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wise old horse
Apr 2, 2007, 07:32 AM
We have been dating sense o4 and just moved in to gather but it seems that I am always making him made or messing things up I want this to work but we fight allot but it is always little things like what was that look for? Things like that I love him with all my heart what should I do?:confused: :confused:

manimuth
Apr 2, 2007, 08:57 AM
Did most of these problems start after you started living together? Because, living together can bring up tensions and issues (a lot of times over small things) that were never problems before. So, now that your relationship has changed into a new phase, be prepared for new problems you will face. The key to making this work? : Communication! Tell him that you love him and let him know that you are worried. Talk about why you've been getting on each others' nerves.
Another tricky thing about living together is that you still need individual time, on your own, away from him (and vice-versa). Find time to do things on your own and let him be.
Also, try not to get into a rut or routine (common when we start living with someone). Surprise him once in a while with a treat (from just cooking his favorite food to putting on his favorite lingerie). Keep things interesting, always be open and communicating, and when things get rough, remind him that you love him with all your heart. :) Good luck.

lindeelouky
Apr 2, 2007, 09:05 AM
We have been dating sense o4 and just moved in to gather but it seems that i am always making him made or messing things up i want this to work but we fight allot but it is always little things like what was that look for? things like that i love him with all my heart what should i do?:confused: :confused:
I lived with my boyfriend for almost 8 years and like you, loved him.
A small amount of arguing is healthy, as long as you play fair and don't try to hurt each other. Ask your boyfriend if he would go with you to a couples counselor so you can learn how to communicate without having it escalate into an argument.
If you don't fix it now, it will spiral into a problem that has so much pain and hurt to you
That it won't be able to be repaired.
I put up with being wrong, trying to please, being argued with, and he finally left. It did me no good playing the role of doormat, it didn't make him love or respect me more, it probably did more of the opposite. Get help and resolve the issue now or look for a new direction for your life to take.