View Full Version : Please help I don't know what to do ?
shy1987
Jan 15, 2014, 09:17 PM
Hi my boyfriend and I have been together for over 1 year and get along really good but the problem is every time we go out to dinner he has me paying for dinner and car parking he works and I don't I don't mind springing for a meal if he took turns am I being selfish if I say no more dinner out? He's a good guy he's paying my car off he bought me at his own choice but I'm so confused please help
talaniman
Jan 15, 2014, 09:26 PM
You don't take turns paying for your car, but you want to take turns buying dinner? You have me confused about that kind of trade off. After he pays for your car he may not have any money for dinner.
smoothy
Jan 16, 2014, 06:29 AM
I agree with Talaniman, paying for your car is a significant expense compared to dinner.
mogrann
Jan 16, 2014, 06:42 AM
Have you talked to him? Maybe look at ways of doing things that cost little to no money. Some examples are: take turns cooking a special meal, visit a museum, volunteer at a cause you both support, walk in a park, watch movies at home, take public transportation when you go out. I agree him paying for a car is a big expense and maybe it is just not in his budget to spring for meals out and parking and that is why communication is needed.
talaniman
Jan 16, 2014, 10:39 AM
He wanted you to have the car true, but it was your choice to take it.
busymomma2013
Jan 16, 2014, 11:23 AM
I agree with all of the above.
My husband works and pays all bills because he is the main bread winner. The money I make is for our fun outtings.
How often do you go out? If it is every night then requesting to stay home for dinner should be no big deal.
Can I ask how you pay for dinner if you do not work?