My Daughter had a baby in 2004 my husband and I purchased a condo for her and the baby daddy to live and raise the baby.. she did not want to stay with him so we purchased a house so she can go to school;; she did not want that so she joined the military for 3 years and gave me full custody she never wanted to be a mom she told us and we have had him in our custody for 9 years he does not know she is his mother in the beginning she did not want to raise him. And we did not want him to go to a stranger. She has never paid a penny in child support and she lied to the military and the us senator t when the inquiry was sent, the state of Fl has been trying to catch her for years. The father even though he is not in the child s life does send money every month.. she did her 3 years and then enlisted for 3 more with out my knowledge so after 6 years she came out pregnant with her boyfriends baby. She was not married to him and had to divorce before she could even though she was pregnant. She has had a crazy run and lies constantly they know just how to work the system. In 2008 she asked to get visitation so she would be able to get paid housing.. when I refused to lie she got married and took me to court I agreed ton counseling as long as she did it in our state we lived in Fl and her in Tx I was not happy since I found out her husband had a heroine problem.. So they broke up less than a year later and she dropped the ball and moved on to her new guy and got pregnant in 2011 she moved in with us we now lived in N.Y due to a job. We purchased a home and she had the baby she was going to go to school but still no mention of the first child she has had a ton of counseling because she has marital problems, so in August of 2011 she packed up baby and daddy and they all move to KY he is also in army. Since she joined to reserves for some money and they live for free. Still no child support or counseling with first child. So a month ago she told me she was moving out on her husband and I was supportive but then out of the blue she called and said I want him to visit. They lived with me and she would not even baby sit she never spent any time with him at all, I think she is going to confuse the hell out of this kid he has known her as my daughter but has no clue she gave birth to him since the first 6 years that is how she wanted it.. I am tired of this crazy roller coaster of lies to get her way counseling suicide attempts and just plain old nutty behavior. What can I do since the case in FL was closed due to the mediation was never followed on her part and her Attorney withdrew as counsel The only open case is the state against her for support... I do not want to put my son through and drama and his Doctor thinks it is not in his best interest to do so. She it threatening to violate me on the mediation from Fl in NY but she is the one that did not come to FL.. But she is nuts and now wants to blame me. My son has a great live and a good family we have a little girl also and they are being raised as brother and sister so now after 9 years she wants to force me to make him go for visitation.. he did not want to go.. and she wants to force me to take him for counseling I am so tired of her she is a bully and wants to have me jump every time she said so. But she has not once supported him emotionally financially and he has no clue she is his mother. We have provided him a loving family in a safe home. I am tired she stresses me out and it only comes when it has some kind of financial gain on her part. What can happen to him if she pushes this issue. Should I initiate an order in N.Y to protect him. I do have custody. And I spoke to his natural Father he does not want her to disturb his sons life.