Hello everyone, I have been seeing this guy since early September. He is 28, and everything I've ever wanted in a man. I've never had feelings like this for anyone, to the point where I think about him day and night. Ever since we started "dating", we've spent every weekend together. He took me to a football game, and we've done a lot of things together. I've also met all his friends and he's met all of mine.

However, lately he has not been as expressive about his emotions as he used to be, and I've noticed he only says really romantic things when he's been drinking. For example, about a month ago he called me at 2am to tell me he misses me and that "maybe we've met each others' match". But the thing is he's never officially asked me to be his girlfriend. I brought this up a couple weeks back after we were both out on a Friday night, and his response was "be quiet, you know you're my girlfriend." I accepted it as a fair response and didn't bring it up again. But lately, I've done nothing else but think about him, and drive myself crazy over analyzing everything he says.

Last night I slept over his house and left this morning have not heard from him since and it was his day off. Also, he takes awhile to text me back throughout the day and sometimes doesn't say goodnight to me. Does this mean I haven't crossed his mind? Am I overanalyzing or expecting too much? Or does he really like me? I have been miserable wondering how he really feels all the time and I don't want to seem clingy by asking him or telling him how much I miss him all the time, but it is honestly driving me crazy. I worry that he might be losing interest, or that it's just me being paranoid.

Why do I feel this way? It's like I know I have him in my life but I'm constantly worried he may not feel the same. I'm sorry this is long, but any advice would be greatly appreciated, and thank you for taking the time to read this!

Are you two exclusive, have you even talked about this?
You have been seeing each other for what a couple on months. He has all the benefits of a boyfriend but he does not really have to be one.
Tell him you need to have a conversation about your relationship, that you need to know where it is. He will either tell you or he won't, then you will know.

Are you two exclusive, have you even talked about this?
You have been seeing each other for what a couple on months. He has all the benefits of a boyfriend but he does not really have to be one.
Tell him you need to have a conversation about your relationship, that you need to know where it is. He will either tell you or he won't, then you will know.
Homegirl 50, Thanks for your response... we established that we are only seeing each other... and the only time he's really said anything about me being his girlfriend was that night when he was drinking... but you're probably right I just didn't know if bringing up the conversation would make him think I'm giving him an ultimatum

I can't tell if you are too needy or if he is totally lacking in communication.
Women who text all day and want constant assurances of love make me shudder, but so do men who will sleep with someone and show no tenderness the bulk of the time.

But it's been 3 months, and I agree that you need to know where this relationship is going. I don't see why you use the word ultimatum, however. You got yourself into this, and continue to have sex with him, so you are half the equation. I'd be inclined to just tell him that you are breaking it off because it's going nowhere. You can 'negotiate' with someone who isn't expressive, but that's different from trying to make someone care who doesn't.

You're sleeping with guy, you ought to be able to talk to him, know where you stand with him for your own peace of mind. How you feel would be more important at this point. He treats you casually, you're the one in the dark.