I like this dude who's a divorcée W. He is 12 yrs older than me.
He has been divorced for like 3 years with no kids.

We met through skating in sept 2013. Shortly after I took a break of two months in preparing for my professional exams.

In late Nov 2013 I got a message from W on FB asking where have I been and why he hasn't seen me lately. He added me on FB and also asked for my no. and we started chatting on whatsapp.

He is a interesting dude to chat with. He is a commercial pilot. So over whatsapp he did suggest we meet up. But there was nothing planned. I assumed he was either too busy with work or not keen. So I left it as that . But because he always makes me laugh over chat... I actually developed good feelings for him. I told one of my friend X about it. I somehow felt the feeling was mutual but for whatever reason I felt that he didn't want to move things to the next stage. So I didn't initiate anything but just maintained a friendly relationship.

in Feb 2014, he invited me & X to his hse for dinner. I had a meeting so I went an hr late. X actually had a short chat with him about me before I arrived... W told X that I am a nice girl... the kind that if he brings home to meet his mum, she won't have an issue. He then told X that he is unsure of things and he didn't want to hurt me so he didn't initiate anything. He also told X that what if we went on dates 1,2,3,4,5 and things didn't work out... it mite be awkward. After dinner... X told me everything that W said to him. I was upset because I like W . So I dropped everything and just didn't tink about him anymore.

In Mar 2014, we went on a trip to perth. X & W went as well as 3 other friends. Things happened during the trip that made it obvious to others that W was interested in me.
> He kept sitting next to me during meals & in the bus
> When we take pics he would position himself next to me
> There was once he " accidentally" hugged me & everyone else was shocked. They took a pic of me sleeping & the moment I wanted to see the pic... he took both his arms & wrapped it around me to stop me from viewing the pic on the iPad.

After this trip, people started assuming things going on by the way us. The trip was good and we hung out more in a group. During dinner, he would openly flirt with me in front of everyone. There was this other instance he " accidentally" held my hand... when we were taking a group shot. I had my arms around this female friend & he was beside this friend, he then had his whole hand directly over mine, grabbing my hand. I am confused. He seems interested but just isn't making any moves to go on a 1-1 date.

In May 2014 I had a text from him asking me for my opinion about having a round/square table in his living room as his current table is spoilt. I am an Architect by profession and I just gave him a very short professional advice by replying him that a rectangular shaped table is better.Then he asked me if I am free sometime next week to go furniture browsing with him. So to my surprise, something concrete was made.

The date went really good. We went cycling in the morning at 5am-9am with our friends. Then at 11am he picked me up.. we went to 4 furniture shops. I love it partly because of my line of work and W is very keen in interior design. We had so much fun. =) We went for dinner at 6pm as the first customer of the restaurant and guess what we were also the last customers of their restaurant. We both shared so much about our own personal life over dinne. He shared with me what happened to his last marriage... shared a lot about his family... his nieces ,nephew and also his passion for flying. So we left the restaurant at 10pm because they were closing. We went back to take his car and he suggested to go for desserts... but I was exhausted after going out for 11hrs ( the longest first date I ever been out with anyone in my life )... I told him I would like to call it a day. I could tell he wanted to spend more time with me over dessert which made me happy.So he sent me back. I texted him saying I enjoyed the day and thanks for dinner. He texted me back saying he enjoyed the day as well. I asked if dinner was expensive and he said I am worth every cent. So I figured very high chance we would meet again since its positive on both ends.

after our date he went on a vacation... he went to taiwan, perth & thai... after he got back from thai I went to bali for a week.

When I was in bali, he kept texting me when will I be back... at one time I was pulling his leg, I said I wasn't going to come back and he showed me a =( face and said he was going to miss me.

So I am back from two days from bali and nothing happened. But he's flying off to london for work.

I can't read him... and I don't know what to do =(

what should I do...

At the next opportunity, simply ask him if he is interested in a relationship with you. I think that is a perfectly legitimate topic to discuss, as he's made it clear he is interested.

Not knowing one way or the other will keep you running around the mulberry bush.

Not to mention that you are in a very good position right now to have this discussion, because you aren't involved as boyfriend/girlfriend, but more as friends. You won't lose anything you don't already have in other words, so the very least will be a continued friendship.

But, at least you will know where you stand.

How should I say it in exact words?. I feel I don't have enough courage to ask him to be in a relationship with him... I mean I want to know if he's keen in wanting to get to know each other better instead of flirting with me all the time. Sometimes it makes me feel he behaves like this to most of the girls and if that's his personality... jus harmlessly flirting...

Why do you have to say anything? I would think that saying nothing but observing what happens gives you the advantage of judging if his words, and actions match. Sure you have had some good times and are attracted but why jump the gun and try to get closer to such a busy guy (and so are you) who is living his life before you know his intentions.

Keep living your life and don't chase a title, or commitment just yet. The signs are already before you that a relationship at this point would be romantic on the surface, but very difficult with the time apart. You don't need a relationship to find out more about this fellow, and his intentions. He seems in no great hurry, so why should you be?

Do not discount that very obvious fact asmore will be revealed later. Things you may need to know.