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cep822
Nov 11, 2013, 01:17 PM
I am located in Ohio, southwestern.
I have previously posted about contempt for unpaid child support.

Now I am asking advice for modifying visits.

Right now I have sole physical and sole legal custody of my son, age 2.
His father has a set schedule of visitation, every Wednesday night and every other weekend, and split holidays.

My son was diagnosed in March with severe reactive eczema, and at the time was prescribed steroid creams and a bathing routine/outdoor exposure limits to control it.

In recent months, his eczema has gotten worse, in no small part because of his father's refusal to adhere to his bathing and exposure guidelines.

I took my son back to the pediatric dermatologist as the condition escalated. His father was present at the dermatology appointment (last Friday). After I expressed my concerns to the dermatologist, who agreed his condition is worsening, she put our son on a new medicine that is not a steroid (as the steroids can atrophy his skin if used for a prolonged time). He made no objections to the new medication at that time.

I now have 11 separate documented incidents of my son returning from his father's with severe eczema breakouts. At one point, it was like a collar radiating down from his neck.

The breaking point for me is that now, he is not only refusing to limit our son's outdoor exposure and follow his bathing routine, he is now refusing to use the new medicine prescribed for our son. He says it is "bad stuff" and will not apply it as we were instructed.

About 65% of the time, our son comes back from visits with his father with a breakout in varying degrees of severity. I have photographed it every time and it has necessitated a doctor's visit three times now.

My question is, what chance do I have of modifying visits? He already has what would probably be considered the "minimum" and I don't know if it is enough for supervised... just looking for opinions. Thanks!

cdad
Nov 11, 2013, 01:36 PM
You could try. At a minimum he can explain to a judge why he thinks the medicine is so bad and what alternative he is giving the child. If he has no plans and the judge sees it then they may allow further visitation with restrictions. There is no sense in making the child uncomfortable every time. If it needs to be stopped the judge will decide.

cep822
Nov 11, 2013, 01:47 PM
It's just come to a point where it's a question of, does the money I will have to spend on my attorney, appearances, missed work etc make this worth pursuing?

He still has an outstanding CS debt of $12,000. He recently made a $900 payment just in time to stay automatic enforcement (he always manages to do that). It is no longer worth my time with what I am paid at my job to pursue contempt myself on that matter.

Since he is not paying his CS really at all, I just don't want to waste money for nothing, or worse, a modification in his favor for some reason... you just never know with our judicial system. Of course it is worth any effort at all if it means my son can stop itching himself to bleeding every other weekend.