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TheJose993
Oct 21, 2013, 09:36 PM
I'm in high school and, like it says above, I'm shy, nerdy and weird. I'm weird because... Well:
1. It helps with my shyness.
2. I only know nerdy jokes that only my friends would get.

I need help. I'm afraid that I've gone the wrong way. That nerdy and weird side of me is just me having some fun. I'm actually a romantic and I'm trying to find a girl to ask out but I haven't found any girl that's not "modern" looking, sweet, actually fun to hang out with and cute. Not hot. Cute. I'm not looking for someone online. Just some help on how a shy guy like me can get girls to show me who they are so that I can finally chose the girl I want to show my romantic side to. What do I do?

joypulv
Oct 22, 2013, 06:10 AM
Shy, nerdy, and weird is actually attractive to a lot of us. That's the type of guy I fell for a million years ago. Don't worry about it. Don't try too hard to act a certain way either. All it takes is being friendly, saying nice things, compliments when they are genuine, and showing interest in the person instead of trying to 'present' yourself. Don't try to be someone. Find out about her first, and that's the best way to be liked.

PS: When you find that you like a girl, she will magically transform into 'cute.' It's an amazing little trick Mother Nature slipped into our chemicals of love.

Oliver2011
Oct 22, 2013, 07:21 AM
"That nerdy and weird side of me is just me having some fun."

I don't see the issue here. The statement above says it all. There is nothing wrong with having fun. But make sure you can laugh at yourself because people like to be around fun people who can laugh at themselves (except for one Misery Board on here - author's note).

Learn how to talk to people, involve them in your conversation, and your shyness will wilt away. My teachers definitely thought I talked too much in class. So practice talking to people and then practice talking to girls. Life is about learning so continue to learn.

talaniman
Oct 22, 2013, 11:04 AM
Relax. Making a list of desired qualities to be with someone is a flawed way to have romance. Throw away the list of qualifications and see who you have the most fun with as you get to know them.

Talaniman Rule - Date them ALL! Short fat skinny or tall. Blind, cripple, or crazy!

Homegirl 50
Oct 22, 2013, 02:34 PM
I need help. I'm afraid that I've gone the wrong way. That nerdy and weird side of me is just me having some fun. I'm actually a romantic
Why don't you just relax and try being yourself. You will attract girls who like the real you.