Hi all I have a Q & A for you.

My girlfriend flirted with her friends bloke on New Year after we had been together 5 months. I have told her about it and it bothered me she tells me it never happened and its all in my head, but I was right there at the time I know what I saw. She stares at other blokes when we are out together, and she keep staring at the bloke that lives out the back of us too. I have told her it bothers me and I have asked her if she wants to be with me. She tells me I am the one she wants and she doesn't fancy anyone else, but I don't believe her. If I was the one she wouldn't be looking at anyone else. we are having a baby in 17 weeks and I am scared of losing them. I left my ex with two kids for her. I only get to see them once a week and it kills me. I don't want the same to happen to this one. I couldn't imagine my life without her. I love her more the life it self. PLEASE HELP ME I Don't KNOW WHAT TO DO.

Some people can't help flirting, if that is what you think it is, but as long as it is flirting I don't see the harm in it. Just blow it off and kid about it.

I agree with Tickle... some people are like that... if jealousy is overwhelming you... pick up and move on. She is who she is... just like you are who you are. Not everyone is a perfect fit with just anyone else.

She stares, is that all she is doing, and you are getting all upset ?

You sound very insecure, sounds more like your problem than hers

Stop tripping over flirting and staring by a 5 month pregnant girlfriend who you had to be cheating on your other baby mama with in the first place.


I left my ex with two kids for her. I only get to see them once a week and it kills me.

Right?

So you cheated on your last partner (the mother of your children), to be with another woman, and about 10 months into that relationship, you are having a baby with her.

And you're having your doubts.

You've produced three children (one due soon), and you're worried about your new relationship, and almost, but not quite, lamenting the fact that you left your prior partner, to be with her.

You're feeling insecure, and doubtful, and missing your other children, and likely beginning to wonder about the possibility that history could be repeating itself if this new relationship doesn't work out.

I doubt that your very pregnant new partner is really interested in cheating on you. This situation of yours involves far more than her staring at other men.

What did you think would happen when you abandoned your other family, and then start a new one, with barely knowing the second woman. I don't feel sorry for you missing your children, and I don't feel sorry for you now having doubts, and wondering if this new relationship is going to last.

Children don't recover very quickly when their parents break up; they didn't ask for it, they don't deserve it, and they are forced to accept the situation that you have put upon them, for the rest of their lives. They will always feel a sense of abandonment, as will your ex, who is, because of your actions, forced to be a single parent, and raise your children, mostly on her own.

All the decisions you made, cannot be undone. All the decisions you made, will affect three children, and by the sounds of things, with the doubt you have in this new relationship, you will be lamenting not seeing all your children very often, in the not too distant future.

She says she doesn't want anyone else, and you say you don't believe her.

The only people in your very sad story I feel sorry for, are the children you've produced.