So this is my first year at the school, and I've moved with a couple of my old friends. They had already known about who my crush is, and I'm very infatuated by him, so I can't keep my mouth shut. Naturally, like the average 16-year-old, I talk about him a lot, so when people I'm not so-close with approach my friends and I when we're talking about him, they ask what we're talking about, and my friends drop so many hints, to the point where I'd feel rude not to tell them about it. I think he likes me back. Or at least I so hope he does.

He's exceptionally nice to me, he occasionally carries my bag for me, asks me to sit next to him in classes, ask me to walk with him to class, poke me, make fun of the way I talk, explains stuff to me that I don't understand. One of our mutual friends told me that he likes me, but he thinks I'm out of his league, and that's why he didn't ask me out yet. Later, I find out that there might be something still going on with his ex-girlfriend, who repeatedly stated that she regrets absolutely nothing more than dating him. I ask our mutual friend and he confirms that there is absolutely something going on between the two of them, but she's a complete butt to him.) It really doesn't bother me a lot of people know about my crush on him, I honestly don't care what people would say if they found out about my crush.

He's a wonderful guy, and it's very evident why anyone would/might like him. But here's what happened, the other day, a "clique" other than mine, approach one of my close friends, and kept on investigating, asking her who do I like, and whether it's him, and they said that "it's obvious I have a crush on him, I'm very friendly with him, and almost always at the same places he classes and halls he hangs out at.". Now my problem here is whether I do come off as too pursuing/interested, or somebody told them about the fact that I may have a crush on him.

Then later today, my best friend comes up to me, and tells me that one of his ex's friends asked her to tell me to back off from him, and that I am so desperate, when really, I hardly ever initiate a conversation, he usually does. And we share half our classes, so that's why we hang out at the same places.

Was it wrong that I've told a lot of people? I think I like him, should I just build a bridge, and get over it? What do you think is best for me to do? I know that this may make him sound like a total a-hole, but he really isn't. He's pretty oblivious, careless, and a little goofy.

Oh dear, this is all so mind-numbing, sorry. I know it's a big deal to you, but it really really REALLY isn't. You'll be fine. He likes you. There are always people who get jealous or who just like to cause trouble. Part of being a teen is caring what each single stupid thing each single person says. Try not to!
Was it wrong that I've told a lot of people? - There's no right or wrong about that.
I think I like him, should I just build a bridge, and get over it? - I have no idea what that means, except for getting over it.
What do you think is best for me to do? - Keep being yourself, and friendly to him and your friends, and politely friendly to your enemies, if you even have any.

Did he say this or did someone tell you he did?
You are doing what kids your age do and so is he. It matters not one way or the other. He either like you or he doesn't. If he likes you enough he will, if he doesn't he won't.

Oh dear, this is all so mind-numbing, sorry. I know it's a big deal to you, but it really really REALLY isn't. You'll be fine. He likes you. There are always people who get jealous or who just like to cause trouble. Part of being a teen is caring what each single stupid thing each single person says. Try not to!
Was it wrong that I've told a lot of people? - There's no right or wrong about that.
I think I like him, should I just build a bridge, and get over it? - I have no idea what that means, except for getting over it.
What do you think is best for me to do? - Keep being yourself, and friendly to him and your friends, and politely friendly to your enemies, if you even have any.
It really wasn't that much of a big deal, to be honest, until everyone started acting shady about it, as if I've committed a federal felony by having a crush on him. The thing is, they're so double-standard, they'll tell me they like me to my face, and talk trash about me behind my back. I'm always very patient, and try to be compassionate, and be nice and good friend to anyone, and not just them. But then again, I do understand that not everyone is going to like me. I just meant get over him. And will do. Thank you so much for your time, and advice. I really appreciate it!


Did he say this or did someone tell you he did?
You are doing what kids your age do and so is he. It matters not one way or the other. He either like you or he doesn't. If he likes you enough he will, if he doesn't he won't.

He didn't, no. Mutual friends. "You are doing what kids your age do", care to elaborate? And that's very true and accurate. Thank you for taking the time to answer. I really appreciate it!

All of this going on is typical with kids your age. Does he like me, my friends are dropping hints, he hasn't asked me out... it's all age related and not that serious. I know it is to you right now, but in the long run, it's not.

All of this going on is typical with kids your age. Does he like me, my friends are dropping hints, he hasn't asked me out... it's all age related and not that serious. I know it is to you right now, but in the long run, it's not.
That is very probable, but I really like to live in the moment, rather than dwell on the past, and/or, daydream of the future; now is the only time we have, and the only time we have any control over.

I understand what you're saying, but it does not help to get all upset over drama. If you want to have control, go up to the guy and talk to him, tell him how you feel, then you will know for sure, or stop listening to what these other kids say. If you didn't hear it with your ears, pay no attention to it.

I understand what you're saying, but it does not help to get all upset over drama. If you want to have control, go up to the guy and talk to him, tell him how you feel, then you will know for sure, or stop listening to what these other kids say. If you didn't hear it with your ears, pay no attention to it.
You're right. I don't really like being in control, and I'm too shy (and scared of getting rejected). Plus, you said it yourself, if he likes me enough, he himself will ask me out. "If you didn't hear it with your ears, pay no attention to it" is so true, this is definitely something that will always linger in the back of my mind. Thank you so much for your advice!

When you listen to others, you get about 1/2 the truth and sometimes none. The only way to know the truth is to talk to the person directly. If you are too shy, in time, he may date others, thinking you just ignore him.

I can dig living in the moment, but I think you are about to learn to not let everyone know your personal business between you and another, especially a likeable oblivious kind of goofy guy you like. Things can develop better and more naturally without every one else's drama, gossip, opinion, plotting, or jealousy.

Its not rude to keep your business to yourself. Just prudent. It may even keep your crush from thinking you would tell everyone what goes on between you because how can he not hear the rumors, and gossip, and get caught up in all that drama. I know you may not care about all that, but why make it harder for yourself, or for him?

When you listen to others, you get about 1/2 the truth and sometimes none. The only way to know the truth is to talk to the person directly. If you are too shy, in time, he may date others, thinking you just ignore him.

That's very accurate. I'm only very shy because I get very nervous around him, but I'm becoming more and more comfortable around him each day- baby steps, though. I guess I'll continue to treat him the same way, keeping in mind that not everything everyone says is the complete truth, and if he really likes me, he'll ask me out, eventually. If he doesn't, there are 3.5 billion men out there. Thanks for your advice! I really appreciate it.


I can dig living in the moment, but I think you are about to learn to not let everyone know your personal business between you and another, especially a likeable oblivious kind of goofy guy you like. Things can develop better and more naturally without every one else's drama, gossip, opinion, plotting, or jealousy.

Its not rude to keep your business to yourself. Just prudent. It may even keep your crush from thinking you would tell everyone what goes on between you because how can he not hear the rumors, and gossip, and get caught up in all that drama. I know you may not care about all that, but why make it harder for yourself, or for him?
I hope I don't have to learn it the hard way! I will try my absolute best to keep my mouth shut, because I don't see my big mouth leading me anywhere good. I couldn't have said that better myself.

You're a hundred and one percent right. Thank you so very much for your advice. I really appreciate it!