I broke up with this guy 2 weeks ago. We were dating for two months but he didn't ask me to be his girlfriend. Two days after, I told him it was a mistake and told him how much I want him back. I asked to meet up with him and he said he was busy and couldn't. I told him that we need to talk about it and he said " we will make arrangements". He said he wants some time off, so I let him be.

He messaged me a week after asking how I was doing and I told him I was good and I did not talk about us. He started answering me with just one word answers. Every time he messages me first and just gives me straight up answers. When I do message him, he gets all critical to me and kind of mean. What is going on with him?

I haven't even brought up the conversation about our breakup ever since he started msging me so I wouldn't annoy him. He msged me, yet he acted as if I am annoying!

Please find somebody that loves you for who you are. He clearly does not. Be patient, pray about it and above all, be yourself. You should be a treasure to your man... this right man will come along. There are guys out there who would love to have somebody like you who is thoughtful and considerate. Don't sell yourself short.

As a date maybe, as a girlfriend... NO! How old are you both?

If he is acting as if you are annoying him, he does not want you as a girl friend. I'd leave him alone. If he wants you he will explain his silly behavior.

As a date maybe, as a girlfriend... NO! How old are you both?

Sad thing is, I am 23 and he is 24
Yet, he is acting so immature. I know I've hurt him by breaking up with him, however, I have apologised repeatedly and told him I wanted him back. I just do not understand him.

When you broke up with him, you probably hurt him and now he's playing games with you. Or maybe he figured you have issues since you broke up with him then changed your mind 2 days later....he felt like some sort of yo-yo. This isn't going to work out. Forget about him and move on.

You could have stopped dating since you weren't in a relationship, you could have talked instead of playing the break up game.

Invite him to lunch, your treat. Have fun and talk while you eat. Expect nothing except he may reciprocate with asking YOU out, to talk, and have fun. That's dating. That boyfriend/girlfriend stuff is for AFTER you get to know each other and ready for official commitment to be exclusive and learn more. He isn't ready for that and you dumped him(?).

A couple that can't have fun in the dating stage will never work.

Not asking you to be his girlfriend was a reason to "break up"? PHHTTTTTTTTT!

Are you saying you ended the relationship because after 2 months he had not asked you be be his girl friend?

Are you saying you ended the relationship because after 2 months he had not asked you be be his girl friend?

Lol no
I ended it because we were not communicating and we had some other problems as well that I felt were not going to be solved. But I did miss him after which is why I asked him.back.

NO communications, NO relationship.

NO communications, NO relationship.

I have spoken to him about it and here's the deal.
When I met him, I knew he was planning to look for a job abroad because he wanted ro see the world, but it was uncertain. So, I asked him what seems to be the problem, and he said that he is looking for a job abroad and that he has his mind set up on leaving.
He also told me that he was a bit depressed and is not in the mood to talk to anyone and not only me. That he doesn't intend to be mean with me, but its just the stress.
So, the whole problem is that he is worried about how upset I would be with him leaving and all, so he was kind of keeping his distance from me, but at the same time he did want to talk to me.
I honestly do not know what to do, he continued on the same "dry" messages today and yesterday still and it does annoy me and even hurts my feelings a bit to have him distancing himself from me, yet messages me every once in a while.
I do have deep feelings for him and even think I'm falling from him . However, I gathered that he does not feel the same and he also said that if we got back now together it would be temporary as he would be leaving soon.so he can not be with me on the long term.
Please advise me :(

Your solution is VERY simple, tell him to leave you alone so YOU can start to heal from this disappointment. Continued contact is only dragging out the misery, and delaying the inevitable.

Your solution is VERY simple, tell him to leave you alone so YOU can start to heal from this disappointment. Continued contact is only dragging out the misery, and delaying the inevitable.

The reason I'm still holding on to him, is I keep telling myself that he might fall in love with me. That if I end this now, I will never know what could have been , etc.
What do I tell myself to easen those feelings?
I know I sound so silly, but it's like I have found the perfect man for me, and now our circumstances got in the way! :(

Stop lying to yourself and filling your head with false hope. Tell yourself to LET GO!!

Reality, circumstances, or just bad timing, doesn't matter, fact is its not going to work. Make a choice, let go or be STUCK.

