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valero1234
Jan 15, 2014, 06:07 PM
Okay, so recently I started talking to this girl I know. I knew her before but we hadn't talked for a couple of years but I messaged her on Facebook and we started texting shortly after and have hung out a bunch of times since. This was all in the last month or so, anyway, I went to hang out at her house and she told me how since she broke up with her ex she has been trying to talk to guys and the last 3 she was trying to talk to had matching initials "AA, BB". I was under the impression that we were talking and hanging out and had the potential of dating. But she told me that, so now I'm not so sure. I want to ask her if she wants to talk to me like that or not exclusively, but is it too soon? Should I not bring it up? I don't want to be friend zoned and have flirted with her, so I would think she has an idea I don't want to be just "friends". So what do I do?

Homegirl 50
Jan 15, 2014, 06:37 PM
You've only been talking for a month, what is the hurry? Ask her where she thinks this is going since you don't have matching initials.

valero1234
Jan 15, 2014, 06:51 PM
Lol seriously? Well I'm not in a hurry, I just want her to know I like spending time with her. I just don't want her to go out with somebody else. Ya know?

Homegirl 50
Jan 15, 2014, 07:39 PM
Then tell her that or ask her where you stand with her.

valero1234
Jan 15, 2014, 07:49 PM
Its not too soon?

Homegirl 50
Jan 15, 2014, 07:52 PM
Who's to say. If you are feeling this, tell her. At least you will know.
You're not asking her to marry you, you're just asking her where you stand with her since you are no a double alphabet.

Fr_Chuck
Jan 15, 2014, 09:25 PM
Dating several people is fine, I recommend it till you find the right person.

So do you ask her out for dates ? Do you kiss, hold hands, How is this level of dating progressing. Normally it should progress by itself without the need ot formal "talks"

talaniman
Jan 15, 2014, 09:31 PM
Ask her out on a few dates first. See how it goes. Never heard of exclusive talking though to be honest. That sounds like a very insecure thing to talk about to me.

You mean exclusive dating don't you?