I have been dating that girl for 2 years... We had feelings for each other but before our actual dating, she broke off with her ex who cheated on her thrice. After one year she told me that she was still friends with him but that she needed time to move on.. I gave her all the space she needed. We were both in the same class at university and it was kind of hard for me to not talk to her..

After several small disputes she told me that she was not ready to be in a relationship. I was disapointed with her but she started dating me all over again. But in December last year, she told me that she met a guy and even kissed him but she told me that it was not intentional, that she still has feelings for me...

At the end of university life, she told me not to worry or get jealous, that she will sort things out. Then she went to a vacation and found out through some photos that she went there with the guy. I did not tell her about this but on Monday we had some discussions and then things started going upside down... I told her what she wanted exactly and what was she up to. She told me that she was having good time with the boy, he was different but when she is with him, she thinks about me, Well I just raged and told her "and me in all of this ?? do you care about my feelings?? Should i accept everything you throw at me?? She just told me that nothing is concrete...I just told her that even though i loved you, i can't remain friends with you and she just told me that "you are an hypocrite" " I remained friends with my ex but you are just dumping me? " What the is that ? Why should i ever remain in contact with her?? and she asked me if we will not talk at the graduation. I just told her "a resounding never!
Why am I an hypocrite in this??

You're not. She has no understanding of the word... at all.

And let's assume that you were a hypocrite... who really cares? She's messing around on you so one word thrown at you should make you see things differently? No.

She's an idiot and the only thing I can see that you did wrong is that you waited this long to be rid of her. Go live for yourself and you will find someone eventually that will respect you as much as you do them.

Good luck to you.

You are not a hypocrite. When people are in the wrong and they know they are in the wrong then they start throwing lame accusations to justify themselves and throw the attention off their faults. She wants you to believe you are her sole 'love' but she wants her freedom to dabble with other guys NOW That's a hypocrite. She has an odd perception of things if she thinks that just because she is still friends with her ex she should expect you to remain friends with her. That is not a hypocrite in any way, shape or form.

She goes off with the guy she met in December, says she thought about you, and when you were very understandably upset, she called you a hypocrite.

The question is why do you fall for that? She's just desperate to hang on to every man in her life, including the ex - 3 of you at a minimum. That way whenever she's the least bit rejected feeling, she gets to use and abuse any one of you. Get pissed off and end it without fanfare or saying anything at all.

I wouldn't listen or worry about anything she says or does, nor would I give my heart to this female. Keep your dignity and self respect by keeping her out of your life permanently.

It is hypocritical to say or imply one thing, leading a person to take you at your word, and then turn around and do the opposite.

In your case the hypocrisy belongs to her. She's just thrown you a curve ball to make you think that you are responsible for misunderstanding her intentions, which you are not.

If you are to be faulted for anything, it is trusting her in the first place. Perhaps now you can see where she didn't even 'qualify' as a decent friend, let alone more.

Don't be so hard on yourself, and to keep trying to find reasons for her behavior is a waste of time. She probably doesn't know why she does the things she does.

What you do know she is an accomplished liar, she is deceitful, selfish, and cannot be trusted.

Be happy you are free of this unhealthy bond with her, and do your best to really think things through so you are not caught up in a similar trap in the future.