it would be easier, write it down in a letter and give it to her.

Sometimes things won't seem fair, but that is how it is for everyone. I'm sure your little sister has times where she doesn't get to do something she wants to do and she likely feels it is unfair as well.
Even adults will feel that way sometimes.

I think you may be over exaggerating. She would get you a phone, just not the one you want. It cost a lot to raise a family and save for the future so I doubt your mom is loaded with money. Killing yourself is not the answer, neither is cutting or burning yourself. Try talking to your mom about how you feel, not what you think she is doing wrong.

At 13 I'm curious how she earns her own money to buy what clothes she says she has? I also think there is a LOT of exagerating going on.

You know most of us who AREN'T raising a family right now can't afford to get the phone we want, because some of them are incredibly expensive... as are the data and calling plans you need for them to work, much less buy for a 13 year old. Even for those of us that make a lot more than the average pay. I can understand how difficult it would be for them to afford ANY phone for a 13 year old.

I think both of the ladies above said it all quite well... so no need for me to repeat what they have already said.

Trying to commit suicide by jumping off a roof or out of a tree is a dumb idea, especially if you think it will solve all your problems. Do you hope your mother will then regret how badly you say she is treating you and be miserable for the rest of her life? Also, the chances are good you would survive but become paralyzed or brain dead and live like that for the rest of your life.

Better idea is to find a calm time and talk this over with your mom and let her know how you feel.

Most 13 year old kids feel they know everything and that no one understands you.. That is part of the changes in you and your body, that is happening.

You of course will not agree with me, and ignore what I am saying.

Cutting, burning and self harm is just stupid, and shows that you are not very mature and your mother may have good reason to be unhappy, if your other actions are just as silly.

You are not getting a phone, ( that you want) she is just going to get you a cheaper one... **** do you realize how totally stupid that sounds as a major problem.. if you were saying she beats you wit a pole, or leather strap. If she chained you to a bed and staved you.

If you went to bed hungry every night.

Those are real issues that many kids have.

Lots and lots of 13 year olds do not have cell phones... my children would not, living in America, of if they did, it would be one of the cheapest ones available to see if they were responsible first.