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maggie2021
Apr 2, 2014, 08:15 AM
Ok I really like this guy who is divorced with two small children.. Well this makes me feel so insecure. Every time I see a pic of his ex wife and two daughters I get insecure and jealous. How do I get over this. Should I stop seeing pictures? Why do I feel this way? I really like this guy but not sure what to do? Thanks.

smoothy
Apr 2, 2014, 08:16 AM
Live with it and get over it or move on... the ex is the mother of his two kids... and will forever be a part of their life.

tcp13
Apr 2, 2014, 08:22 AM
If you really like him, you can get conquer this uncomfortable feeling.

odinn7
Apr 2, 2014, 09:05 AM
At the risk of insulting you...this is very childish and even somewhat creepy.

It's his ex...it's his kids....you deal with it like an adult and realize that this was before you.

Now that I think about it...is there even a relationship going on? I mean, you don't specifically say that there is...you just say you like him.

talaniman
Apr 2, 2014, 09:38 AM
How old are you? How long have you been dating? I think your jealousy is part of a more serious fear that has nothing to do with him, or his past. That's for you to examine and deal with, or this relationship will be destroyed if you act on those fears, and insecurities.

So find out why you have those feelings in an honest self evaluation.

DoulaLC
Apr 2, 2014, 03:53 PM
As was said, the situation isn't going to change, so either you have to work at changing how you feel (not going to be an easy thing to do if seeing a picture of them upsets you so much), or consider perhaps that dating someone with "baggage" is not for you.

It doesn't mean that there is anything wrong necessarily, some people are fine with exes/kids, some are not. If you find that you just can't get passed these feelings of insecurity and jealously, it may very well be time to be upfront and honest with yourself and with him, and move on so that you can meet someone who is totally single in that regard.

You really like him, but I bet you will also be able to find another guy that you really like who doesn't have an ex and kids.

maggie2021
Apr 3, 2014, 07:17 AM
Hey thank you everyone I just started seeing him.. I'm in my early 30ss. Talaniman your right I need to do a self evalutaion of myself.. YOu are very wise.. I guess hard to do sometimes..