Gobbles
Aug 4, 2013, 01:25 AM
This has been bothering me for the past days, and I would greatly appreciate any thoughts on this. I know it's rather long:
I was with a girl for a few weeks, until she left me all of a sudden. We are both 18, by the way. Before we started being together, she had a boyfriend she'd been with for three years. She said she had been unhappy with him months already, and she left him because she wanted to be with me. I had a crush on her already in last year, and she had liked me too, though I didn’t know that back then. Anyhow, we hooked up. Our affair caught fire rather fast, and we also talked a lot and got to know each other quite well in a short period.
And this is how it ended. On Thursday, she was still in bed with me. Let’s leave it to that. Next day she constantly reported to me from work, as always, and actually would’ve liked to come to my home that day, but I was a bit ill so I preferred not to. We talked a lot that day. On Saturday she suggested that she came to my place. For some reason she cancelled that a few hours later due to some fishy reasons. Later I learned that it was an excuse. Still on Sunday at noon, she said she loved me (yes, might sound odd as our thing only lasted so little time, no time to explain our thing thoroughly). She still called me “honey” and “darling” etc. as always. Later that day she stopped responding, finally said she was ill. This was also a lie. The next morning she sent a text that she was sorry but she couldn’t be with me anymore. She said she should’ve never taken our affair that far.
Our thing felt “strange”, she said. She’d met someone else. And compared to that, neither our thing nor the previous 3-year-affair were anything. She just knew “that he is the one”. She refused to talk about this face to face with me and actually got really upset when I asked what’s going on. When did she have the time to get to know that guy so well as we’d been talking constantly the previous weeks? What happened that Sunday between noon and 5pm, and why she lied to me on Saturday? She claimed she’d been behaving different for a while already, but this seems strange when I think of Thursday and Friday. She had still slept with me.
She said she’d been mistaken. She didn’t love me after all, only liked me. Okay, yet it was she who started saying “I love you” in the first place. She said that a lot along with various names of endearment. So she said them dozens of times and more and never meant it? She got upset and tried to deny the seriousness of our affair, “It was only a two night stand or so”. All the things we spoke about, mutual future, among a lot of other things, prove otherwise. Maybe she just wanted to comfort and assure herself by denying everything. Still it hurt me a lot. At the beginning of that conversation she said that our thing did mean something to her… and a few hours later she said our thing didn’t mean ****. She said she hates me . She's the one with the right to be so mad and angry, huh.
This leaves me thinking. She denies having had two guys at the same time. I guess she means it sincerely. She refuses to having cheated on me. Anyhow she was dishonest and lied to me. It’s a shame as I cared about her so deeply, introduced her to my mom and stuff. And I still miss her, I thought it would last... I just don’t get it, the issues in the 3rd paragraph. It may be interesting to see her at school, how will she react. I won’t allow her to completely disclaim our affair, or claim it was never meant to be anything serious. All in all, what the heck just happened? What is she doing, how volatile is she? How can things change so fast? How well can he know that mr. perfect? She said she’s never been so happy in her life, and is happy that she for once made the right choice. How can she come to such a conclusion so fast? I'm astonished. Any thoughts?
I was with a girl for a few weeks, until she left me all of a sudden. We are both 18, by the way. Before we started being together, she had a boyfriend she'd been with for three years. She said she had been unhappy with him months already, and she left him because she wanted to be with me. I had a crush on her already in last year, and she had liked me too, though I didn’t know that back then. Anyhow, we hooked up. Our affair caught fire rather fast, and we also talked a lot and got to know each other quite well in a short period.
And this is how it ended. On Thursday, she was still in bed with me. Let’s leave it to that. Next day she constantly reported to me from work, as always, and actually would’ve liked to come to my home that day, but I was a bit ill so I preferred not to. We talked a lot that day. On Saturday she suggested that she came to my place. For some reason she cancelled that a few hours later due to some fishy reasons. Later I learned that it was an excuse. Still on Sunday at noon, she said she loved me (yes, might sound odd as our thing only lasted so little time, no time to explain our thing thoroughly). She still called me “honey” and “darling” etc. as always. Later that day she stopped responding, finally said she was ill. This was also a lie. The next morning she sent a text that she was sorry but she couldn’t be with me anymore. She said she should’ve never taken our affair that far.
Our thing felt “strange”, she said. She’d met someone else. And compared to that, neither our thing nor the previous 3-year-affair were anything. She just knew “that he is the one”. She refused to talk about this face to face with me and actually got really upset when I asked what’s going on. When did she have the time to get to know that guy so well as we’d been talking constantly the previous weeks? What happened that Sunday between noon and 5pm, and why she lied to me on Saturday? She claimed she’d been behaving different for a while already, but this seems strange when I think of Thursday and Friday. She had still slept with me.
She said she’d been mistaken. She didn’t love me after all, only liked me. Okay, yet it was she who started saying “I love you” in the first place. She said that a lot along with various names of endearment. So she said them dozens of times and more and never meant it? She got upset and tried to deny the seriousness of our affair, “It was only a two night stand or so”. All the things we spoke about, mutual future, among a lot of other things, prove otherwise. Maybe she just wanted to comfort and assure herself by denying everything. Still it hurt me a lot. At the beginning of that conversation she said that our thing did mean something to her… and a few hours later she said our thing didn’t mean ****. She said she hates me . She's the one with the right to be so mad and angry, huh.
This leaves me thinking. She denies having had two guys at the same time. I guess she means it sincerely. She refuses to having cheated on me. Anyhow she was dishonest and lied to me. It’s a shame as I cared about her so deeply, introduced her to my mom and stuff. And I still miss her, I thought it would last... I just don’t get it, the issues in the 3rd paragraph. It may be interesting to see her at school, how will she react. I won’t allow her to completely disclaim our affair, or claim it was never meant to be anything serious. All in all, what the heck just happened? What is she doing, how volatile is she? How can things change so fast? How well can he know that mr. perfect? She said she’s never been so happy in her life, and is happy that she for once made the right choice. How can she come to such a conclusion so fast? I'm astonished. Any thoughts?