OK so there is this 8th grade girl I like and I'm in 6th grade... I asked her to be my girlfriend the other day and she said yes... I wonna see her somewhere outside of school or do something fun with her... but I don't know how to ask... and please give me a suggestion on where to go too please... AND DON'T SAY IM TOO YOUNG

Have your parents given you permission to date? If not then you need to ask them before you start asking some girl.

You don't have a clue on relationships. First, you get to know a girl then you go out a few times, THEN you ask her to be your girlfriend. You are a child trying to act more grown up then you are.

What can you afford?

What can you afford?
I could do about 60 or so


Have your parents given you permission to date? If not then you need to ask them before you start asking some girl.

You don't have a clue on relationships. First, you get to know a girl then you go out a few times, THEN you ask her to be your girlfriend. You are a child trying to act more grown up then you are.
Actually I talk to her everyday on the bus for 45 minutes so I do know her

What are her parents rules for going on dates with her boyfriend?

What are her parents rules for going on dates with her boyfriend?
I don't know I haven't asked her or talked to he about it yet... I'm basically asking how to ask and what to say

You don't get it. Again, you are a child playing at adult behaviors you don't understand.

I don't know I haven't asked her or talked to he about it yet... I'm basically asking how to ask and what to say

That's the first thing you find out, what are the parents rules and boundaries so you don't cross them. Or make her cross them.

So you start with would your parents mind if we went out/hang out? What are your parents rules and boundaries for you?

You're both not old enough to drive, so going out will require a parent to drive you. That means that you ask your parents first, and she asks her parents. Then you ask her out on a date.

I really don't understand how you can have a girlfriend you're not actually dating, which is what this amounts to. That's why you're too young, because you have no idea what having a girlfriend really means. People that are in a relationship, date. If you can't figure out how to ask your girlfriend on a date, she's not your girlfriend.

That's the first thing you find out, what are the parents rules and boundaries so you don't cross them. Or make her cross them.

So you start with would your parents mind if we went out/hang out? What are your parents rules and boundaries for you?
My mom doesn't give a what I do as long as I don't die


You don't get it. Again, you are a child playing at adult behaviors you don't understand.
Not really my life was empty before her and now that I'm with her that hole of empty ness is partially filled.. One part can never be filled again until I die... she is the only that owns they key to my heart though

My mom doesn't give a what I do as long as I don't die

If that's the case, why not tell them about this girl?

But YOU care what you do right? That mean do things the right way my young friend, and for now you keep talking and learning about your female friend.

What of you dad? What are his rules?

If that's the case, why not tell them about this girl?
Cuz she'll give me "the talk" lol the one thing I don't need


But YOU care what you do right? That mean do things the right way my young friend, and for now you keep talking and learning about your female friend.

What of you dad? What are his rules?
I don't know he was killed when I was 9, and as long as she's happy I don't want to lose her

Cuz she'll give me "the talk" lol the one thing I don't need


I don't know he was killed when I was 9, and as long as she's happy I don't want to lose her

I have a 6th grade daughter, and a 9th grade son. He's not ready to date, even though he's 15. You're what, 11, 12?

There's a reason why people tell kids that they're too young to date. It's because they are. How do we know? Because we were young once too, and now that we're older we know how little we knew back then.

I know that's not what you want to hear, and you know everything because you're in 6th grade an no adult knows more than you. That's part of being young too, thinking you know everything when you really don't know a thing.

The fact is, you're young. Too young. That's obvious by your question. You have a girlfriend you're too shy to ask out on a date! Come on dude! If she's your girlfriend you're dating, and you should be able to talk to her about everything and anything!

My mom doesn't give a what I do as long as I don't die

I'm sorry you think your mother cares so little about you.

As to rest of that claptrap, it just proves what I've said. You are spouting words that have no real meaning at your age. You will feel these feelings many times over the years. You haven't spent enough time with her to really understand these feelings. You are feeling what you want to feel, thinking that's what you are supposed to feel.

But you are nothing more than a child playing at being an adult.

Thank you for answering my and others many questions so patiently and respectfully. We all appreciate it. Sorry for your loss my friend. That maybe explains why your mom doesn't seem to care. Or you think she doesn't. Its very important for a young guy to never get carried away and move to fast before knowing what he is getting into.

