So, it all started back in April when I met this guy and immediately had this spark with him, but that night it only turned into a hookup, one that lasted forever, but a hookup nonetheless. A couple days later I went back to his room to pick up the couple things I had accidentally left, my jacket, an earring, and my hair clip, which I didn't even know for sure if the earring or hair clip were there or what not, but when I arrived (with my two best friends) and asked about the earring and hair clip he said he had already found them and put them in the zip-up pocket of my jacket. I didn't expect that. But anyway, a week or so went by, and when I saw him and his friends at one of the dining halls the first time I walked by he just looked at me (this is where it starts), but the second time he had all of his friends turn and look at me. I don't know why. Anyway, nothing much happened after that for awhile, until the last day of the semester when I regretfully sent him a drunk-text, but he responded positively, surprisingly. But summer was here, and we didn't talk all summer, though we hadn't much previously, and I ended up dating someone that lasted until this past September. But once we arrived back at college I saw him at my friend's party the second night, and almost every night for the next week. But the next time I saw him, which was at his apartment the following evening, he turned on the music I had put on when we had our hookup right after he saw me there.

Then, we still didn't talk, but before we all left his apartment my friend made me talk to him (another beginning of recurring circumstances), and it went okay. From here, every other night I went out, including weekends all the way until late September (but I will get to this), he would show up to where I was at and would always just look at me, but wouldn't ever say anything. During a day party, when I first arrived, he was obviously very intoxicated, but he came up to me immediately and I guess like ran his hand down my arm and said hey, but just walked inside the house after that. But every time I was at a party he would show up, but my friend was trying to talk to him "for me" (she liked to meddle in things like this, regardless of my objections) but he would still keep looking at me while he talked to her, even though I wasn't even around them. But when I was standing there, kind of in the conversation, he kept leaning in very close to my face when he was talking to me.

Additionally, I was friends with some of his roommates, so a lot of nights we would go back to their apartment, and the first night he sat right next to me but would barely talk, but kept looking back at me. He gradually started to talk more around me, but I would talk to his roommates and such, until he and I eventually had a few conversations, first about him stealing my kitten. But even when he wasn't talking directly to me, he would always look at me when talking and smile. Eventually, when I was intoxicated, I asked one of my friends who was also his roommate and friend what was the deal. He told me that he liked me but was awkward and shy, which is what I had heard from a few other people who are mutual acquaintances/ friends.

Now, at this time I was still dating the guy from the summer, and told my/his friend this, and from here on out the guy changed. He started to flirt with my friend who had been talking to him, but he still continued to look at me all the time. Even when I see him on campus he just stares at me and I don't know why. But once they kissed one time and I went off on my friend and completely cut off all the people I had been friends with (not for just this reason at all). But, the staring makes me uncomfortable and I'm still very confused about this whole situation.

What has been driving me crazy is, given the past experiences, did he ever like me? Does he still, since he continues to stare at me whenever he sees me (other people have noticed)? Also, why does he just stare at me? Please help, I'm going nuts from being so confused.

Why does he have to talk to you since you gave it up so easily and quickly? You are an acquaintance with benefits basically. Expect shallow encounters when you hookup with someone like that. There won't be romance or anything meaningful.

Why does he have to talk to you since you gave it up so easily and quickly? You are an acquaintance with benefits basically. Expect shallow encounters when you hookup with someone like that. There won't be romance or anything meaningful.

He doesn't have to talk to me at all, but he shouldn't just stare at me all the time either, especially to the extent that other people have pointed it out to me. And I understand about the "giving it up" situation, however, I had never had a one night stand ever before and, therefore, did not expect all of this to happen. I assumed that what he and I "had" was a one time only thing and didn't expect anything afterwards, including the weirdness. I didn't think he and I knew each other or anything like that, which is why I hooked up with him, anyway.

All the weirdness comes with hooking up for brief encounters. Especially when a bunch of outsiders get involved as this seems a small circle of folks all up in everybody's personal business. Room mates, and friends who all know of each other. And party around the consumption of alcohol. Nothing like a few drinks to loosen up inhibitions or go with the flow without much thought just feelings.

Its human nature to talk with the friends you shared drinks and bodies with, and even think people are staring at you, and talking about you, because they are. You gave up your right to the comfort of privacy, when you gave up your discretion. Now you are subject to everyone's drama and input, opinion,and spin, AND meddling in your business.

But that's what happens when you so publicly hook up, after a few drinks and give in to the warm fuzzy lust of the moment. A hook up in your word and the aftermath of that hook up DRAMA. Lol, don't freak out because you got a boyfriend, and he moved his attention to a more available friend of yours, it's just another hook up.

Means no more than your hook up. That's all hookups are between strangers and party/drinking buddies are. You want more you talk first. SOBER.

He was horny. You were easy. End of story.

He was horny. You were easy. End of story.

HA. OFF. ALL OF YOU. No one so far that has replied has had any concept of what has actually gone on. Even that long description doesn't cover all of it. But thank you SO MUCH for being a douche bag and calling me easy, when I know for a fact I am not.

HA. OFF. ALL OF YOU. No one so far that has replied has had any concept of what has actually gone on. Even that long description doesn't cover all of it. But thank you SO MUCH for being a douche bag and calling me easy, when I know for a fact I am not.

We can only go on the information you gave us. Here's my take and really I have no clue if I am correct.

When you wrote your piece it almost sounded like you were okay with the starring and that it gave you some hope that the relationship would move forward. Then you replied to someone that "didn't expect anything afterwards, including the weirdness." That was confusing to the reader. People have quirks, weirdnesses, and traits that make us all different. He likes sex but doesn't communicate well. That makes him the person he is. It doesn't sound all that strange to me.

As far as yelling at us and getting pissy for what we said, you were most definitely easy for him in this situation. You can't deny that. I don't think anyone assumed that in all your interactions with men that you are a whore, slut, or otherwise. We were commenting on this situation. I myself have been easy in more than one situation and that is okay because nobody was hurt and no expectations were had. So lighten up. Telling you not to expect a long lasting relationship after a fling is not a bad thing.