Is this the guy who is going away in a couple of months? You are not communicating well and there are problems anyway. I doubt that he will fall in love with you because he knows he going away and he has already told you his feelings.
It's only been two months, leave the guy alone. He's not the only one in the world. You are sounding pretty desperate

Is this the guy who is going away in a couple of months? You are not communicating well and there are problems anyway. I doubt that he will fall in love with you because he knows he going away and he has already told you his feelings.
It's only been two months, leave the guy alone. He's not the only one in the world. You are sounding pretty desperate

I will let go. He has stopped contacting me anyway, so there is nothing left to do I'm sure.
I just have a question. Do you think that had he wanted things to work out with me, he would have hold on to me?
He is acting as if he is never coming back even though he is American too!
And I keep thinking, had he seen me in his future, he would have tried to stay with me?
What do you think?

If he had strong feeling for you, he would have found a way for you two. He didn't. You guys had not known each other that long and he was not looking for a future with you.
Let it go.

If he had strong feeling for you, he would have found a way for you two. He didn't. You guys had not known each other that long and he was not looking for a future with you.
Let it go.

In all honesty, I don't even think I like him anymore.
The fact he kept on being mean and critical to me just turned me off and pushed me away.
I just alwaya get worried every time I break up with someone that maybe that someone was the "one" and I've let him go!
:/

Stop lying to yourself and filling your head with false hope. Tell yourself to LET GO!!

Reality, circumstances, or just bad timing, doesn't matter, fact is its not going to work. Make a choice, let go or be STUCK.

Update: last time we had spoken, we have agreed on meeting to see what we should do next.
Has been 13 days and I haven't heard from him, so I decided to message him last night.
He didn't bring up the topic of meeting, so I bought it up and told him that I was waiting for him to confirm it.
All he said was "I know its my fault and I should have msged you by now"
So I told him" it's ok, dont worry about it, I do miss talking to u"
He then said "oh really?" And I said "yes"
And he hasn't replied afterwards
What do you think? Do tou think I should also delete him from Facebook and Twitter and all?or would it be giving him too much attention?
I am now hurt because I feel as though I have invested my emotions and time into someone who is not much into me nor does he like me as he told me.

Delete him and don't contact him. He has moved on and so should you.
Next time don't put your all into someone after only 2 months. This is a learning about each other time.

Delete him and don't contact him. He has moved on and so should you.
Next time don't put your all into someone after only 2 months. This is a learning about each other time.

I keep thinking to myself, what if he regrets it and troes to ament things but it would be too late as I would have deleted him which would make matters worse!
I tried a lot to fix things between us, I just don't want to look back and wish I did anything more. As stupid as that sounds :(

If this guy wanted to reach you he would find a way. He has not contacted you even after you texted him. Let it go. Would have, should have, could have, is siily. You tried it didn' work. Leave it alone and move on. How much more time are you willing to waste in a guy who walked away from you and you only dated 2months?

I am now hurt because I feel as though I have invested my emotions and time into someone who is not much into me nor does he like me as he told me.

You are NOT a priority in his life, as you have made him in yours.


I keep thinking to myself, what if he regrets it and troes to ament things but it would be too late as I would have deleted him which would make matters worse!
I tried a lot to fix things between us, I just don't want to look back and wish I did anything more. As stupid as that sounds :(

Live your own life without him, and enjoy it, no telling what will happen in the future, but its not very emotionally healthy to force something another doesn't seem to want, or holding on to false hope that another will have a change of heart, no matter how bad you want them too.

Let go of this and heal from the disappointment, and rejection, and keep your dignity and self respect.

You are NOT a priority in his life, as you have made him in yours.



Live your own life without him, and enjoy it, no telling what will happen in the future, but its not very emotionally healthy to force something another doesn't seem to want, or holding on to false hope that another will have a change of heart, no matter how bad you want them too.

Let go of this and heal from the disappointment, and rejection, and keep your dignity and self respect.

Thank you.
So is better instead of deleting him to just avoid his page on Facebook? Rather than having that negativity that comes with deleting him?
What do you think is the right thing to do

I would delete him and stop playing with my will power or emotions. Why sabotage your own well being chasing and hoping for a guy that's living life just great without you?

Shouldn't you be living great without him? Start today and heal, so you too can pursue your own happiness. Sometimes to get beyond bad situations, you have to completely give up on them.

I would delete him and stop playing with my will power or emotions. Why sabotage your own well being chasing and hoping for a guy that's living life just great without you?

Shouldn't you be living great without him? Start today and heal, so you too can pursue your own happiness. Sometimes to get beyond bad situations, you have to completely give up on them.

Im just so scared of regretting it!

Get over your FEAR!

Get over your FEAR!

I did just delete him. I feel horrible for some reason :(

You'll get over it. Time to move on

You'll get over it. Time to move on

I've actually just found out that he readded his ex-whom had feelings for him and he always assured me he doesn't feel the same about her- on Facebook
So now, I feel actually much worse :(

Well at least you know where you stand. Now get on with your life.