I'm 18 I live in Florida I would like to move out of my parents house asap but they are not okay with that how can I leave my house and get my own place with out their okay? This is my last year of high school I have 9 more weeks until I graduate. I have my own place already waiting on me.

If you are 18 and want to leave you leave. Pack your things (only your things not things they have provided you as a privilege of living under their roof) and go. How is it that they are keeping you from moving?

For the record I completely understand their "not being okay" with you moving. They want you to succeed in life. If you move now, having not even graduated high school yet, will make it harder.

Just pack up and go. You are 18 and an adult.

Sure you can... you pack your own stuff up (not their stuff like the furniture) and move. DO you have a job, the money for rent and the deposit.. utilities and food?

You do understand you aren't entitled to any money as an adult, or any other form of help..

With 9 weeks left in high school... I'd like to know how you managed to pull that off. Most people with actual full time jobs just starting out have a hard enough time earning enough money to do that.

If you have a place, you muse have signed a lease after you turned 18. That would also mean that you passed a credit check to make sure you can afford the place. So move. But don't expect mom and dad to help you.

I do want to leave I want to pack MY stuff and leave. I can afford everything I need. Its just 9 weeks until I graduate. I know for a fact I can do this. I already have everything I need to do this. I just wasn't sure if I could really just pack my stuff and leave like I want to. I kind of want to wait after high school but I kind of want to leave soon it's a 50/50 thang. I'm just scared of how my mother and father will react I don't want to break their hearts. Cause I do love them but I'm tired of cleaning up everyday after them plus my twin brother. I want my own privacy.

Life is a trade off, independence for some hurt feelings. After all it's a life changing event for you and your parents. After 18 years you can't wait 9 more weeks?

I'm tired of cleaning up everyday after them plus my twin brother. I want my own privacy.
You do all the grocery shopping, cooking, baking, laundry, and bill paying too? Are you going it alone or will you have a roommate? How about having a family meeting and talking about everyone's responsibilities and need to cooperate? You definitely don't want to move out and regret it three months from now -- and then have to beg to come back home again.

I do want to leave I want to pack MY stuff and leave. I can afford everything I need. Its just 9 weeks until I graduate. I know for a fact I can do this. I already have everything I need to do this. I just wasn't sure if I could really just pack my stuff and leave like I want to. I kind of want to wait after high school but I kind of want to leave soon it's a 50/50 thang. I'm just scared of how my mother and father will react I don't want to break their hearts. Cause I do love them but I'm tired of cleaning up everyday after them plus my twin brother. I want my own privacy.

You know for a fact? Really... how do you know for a fact you can afford the rent, all the utilities, food... Car, the insurance and all the other costs if you expect to have one, money to buy clothes and anything else you need.


I happen to know for a fact its hard for recent COLLEGE graduates to do (WITH roomates)... its going to be far more difficult for a recent high school graduate with no special skills.

All of use have actually been through this before... so understand that we are all curious how you managed to overcome all the obsticals you are going to have to deal with living on your own. And not just the financial ones.


Seriously...I'm not saying that to be mean.....I'm wanting to see how prepared you really are to do this. And not just how prepared you might think you are.

Hate to bring on reality but you don't know for a fact that you can do it. You think you can but you do not know for a fact. Have you figured out how much each week you need to feed yourself? Have you purchased your own car yet? Insured that car? Put gas in that car? Look at your parents utility bills to get an idea of how much those are going to cost. Also find figure out how much you will have to pay for your phone, shampoo, soap, dish soap, sponges, trash bags, toilet paper, light bulbs, and on and on.

You aren't even sure you want to move! If you are only 50/50 don't move and regret it. Are leaving for college in the fall?

If they were planning on going to college in the fall... and pull this off... I can all but assure mom and dad will pull the plug on paying for it.

If they were planning on going to college in the fall... and pull this off... I can all but assure mom and dad will pull the plug on paying for it.
Dude I go this it isn't hard to do I can and have beentakin care of myself for years isn't hard. Trust me you make me want to pack my stuff tonight and go just to PROVE an 18 can do anything he or she puts their mind to.

Dude, you have been taking care of yourself under your parents' roof with no responsibility to think about, and no money to pay out.

Dude, do you have a job to go to to pay your way and continue on with your education plus ?

Sure and l8 year old can do anything if they have the money behind them to do it.

Dude, you have been taking care of yourself under your parents' roof with no responsibility to think about, and no money to pay out.

Dude, do you have a job to go to to pay your way and continue on with your education plus ?

Sure and l8 year old can do anything if they have the money behind them to do it.

Dude, I pay the bills in the house. I make food do ALL chores. Clean cook go to work school maintain great grades keep up with the fishing team I am on. I can do it so stop doubtin bro. trust me when I say dude I got this. I have agreat paying job so does my amazing boyfriend. I already have a scholoar ship fir college. So I'm good to go. Nothing to worry about cause money deff isn't the prob in this case the prob was Needing TO KNOW CAN I PACK MY STUFF AT 18 AND LEAVE AND WELL I GOT MY ANSWER.

Dude I go this it isn't hard to do I can and have beentakin care of myself for years isn't hard. Trust me you make me want to pack my stuff tonight and go just to PROVE an 18 can do anything he or she puts their mind to.

Really... you are aware you just showed your maturity level with that comment. As well as how little you really do know about the real world and what you are going to have to face.

But then... some people have to learn things the hard way... have at it. You will only hurt yourself and your relationship with your family.

