I have a 21 yr. who has done much much harm to me. EMS was out just 2 days ago and sheriff dept. I was on floor abused for 2nd time that week. My husband does not live here and could care less.

Every time she starts pushing shuffing, breaking things etc I call my husband begging for help from him. He never comes. If I can get to a phone which she normally cuts house phone lines and breaks my cell so I cannot call for help. EMS was here last and put one phone back together while helping me.

My husband comes in very rarely and I have to deal with a mentally deranged child. No one can help immediately. By law you cannot kick them out, (so I have been told) even at age 21. I am scared to death. We live in SC and this child is a college grad. But if my husband does not sign for her to leave, even though he's not here, 80%, I cannot get her out. I will probably be dead soon. She sees a Dr. for her mental illness but I am not being protected.I need help also.

I am begging for help.

Have her arrested and press charges. Why haven't you done that? Why hasn't she been arrested already?

That's a good point. A 21 year old college graduate is quite capable of understanding handcuffs, assault charges, and consequences.

What mental health issues does she have, and how long has this gone on between the two of you. Has she been assessed by a Psychiatrist, and diagnosed? Is she supposed to be taking medication? Are there alcohol and drug problems with her?

Pressing charges will help. She will be forced to face what she has done, and you will be better prepared if you have a plan.

By that I mean, seek help in finding help for yourself, in how to deal with her. Maybe a women's shelter (who deal with all problems associated with an abuser), and seek advice on how to protect yourself, legally and otherwise. Your family Doctor may have some ideas and guidance for you as well.

I am Canadian, and don't know the insides of mental health laws there. I too had this same problem, and was directed by the police to have her issued a special order, by a Judge, to have her involuntarily committed for a period of 48 hours. This I did, and it was enough time to have her evaluated, by a Psychiatrist, and put back on track.

I have some hope for your daughter, because she has managed to reach a point in her life by being disciplined enough to get a degree, so she is also disciplined enough to manage her problems, with help.

You obviously cannot count on your husband, so take him out of the picture, and learn, through whatever resources are available to you there as I mentioned, how to protect yourself, and what options are available for you in order to be safe.

I agree that you have to have her arrested. The court will decide where she goes.
(I'd stop calling your husband. That probably just adds to her anger, knowing it's futile.)

If husband will not help, file for divorce, and have daughter arrested.

Just call police and file changes