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Detuan
Mar 5, 2014, 01:22 PM
How do I as a father terminate my rights to my son. I have tried to be in his llife, but the mother makes it very difficult for me to see him. The last time that I saw my son was March 2013. The reason that I saw him then was because she needed a babysitter for my son and his brother. The only time that I could see my son was to babysit the two boys or have sex with her. She has moved over seven times in the past year. She is now residing in Texas. The only reason that I know this information is because of Facebook. This is the only time that I can see my son. She now has another male in her life that she has my son calling dad. I love my son,but I'm being deprived of my rights as a father. I would like to terminate my rights. When my son becomes of age maybe then I will be able to see him. I just would like to know the procedure to start the process.

smoothy
Mar 5, 2014, 01:26 PM
You sign the adoption forms if and when the mother and her new husband try to adopt them.


Until then... you don't get to terminate your rights. A kid isn't a used car you aren't using.

ScottGem
Mar 5, 2014, 05:22 PM
There is this myth that a parent can terminate their rights. But its just a myth. Only a court can terminate parental rights and courts are very reluctant to do so. Generally they will only do so to clear the way for an adoption.

You say you are being deprived of your rights as a father. But what you don't say is what you have done to enforce those rights. Are you the legal father? Have you gone to court and obtained a custody and visitation order? If so, what have you done to enforce that order? If not, why not?

stinawords
Mar 5, 2014, 06:23 PM
What do you think you will gain by terminating something you are not using anyway? Have you gone to court to get an order for visitation? That would be the first step in not being "deprived" of your rights.

You are basically asking to know how to have a judge tell you that you are not allowed to do what you are already not doing. If you are no longer interested in a relationship with you son then simply continue not to make contact.

Fr_Chuck
Mar 5, 2014, 07:41 PM
If she moved out of state with Child, did you protest, did you file for emergancy custody of the child ?

As for as that goes, do you have legal visitation rights established in the courts. What are you doing ( like taking her back to court to enforce those rights)

You can not just give up your rights, ( plus that does not do anything,) you are not using your rights,

Rights and child support are two separate issues,

AK lawyer
Mar 6, 2014, 07:24 AM
Rights and child support are two separate issues,

You hit the nail on the head. As noted, OP (although he hasn't said it), appears to be looking to end his child support obligations. It's not going to happen, absent adoption.

I suspect that he has done nothing about getting court-ordered visitation &/or custody set up. That is what he needs to see about doing. And (again, assuming no custody case has been filed) if the mother and son are now in Texas (and have been there for six months or more), the courts there are where he would have to go.