I think for now you keep talking and learning until you have more knowledge of the best way to proceed. As I said, find out about boundaries of good behavior, and two things to never be afraid of, is the "talk" from your parents, or losing a friend by being YOURSELF.

Once you find out what the rules are of both her parents, and your mom, you may surprise yourself at the opportunities for you both to have good clean fun together. Having your parents behind you opens up a lot of possibilities like movies and roller skating all with a driver to boot. That's well worth listening to the "talk".

Sound like a good plan?

Guys listen I only want an answer to my question.. I'm 11 ill be 12 in 2 weeks... I grew up with out my dad for the last 3 years... I smoke weed I do stuff just to piss people off, but after I met her all that changed I haven't really felt the urge to smoke again I'm working at respecting people again... it might just sound like some kindergarten crush and what not, but this girl means every thing to me.. my little brother and her are the only reasons I haven't committed suicide yet.. just to tell you that maybe you guys will understand more.


Thank you for answering my and others many questions so patiently and respectfully. We all appreciate it. Sorry for your loss my friend. That maybe explains why your mom doesn't seem to care. Or you think she doesn't. Its very important for a young guy to never get carried away and move to fast before knowing what he is getting into.

I think for now you keep talking and learning until you have more knowledge of the best way to proceed. As I said, find out about boundaries of good behavior, and two things to never be afraid of, is the "talk" from your parents, or losing a friend by being YOURSELF.

Once you find out what the rules are of both her parents, and your mom, you may surprise yourself at the opportunities for you both to have good clean fun together. Having your parents behind you opens up a lot of possibilities like movies and roller skating all with a driver to boot. That's well worth listening to the "talk".

Sound like a good plan?
Look at my last post it should it explain some things

Guys listen I only want an answer to my question.
What I did at your age was hang out with other kids (and guys) in our (small town) church group. We did a supervised activity nearly every weekend -- bowling or miniature golf or swimming or a trip to Niagara Falls (I lived an hour away from it), and all kinds of other events, both indoors and outdoors. Is there a pre-teen/young teen group in your area, like with the Y or through a church or with your school? Are you in a rural area or small town or city? Can you walk to places or do you need a driver?

I didn't think you were an angel, just hurting and misguided. I think you want to do the right thing and that's what I want for you. I laid out what I thought was the best way for you to proceed, in an orderly manner, because there is no magic way to get what you want instantly, no strategy you can use tomorrow.

You have something good going, and it makes you better. I want you to be happy and succeed the right way. I think you do to. Just take your time and keep doing the right things, what's the rush? Just give it some thought.

I didn't think you were an angel, just hurting and misguided. I think you want to do the right thing and that's what I want for you. I laid out what I thought was the best way for you to proceed, in an orderly manner, because there is no magic way to get what you want instantly, no strategy you can use tomorrow.

You have something good going, and it makes you better. I want you to be happy and succeed the right way. I think you do to. Just take your time and keep doing the right things, what's the rush? Just give it some thought.
I don't know maybe the fact that she's in 8th and I'm in 6th she's going to high school next year and thanks for the advice

Guys listen I only want an answer to my question.. I'm 11 ill be 12 in 2 weeks... I grew up with out my dad for the last 3 years... I smoke weed I do stuff just to piss people off, but after I met her all that changed I haven't really felt the urge to smoke again I'm working at respecting people again... it might just sound like some kindergarten crush and what not, but this girl means every thing to me.. my little brother and her are the only reasons I haven't committed suicide yet.. just to tell you that maybe you guys will understand more.


Look at my last post it should it explain some things

Save me the sob story, that doesn't help answer your question. If you think you need a girl to make you stop doing drugs, you need more help than we can offer you. No one but you can make you stop destructive behavior. If you depend on someone else to do it for you, you're in for a lifetime of hurt.

I'm sorry that you lost your dad, I'm sorry that you seem to care so little about yourself at the age of 11 that you ruin your body by doing drugs, and consider suicide.

That has nothing to do with your question. If you want us to stick to answering the question, which we've done, but you haven't accepted, than stick to answers that aren't meant to get sympathy.

