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SusieW
May 5, 2014, 02:11 PM
Hi!
Basically I've been dating my partner for 3 and half years and recently we went away together and had an amazing time. Problem is, Sam has never given me 100 percent of his love and I have always given him everything I have to offer in every sense. I have loved him constantly everyday despite my families concerns he does not treat me well enough. While this has bothered me in various amounts over the last 3 years it came to a head when I came back home and he stayed for another 8 weeks. He did not call or message and I could count less than 3 times he said he loved me and he never sad he missed me. So I felt neglected.

I did not seek attention from anyone but happened to meet a lovely man who took an instant liking to me. We got on straight away and have so many things in common. He makes me feel important and special. Thus when my boyfriend came home I immediately told him I'd had enough. He has now exploded with feeling and told me how sorry he is and how much he loves me and is willing to do anything to get me back. Do I take him back as I do still love him or has he had his chance?

I'm terrified of making the wrong choice as I have a real connection with the new guy. I really do not know what the answer is.

Homegirl 50
May 5, 2014, 02:37 PM
If you leave your current boyfriend, it should be because you are tired of the way you have been treated and then stay gone.
This other person should not have anything to do with your decision. If your relationship was bad, anybody who pays you a bit of attention would look good.
Don't jump from one relationship to another. Give yourself time to get over your current guy and learn things about yourself.

123pleasehelpme
May 30, 2014, 05:10 PM
If you were thinking about leaving him before you met the other man then I would say you made the right decision because that is going with your heart. Although, if you broke up with your long time partner for the other man then I would reconsider.