And incidentally... one of the ABSOLUTE TRUTHS about life... is an 18 year old CAN NOT do anything they set out to do or puts their mind to do. THey can consider themselves if they can accomplish even small things without a lot of time and effort... and by time I mean years... not hours days or weeks.

You will learn that soon enough. Its going to be a bitter pill to swallow. Just remember we told you so.

Do you honestly think you know more about this than the rest of us all of whom have beenactually there, not just imagined it?. many of us with college educations first... meaning we had a head start at a higher paying job than you do?

Just don't burn your bridges first.

People that NEED to do things out of spite...really are going to crash and burn almost all of the time....because doing things on impulse...are the absolute opposite of doing things after they are planned out...properly. Including backup plans when you find your first plans were unrealistic.


Sorry but in my world actual experience trumps dreams every time. And I had my share at your age too. I make more than you can dream of right now....and I still can't afford all of the dreams I had at 18. It took me almost 35 years after that to afford some of them.

So the short answer is, YES, you can leave.

Go out and face the real world on your own.

That's why we have weed to help us thorugh the "real world" no worries just happy daze.


So the short answer is, YES, you can leave.

Go out and face the real world on your own.

Thank you :)

Yep... they insist of learning the hard way. Lets just hope they don't make mistakes that will take a lifetime to overcome.

I have to say... you sound just like EVERY 18 year old kid I know. I was there too! My birthday is in September so 95% of my senior year in high school I was already 18 and could have moved. I wanted to some times too! Not only did I have one younger brother in high school but my baby brother was born in the middle of my sophomore year. Guess what... I was smart enough to know that actually going through with my plan to move out wasn't going to help me. Not even to prove to my parents that I could! I did move when I went to college!

So, legally can you move? Yes, absolutely. Is anyone here that has been 18 (and a WHOLE lot wiser now believe it or not) going to tell you that is what would be in your best interest? NO. I'm still young enough I don't always want to sound like my parents telling youngsters these things. I'll do it though if I think it will help someone.

Yep... they insist of learning the hard way. Lets just hope they don't make mistakes that will take a lifetime to overcome.


And by the way...thanks for proving your low level of maturity and ignorance with your not helpful...in violation of the site rules and terms of service.

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Really? adults take a pleasure in knocking people with that attitude down to size in the real world.

Yep... they insist of learning the hard way. Lets just hope they don't make mistakes that will take a lifetime to overcome.
The hard way is my way ;) I love it.

Is this place you're moving to furnished? If it's unfurnished, how will you afford furniture? a bed? bed and bath linens? Where will you do your laundry? Did your parents buy your clothes? If so, technically, they aren't yours. Is your job full-time with great benefits including health insurance? If no health insurance, since doctor visits are so expensive, you'll have to sit in an ER and wait for maybe six hours for medical attention (and apply for Medicaid), depending on what is wrong. I am really concerned for you and how this is going to work out.

***ADDED*** "weed"???? Ah, now I understand.

I have to say... you sound just like EVERY 18 year old kid I know. I was there too! My birthday is in September so 95% of my senior year in high school I was already 18 and could have moved. I wanted to some times too! Not only did I have one younger brother in high school but my baby brother was born in the middle of my sophomore year. Guess what... I was smart enough to know that actually going through with my plan to move out wasn't going to help me. Not even to prove to my parents that I could! I did move when I went to college!

So, legally can you move? Yes, absolutely. Is anyone here that has been 18 (and a WHOLE lot wiser now believe it or not) going to tell you that is what would be in your best interest? NO. I'm still young enough I don't always want to sound like my parents telling youngsters these things. I'll do it though if I think it will help someone.

I get where you are coming from I don't know I guess some people can do thibngs that others can't do. I just can't stand being told what to do when I pay bills cleanujp AFTER EVERYONE and still maintain a good education and future. I may be 18 but I'm not like every 18 yr old. Ihave a smart head on my shoulders I plan on keeping it that way. That way I can get my RN.

I think posts 2 and 3 stated you can move out at l8, you are already an adult, but to be quite truthful the maturity level doesn't show up in your later posts. Sure everyone just loves the hard way of doing things.

So pack your bags and move out like tal said in post 3.

End of story unless you have something else to add @zonarayne.

Oh... 18 going on 14 with that attitude... I wish I would be there to see the crash and burn. But once you see the train leave the tracks... what happens next is a forgon conclusion. And the train has already left the tracks.

Wait untill they have to start listening to what a boss tells them to do everyday for the rest of their working life......a boss that might not be so nice and forgiving as mom and dad were, and in fact is very unlikely to be.

That's why we have weed to help us thorugh the "real world" no worries just happy daze.

Now that is just plain dumb if you actually believe that. SHow up for work stoned or just smelling like it and you will find yourself fired.

Your last few posts have really shown you to be the rule rather than the exception. If you really do want to succeed drop the attitude. It will get you nowhere fast.

That's why we have weed to help us thorugh the "real world" no worries just happy daze.


I was going to post defending you until I saw this post. Up until then, I felt you are being given too hard a time. But this comment and your use of vulgarity tells me that you have a problem with a lack of maturity.

I don't know of any 18 yr old who has a "I have agreat paying job". And I also doubt that any 18 yr old pays all "the bills in the house". Your household consists of at least 4 people, you, your parents and a brother. I can't believe that you are making enough while going to school full time, to pay all the bills. So that leaves me to suspect that you don't have a full grasp of reality. which could be a result of your use of weed.

I also suspect that you are not moving on your own, but probably moving in with your "amazing boyfriend". And that is more of why you want to leave and your parents don't want you to leave than anything else.