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loveher4eva
Feb 3, 2014, 11:19 AM
I met this really nice girl on a night out about 6 month ago. We got drunk and kissed we stayed in touch casually textin till about a month ago when I asked her out and to my surprise she said yes. We were both nervous but overcame that and we got on really well. She is soooo shy and nice and old fashioned its refreshing in this day and age. She has been to my house the last two times we met and we watch films and kiss and cuddle. I really want to take it slow to not scare her off. I want a relationship but I'm worried that maybe she won't

talaniman
Feb 3, 2014, 11:24 AM
You already have a relationship, a dating one. If you want changes, or clarifications, or redefine it, ask for it and see what she says.

loveher4eva
Feb 3, 2014, 11:31 AM
Well we see each other once a week and I get worried the days she doesn't see me that she forgets me I don't want to push her away by asking to see her too much

talaniman
Feb 3, 2014, 11:44 AM
You will never know anything if you don't ask. Get facts and drop the fear and insecurity. She remembers you once a week. That's a start. Is it the same day every week?

joypulv
Feb 3, 2014, 11:47 AM
How do you know she isn't pining for you the other 6 days? She might be just as eager to date more as you are.
Why not tell her the truth? You want to see her more and are afraid to ask, afraid to move too fast. That allows her to agree or say oh no, she wants to see you more too.

loveher4eva
Feb 3, 2014, 11:49 AM
Yeah the same day due to work time tables but mixing it up next week and going to cinema midweek. Dropping the fear is easier said lol my last girlfriend hurt me bad and I'm finally over it I dindt go near a woman for a year

True I suppose its just insecurity I should be happy that she always accepts my invites

talaniman
Feb 3, 2014, 12:08 PM
It may have been a year, and you may be dating now, but those old fears are still there haunting you. You are unable to express your own concerns, needs, or wants. That's not honest communications is it? It's reacting to your FEARS.

I read your other post.

>sugar coated version< You are a hopeless romantic with high expectations but are afraid of getting hurt... AGAIN.<

>harshness warning< Take a chance and show some courage. Even if you get rejected it only hurts as long as you let it. Deal with it. Let her deal with your truth. You big scaredy cat!!

I should be happy that she always accepts my invites

So invite her more!!

loveher4eva
Feb 3, 2014, 12:13 PM
Hahah thanks well I am really truthfull with her and told her about the past amd she was great about it. I guess I'm going in with caution because it's all new for her too she has never had a boyfriends and has little experience with men so I defo want to lead by example and show her respectful honest faithfull caring men exist