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trf3131
Nov 2, 2013, 04:28 PM
My son is fourteen months old and his father wants nothing to do with him.. how does he go about sign his rights over? We live in southern Illinois. Appreciate all of your help!

Wondergirl
Nov 2, 2013, 04:46 PM
He can't "sign his rights over" unless your current husband wants to adopt the child.

There is a sticky at the top of this board that may help answer your question. (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/family-law/signing-over-rights-read-first-116098.html) Plus, we have legal experts on site who are offline right now, but who will be online during the next 24 hours and will tackle your question. Please check back now and then.

trf3131
Nov 2, 2013, 04:51 PM
I don't have a husband.. so that's why I asked.. he doesn't want anything to do with his son.. he told us to burn in hell and get all the papers ready.. so I don't know what to do! :(

ScottGem
Nov 2, 2013, 04:53 PM
There is this myth that a parent can just sign away their rights. Buts it is just a myth. As the sticky you were linked to explains, its won't happen.

Since he wants nothing to do with your son, what do you think you will gain by having his rights terminated if it were possible? Why haven't you gone after him for child support. Your son is entitled to that financial support.

So he is the one telling you to get the papers ready? So you tell him there are no papers to get ready. That he helped conceive this child. That if he wants to not see the child or be a father to him, that's his choice. But he is responsible for supporting the child and you will be going to the courts to do so. But I would not tell him this in person. That's what you do.

Wondergirl
Nov 2, 2013, 04:54 PM
I don't have a husband.. so that's why I asked.. he doesn't want anything to do with his son.. he told us to burn in hell and get all the papers ready.. so I don't know what to do! :(
As far as I know, there aren't any papers. He's legally liable to pay child support. A member familiar with this situation will eventually come online to answer your questions much better than I can.

Is he definitely the father? Was a DNA test done?

trf3131
Nov 2, 2013, 04:55 PM
I have tried.. he doesn't have a job so he can't pay..

ScottGem
Nov 2, 2013, 05:00 PM
I have tried.. he doesn't have a job so he can't pay..

What have you tried? Have you gone to court? Doesn't matter that he doesn't have a job. You still get it on record that he owes support. At some point he will get a job and then you can collect.

Wondergirl
Nov 2, 2013, 05:03 PM
Here's a website for Illinois:

Illinois Legal Aid | Getting Child Support (http://www.illinoislegalaid.org/index.cfm?fuseaction=home.dsp_content&contentID=1767&zipcode=61832&criteria=child%20support&print=yes)

trf3131
Nov 2, 2013, 05:06 PM
He is the father, no questions asked! I think I'll go back to the child support office and get something done!