Hi. I am 29 years old and I am clueless about what to do in a situation like this. I see this guy on the bus every day in the morning. It's a pretty quiet bus. I think he is very interesting... and cute... I would like to make myself noticeable, but I have no idea what to say or do... I'm very very shy when it comes to this stuff but I would like to put out a vibe to possibly have him come to me. Is there any way to do this? He usually has his iPod on... What could I do..

Why don't you ask to sit near him and maybe start a conversation with him and take it from there.

Haha... well I am scared to just start talking.. lol.. plus it's very very early in the morning and I get on the bus before him... and he has his iPod on. Lol

:) don't make excuses you know u can do it ;)

Haha... well what are some other suggestions... like I said too.. he gets on after I do, so he goes to sit in a vacant seat.. and I am not going to move just to sit with him.. that is too obvious lol...

Why don't you try catch his eye as soon as he comes on the bus and smile at him...

I have been trying to do that, but he rarely looks... he usually just stares straight ahead to find a vacant seat I guess like everyone else on the bus lol... I'm so shy with this stuff really.. and then if I do something I'm afraid he'll have a girlfriend and then I'll feel like a total goof lol

True, but how would you ever find out if he has a girlfriend if you try speak to him or do something!
My moto - you will never know if you don't ask ;)

Yeah I know but I want to have a certain approach.. I don't want to just outright ask and I don't know what to do :(

No don't approach in that manner, more of a friendly approach, a smile, hey how are you?

Why don't you take a newspaper with you and just walk up to him and say "Hey I am finished with this paper would you like to read it?"

Ok.. I'm going to explain the bus situation a little more. It's not one of those city buses that you guys are probably thinking of. It's more like a long distance travel kind of bus... two seats on both sides... very quiet. I usually get on and sit in the front and when he gets on he walks to the back.. and yes, I know, I should start sitting towards the back lol... but it's not the kind of place where I can get up and ask if he wants to read a newspaper. I was thinking perhaps passing him a note or something like that, but I feel so scared to do that and what if he thinks I'm crazy.. and what would I write? Lol

Call me :)
(and leave your name and number)

Lol... any other suggestions... do you think I should go with a note... I don't know what to do.. I am so nervous and like a little kid about this. I am one of those girls where I think the guy should make the move, that's why I want to try and flirt a little to see if he will make a move or something but I'm so nervous and under the circumstances the way things are on the bus, I don't know what to do lol

Eye contact and a smile, his reaction will tell you if he is available or interested.

If you want to flirt and get his attention, before he gets on the bus why don't you act like you dropped something and get in his way to pick it up and say "oh excuse me, sorry" and smile and make eye contact-that flirty kind of contact. Act like you are looking for something important like a diamond earring and maybe he will help you find it. Do you ever look at him when he walks by to get to the back of the bus? Stare him down like he is the hottest guy on the planet.

These are all easier said than done things, but still hard to do because I rarely put myself out there lol

Well how are we supposed to help you if you don't try anything? Just go for it!! These aren't easier said than done things-you just think they are. This person does not know your shy. Why don't you pretend you are an actor and you are playing a part on how to get a man's attention and just go for it. What have you got to lose? There are plenty of other men out there. So just put yourself out there and don't make it such a mental issue! :)