So I have a dilemma which I'm sure isn't anything new. I have been involved with my ex-girlfriend off and on for the last 6 years. I am a lesbian by the way. She has cheated and lied constantly over that period of time. Most of the reconciliation had been on her part. She knows what to say to get me back. I hoped for a great love and I thought I found it in her. We were young when we met. I was 20 and she was 19. I can say with great pleasure that she was my first. I loved her so much and I still do but with the lies and cheating that love has turned bitter. I know she can't or couldn't have loved me if she was doing that stuff. So in a nutshell, although I would love to be with what I call "the love of my life"... I know I have to move on. I want to move on. I need to move on.

Can you please give me some pointers to possibly get over her. I know the best way to get over someone is to get under someone. But I don't work that way and neither does my heart. Also do you believe to get over someone you would need to be rid of anything and everything that was either given to you by them or strip tease vids/personal voice recordings? All of that stuff have been with me for the last 6 years. Its not something I can see easily either - its all on a hard drive. I would hate to trash that stuff and regret it because the dynamic of her is meaningful of my first love and my first lover.