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Amandaboehnen
Feb 19, 2014, 07:11 AM
I had an IUD and got it out Jan 13th. The early early morning of Jan 15th I had sex and bleed dark brown blood when I had sex. I didn't actually have red real period blood till the 16th. I only had the bleeding till either the 20th or 21st. On the 26th I had unprotected sex at 2:30am but he did not ejaculate in me, he made sure To pull out in time and peed afterwards. After about 3 hours we had sex again using the pull out method. I had a colposcopy on the 28th and on the 31st at 3:30 am had sex with a different partner and he ejactulated inside of me. I spotted a little the next day but that was it. I also think the blood could have been from my colposcopy. I also had sex with the same person on feb 2nd and he ejactulated in me twice unprotected. I took a pregnancy test on feb 9th and it came out nagative. I took another another one feb 14th and it was positive but the line wasn't as solid as the other line. Who would most likely be the father of my
Child?

Fr_Chuck
Feb 19, 2014, 07:55 AM
From the date of the test, my guess it is more likely 1st guy, but there is no way to know, till the child is born and a DNA test is done.

First no idea why you keep saying pull out method it has little effect, there are plenty of sperm in the early fluids to cause pregnancy, people who use pull out are soon called parents.

Amandaboehnen
Feb 19, 2014, 07:58 AM
I never said the pull out method had no affect? From my readings and research you are suppose to be able to get a positive on a pregnancy test 14 days after you had unprotected sex which when I did take the test it was a nagative. But 14 days from the second guy it was a positive

Fr_Chuck
Feb 19, 2014, 08:12 AM
No, normally you can not get a good test with a home pregnancy kit, till 14 days after a missed period, ( not 14 days after sex) since you tested positive when you did, it indicates the first man much more than 2nd.

smoothy
Feb 19, 2014, 08:13 AM
You've been researching the wrong places then... most tests don't achieve the best accuracy until 2 weeks after your are late for your period. (you might test positive before then, its just that false negatives are more likely before that time)

And even then some women will get a false negative for a couple months.

Amandaboehnen
Feb 19, 2014, 08:16 AM
No lol. That's not true. You can take a pregnancy test up to 7 days before you missed period, the day of you missed period as well and get a positive!

smoothy
Feb 19, 2014, 08:20 AM
Really... do you care to back up that claim with proven medical studies? Because that is very untrue. And don't quote a bunch of people that post things on the internet they know nothing about... because there is a LOT of that on the internet. Usually quoted by the same people that claim "pulling out" is a safe way to prevent pregnancies. And by the same people that think women have "safe" days, and that woman can't get pregnant during her period....all of which are wrong as well.

Fr_Chuck
Feb 19, 2014, 08:20 AM
Sorry, it can happen, "some time" but rare. Read the 100's and 1000's of women who come here over the years that are one or two months late, and are not testing positive yet. But will at doctor. The doctors test will show that early.

Most of what you read are advertising promotions, wanting to sell their product, \

Even at 14 days after missed period, there is a large change for a false negative reading.

Again, sorry, but actual results of 100's and 100's of women coming here, show what happens in real life.

Amandaboehnen
Feb 19, 2014, 08:22 AM
Then I find it very odd I got a positive the day before my missed period. Just saying not everyone cycle is the same mine last for 5 days and comes every 30 days. Which would make me only fertile when I had sex with the second guy and ovulating the day after I had unprotected sex with the second guy.

Cat1864
Feb 19, 2014, 08:24 AM
I never said the pull out method had no affect? From my readings and research you are suppose to be able to get a positive on a pregnancy test 14 days after you had unprotected sex which when I did take the test it was a nagative. But 14 days from the second guy it was a positive

For some pregnancies and very sensitive tests (though the literature I have read says 19 days after sex), that is true. However, testing that early has a higher chance of a false reading. But some women have been three to four months pregnant before a test came back positive.

If you haven't already, you need to find an obstetrician, get a confirmation of the pregnancy and start prenatal care. The doctor will have better resources for determining how far along you are. However, even their methods will not give you an exact date for conception. They can't due to the nature of conception (depending on conditions, it can take place a few days after sex.) But their ballpark figure should be more accurate.

The most accurate test, however, is a DNA test after the baby is born.

smoothy
Feb 19, 2014, 08:26 AM
A small percentage do test positive that early (emphasis on SMALL percentage)... but it doesn't mean everyone will, or that even most will. Fact is most women who actually are pregnant will get false negatives testing that early.

Amandaboehnen
Feb 19, 2014, 08:28 AM
I already have an appointment and got conformation on my pregnancy and that I am pregnant. I have taken over 5 test myself and have gone to the doctor. As the days went by the line got darker but when I initially took it on the 14th of feb it was faint. But your hormones double everyday from being pregnant.

Fr_Chuck
Feb 19, 2014, 08:39 AM
I am glad yours worked that way, you are indeed the exception. Good luck with the pregnancy, and the DNA test when the baby is born. I hope it works for the man you prefer.

OB_dood
Feb 19, 2014, 09:04 AM
While most newly pregnant women will have a sufficient amount of hCG by 7 to 10 days post ovulation to get a positive HPT, there are FAR too many factors involved to use this in determining conception dates. This test can be affected by the dilution of your urine, the sensitivity of the HPT (some are made to detect varying levels of hCG), the timing of implantation, your blood hCG levels, etc., etc. There is simply no way to tell exactly when you conceived via HPT, especially with dates that close together.

When you have your first ultrasound, your doctor should be able to tell your the age of the fetus which will give you a better idea of when you conceived. While of course there is no way to tell 100% without a DNA test at birth, your ultrasound should be able to make a fairly reliable guess.