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poncho93
Sep 16, 2013, 09:46 AM
Hey fellows, I am extremely confused at the moment. I've met a girl that is amazing. By the time she went home, her parents were offered a job far away and they had to move before 2 months.

We have started our relationship just before they moved. Now, 2 months later, show her I love her as well as I can, so does she. But I guess we could not continue this love, split by the distance (250 killometres, about 192 miles).

I will not stop loving her, despite the distance. We will probalby see each other like once per month in the best case (usually 2-3 months due to school). What I ask for is, do I end this now to prevent future hurt, or continue this way and let it end by itself?

Thanks in advance!

N0help4u
Sep 16, 2013, 11:27 AM
You discuss with her on making it work, ways to make it work and if she wants it to work. Make it clear to her that if and when she wants to go her own way that you would want to know.

talaniman
Sep 16, 2013, 11:53 AM
Risk of failure or future hurt would not stop me from trying. Talk to her and see how she feels about it.

I wish
Sep 16, 2013, 01:13 PM
Depends on whether you think the relationship is worth the risk. It's easy to give up on it and you would have the opportunity to meet new people, but you won't know if it would have worked out.

Long distance requires a lot of patience. So only do it if you have strong feelings for each other. That being said, 2 months is not very long as a trial period.

This is definitely a conversation that you should be having with her to see if you both feel that there is a future together.

poncho93
Sep 17, 2013, 06:15 AM
Thanks a lot for the fast response, I find your help great, I've had a discussion with her an she said that there is nothing I could fear, she said that she really loves me and was actually worried about losing me too :) Thanks again!

Homegirl 50
Sep 17, 2013, 06:35 AM
How old are the two of you? You've only dated a few months.
Just be honest and when or if one of you meets someone or wants to move on,
Be honest.