The last 2 years my husband has become very abusive. Married 7 years ago he promised we would amalgamate our homes. Once the ring was on my finger, no not true. 2nd marriage and in our 70's, moved into his home. I had no say in the home at all, it was his. The other week he said, "I know you have nippy fingers". What on earth was he on about? We went green bowling, he upset everyone there, so no more bowling. He thinks truthfully he is so right. His friend's wife just heard she had cancer, but he tells his friend off, as he thinks he told me about my husband cuddling another woman, so has a go at his friend. I think he should apologize, no way would he. He said he don't care she has cancer. He says what he thinks but won't abide anyone saying anything to him. He thinks he is so right all the time, has no care what he says to me or anyone else.

I move back to my home, for a while he rings me to shout "I am not leaving you anything at all, I am leaving it all to whoever". He now has disappeared. Where?? As I told him the truth, he didn't like that one bit, refused to answer phone, and now I believe he's gone away. He has no friends left and he has no family, yet I feel sorry for what he has done himself, but he just does not see it that way. He doesn't wonder at all why he has no friends. They have told me on several occasions, leave him, he a nasty man yet I feel sorry for him.

I ask myself WHY do I?

I am very happy to know that you still had your own home to move back to. Please make sure to change the locks.

It is next to impossible, if not impossible, to change any person, who does not want to change. For whatever reason, your husband refuses to see how his behavior affects others, particularly you.

That he has become abusive, and likely unpredictable, you have no way of knowing when the next about is about to happen.

My advice to you is to stay where you are, don't allow him into your life, and enjoy your freedom.