Tuneking
Dec 2, 2013, 09:46 AM
My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 3 years. I'm 21 she's 20, we were really serious. Well the last 6 months we have been on and off fighting and arguing a lot and I think we both weren't trying hard anymore. I blamed her not trying and she blamed me.
Well around 6 weeks ago we had a kind of falling out. I'm still not sure exactly what happened. But we barely spoke or texted. From what I could tell we were on a break from each other to see what came of it and maybe it would make us stronger. Well I tried as hard as I could to win her back and it was starting to work. We were talking and going out together slowly. I was over at her house last week and she had her fb messages open, I shouldn't have but I wanted to see who she had been talking to.
Well long story short I found out from messages to her girl friend that she had been kissing her study partner at school and he was so hot can't wait to see him again etc... I was devastated only 2 weeks after we were on a break she's already kissing some other guy. And not showing any remorse? I instantly broke off what we had gotten back to, telling her I don't know how I could ever look at her the same way. In my eyes she cheated on me. She was hurt bad and couldn't believe I did that. She says we were broken up at the time and it just happened and she wishes she could take it back etc.. Saying she loves me and needs me in her life. Well after a few days completely apart and being all upset I was thinking about it. It was only a kiss, maybe I could put it behind me and get over it. Maybe it brought us closer.
Than I got to thinking and I asked her if she did more than kiss him... Well the answer was yes. And she said it almost in tears. But that just killed me, a kiss I could live with but more? Idk every time I close my eyes I see her with another guy and it kills me again and again. I've never been the type that had many gf's. I just wanted one good one, and I thought I had her. Part of me still thinks I do. She's devastated saying she regrets her decision and needs me in her life. And still loves me.
I'm torn. Idk what the heck to think or do. Am I making this bigger than it is? Or should I be worried that it happened once it may happen again.
Well around 6 weeks ago we had a kind of falling out. I'm still not sure exactly what happened. But we barely spoke or texted. From what I could tell we were on a break from each other to see what came of it and maybe it would make us stronger. Well I tried as hard as I could to win her back and it was starting to work. We were talking and going out together slowly. I was over at her house last week and she had her fb messages open, I shouldn't have but I wanted to see who she had been talking to.
Well long story short I found out from messages to her girl friend that she had been kissing her study partner at school and he was so hot can't wait to see him again etc... I was devastated only 2 weeks after we were on a break she's already kissing some other guy. And not showing any remorse? I instantly broke off what we had gotten back to, telling her I don't know how I could ever look at her the same way. In my eyes she cheated on me. She was hurt bad and couldn't believe I did that. She says we were broken up at the time and it just happened and she wishes she could take it back etc.. Saying she loves me and needs me in her life. Well after a few days completely apart and being all upset I was thinking about it. It was only a kiss, maybe I could put it behind me and get over it. Maybe it brought us closer.
Than I got to thinking and I asked her if she did more than kiss him... Well the answer was yes. And she said it almost in tears. But that just killed me, a kiss I could live with but more? Idk every time I close my eyes I see her with another guy and it kills me again and again. I've never been the type that had many gf's. I just wanted one good one, and I thought I had her. Part of me still thinks I do. She's devastated saying she regrets her decision and needs me in her life. And still loves me.
I'm torn. Idk what the heck to think or do. Am I making this bigger than it is? Or should I be worried that it happened once it may happen again.