Me and my boyfriend, well ex boyfriend were together on and off for a year and a few months and he recently broke up with me. On that same day I had broken up with him too. What happened was he has a tendency of saying one thing but doing another. For example I'll ask him to come over or he'll ask me if I want him to come over and usually my answer is yes, but sometimes he won't show up and I won't get a text or a call letting me know he won't be able to make and when we finally do get in contact with each other he doesn't mention the fact that he was a no show until I bring up it and then he has 1,001 reasons as to why he didn't show up.

If he can't make it because something has come up that's fine just be considerate enough to let me know you won't be able to make it. We've this argument so much I swear I've lost count but when I get upset he thinks I'm overreacting when I'm not. I just get sick and tired of repeating myself constantly, that's so annoying I feel like I'm dealing with a 4 year old.

But back to the reason as to why he broke up with me is because I was over his house one day and he wanted to take a walk and I didn't so he had an attitude and then he said " Do what you want" then I replied " That's what I've been doing". He got upset and broke up with me so I left. We're still not back together but we talk sometimes not everyday and he said he wants to be with me just not in a relationship because he wants to stay focused meaning instead of having drama and me having to worry about him doing something wrong we don't have to be together. In my opinion that makes no sense at all. I don't know what to do anymore.

Any ideas?

You two are not a good fit. He seems very selfish and honestly you do not need that type of behavior. I agree that it's only considerate to let the person know if you're not going to be able to show up.

Walk away from this.

On and off, back and forth for a year huh? End the behavior, end the confusion. Stop talking to him period, and never go back. Keep it off forever. End of confusion, NO butts.

You are confused because his behavior is a bit irrational. He wants to break up but he wants to be friends but he wants this and that and he doesn't want drama and you. You are too busy worrying about what he wants that you can't think clear what you want.