She's your girlfriend. Having a girlfriend means you're in a relationship, so asking her on a date isn't hard at all. That's what girlfriends and boyfriends do, they date. So just ask her what she's doing this weekend, and if she wants to see a movie, or go grab a bite to eat. If she really is your girlfriend, asking her on a date is not hard. That's the part of all of this that's baffling, and shows your age.

Good luck.

Save me the sob story, that doesn't help answer your question. If you think you need a girl to make you stop doing drugs, you need more help than we can offer you. No one but you can make you stop destructive behavior. If you depend on someone else to do it for you, you're in for a lifetime of hurt.

I'm sorry that you lost your dad, I'm sorry that you seem to care so little about yourself at the age of 11 that you ruin your body by doing drugs, and consider suicide.

That has nothing to do with your question. If you want us to stick to answering the question, which we've done, but you haven't accepted, than stick to answers that aren't meant to get sympathy.

She's your girlfriend. Having a girlfriend means you're in a relationship, so asking her on a date isn't hard at all. That's what girlfriends and boyfriends do, they date. So just ask her what she's doing this weekend, and if she wants to see a movie, or go grab a bite to eat. If she really is your girlfriend, asking her on a date is not hard. That's the part of all of this that's baffling, and shows your age.

Good luck.
It's not that I need a girl to make me stop doing drugs it's happiness that I need and that's all the feeling that I know some one cares about me, but thanks any way, could have went to a friend and got a better answer though this whole thing I'd just like life... Useless and please don't respond to this anymore it was pointless

It's not that I need a girl to make me stop doing drugs it's happiness that I need and that's all the feeling that I know some one cares about me, but thanks any way, could have went to a friend and got a better answer though this whole thing I'd just like life... Useless and please don't respond to this anymore it was pointless

You still don't get it. If she's your girlfriend than you're dating, so asking her to go out isn't brain surgery, because you should already be doing that, which is why you're girlfriend and boyfriend. So is she or isn't she your girlfriend? Doesn't sound like she is.

Don't tell me not to respond, you don't own this site, and you don't get to decide who replies or when the replies stop. That's another part of growing up, learning that the world doesn't revolve around you and what you want.

Ya, go ask your friends, I'm sure that a bunch of 11 and 12 year olds will have much better advice than people that have actually been there and done that. Oh, that's sarcasm by the way.

Good luck. If you actually want advice, and are willing to listen, come back. But don't waste our time asking questions when you're not willing to hear the truth.

You are still a kid - go play sports do something physical. Stop thinking about girls so much at your age. Those days will come soon enough, right now keep your mind on school studies and your friends. Good luck!

Please stop talking about suicide, my nephew did this and he was a few years older than you. It is NOT funny, and not cool so don't even use those words. If you feel that way, I seriously believe you'd better discuss this with your school counselor tomorrow when you get to school.

Also, doing things to 'piss people off' is so childish which brings me back to the fact that you are only 11 years old - - stay off the computer and get in to sports or something. Get a hobby. Don't sit and think about girls. Sometimes dating is more stressful then one can imagine and you do not sound mentally mature enough or stable by the postings you've made to even think about dating. When I was eleven, I was kept very busy.

Good Luck.

Guys listen I only want an answer to my question.. I'm 11 ill be 12 in 2 weeks... I grew up with out my dad for the last 3 years... I smoke weed I do stuff just to piss people off, but after I met her all that changed I haven't really felt the urge to smoke again I'm working at respecting people again... it might just sound like some kindergarten crush and what not, but this girl means every thing to me.. my little brother and her are the only reasons I haven't committed suicide yet.. just to tell you that maybe you guys will understand more.


First, we provide solutions here, not just answers to a specific question. Especially when that question reveals a deeper problem.

Second, what the above tells me is that there is something missing in your life and you are desperately looking for something to fill that gap. You changed, not because of this girl, but because you think this alleged relationship brings more meaning to your life. But then what is going to happen when she breaks up with you. And she will. When she goes to high school next year (if not sooner, middle school relationships have a life spam measured in weeks) she will meet someone more mature and gravitate to them. How will that affect your psyche?

You need professional help. PLEASE talk to a counselor at school. Print out this thread and show it to someone. You need to find out how to deal with a missing father, uncaring mother and the other issues that you are using drugs and other things to fill in your life.