I'm trying to keep this short so its easy to understand:

My girlfriend and I have been together for 6 yrs. She was19 yrs old. And I was 18. Everything was nothing short of perfect until the last couple of months. During the "perfect" period, we had unhealthy relationship problems, arguments, and we would always work things out. The main problem was we had different religion she's Muslim and I'm a Christian. But we were OK with that she was crazy for me at the beginning

But lately, she had wanted to leave. I have counted a LOT of times where I had to literally beg on my knees for her to stay. And every time I would better myself and fix the problem. I would give her everything she wanted... Gifts, flowers, cards and letters, patience, devotion, my love, commitment and I even took her to Bahamas for her birthday . It wasn't enough... I even promise her that I will become a Muslim as she told me we will not get married with different religion. The reason for doing that was that she told me her family will ignoring her if she married a different religion. We have different culture cause she's from Africa and I'm from in the Caribbean. Honestly she had told me that her mom was keep giving her pressure for me because of religion prob ever Since we met. She was sometime cried around me She would then want to keep leaving, until finally she did. I was devastated because I had given EVERYTHING I had... I tried my best to make it work and make it happy even when I was dying inside. I would cry myself to sleep and wake up the next morning to ask for more. I really love her, and she says she loves me all the time, she also says there is no one else (I am 100% sure about this). I was just just shock to heard she said she doesn't feel good about me no more

We had planned our future together, the kind cars, houses, kids and all that. It just kills me to look back at all the letters and pictures we had together.

I have given her "space" before, and it worked, but this time it feels like she can actually leave me for good. She had wanted to leave for a long time, the only reason why she didn't, is because I promised to be better and really REALLY begged for her to stay.

As for myself, I think I'm too jealous and insecure, I would always call her and stay by her side literally everyday. I think I smothered her too much to the point where she's just sick of me. I think I showed her that I love her too much. I would do anything for her the reason that I was acting like that cause I know she suffered around her family for me so I made myself a better person for her. Even though she have a very close relationship with her family she's very close to them

Why would she want to leave? What can I do to get her back? Is there even a chance? Where're all my love goes?

She left me because she said she wasn't happy to be with me, she said I don't know how to make her happy again, she says she doesn't want to do this anymore, she would rather stay single,but I know deep in my heart that she loves me.

Help
Its eating me alive...

Begging is not good. You can't make someone love you. You only accomplished prolonging the inevitable with the begging.

Six years of planning? Maybe she got tired of waiting for you to do more than promise. You should have followed through on all those promises by now (convert and get married) or let her go. Women won't wait as long as men because of their biological clocks.

Were you living together? What was keeping this relationship from evolving a little faster?

Begging is not good. You can't make someone love you. You only accomplished prolonging the inevitable with the begging.


I understand you my friend, but honestly, I didn't want to loose her. Me and her were very close to each other. Lately I found that her interest was low.

'Please don't ignored I need your help right now'

So you ignore what I said. Rots 'o' ruck ol' buddy

Six years of planning? Maybe she got tired of waiting for you to do more than promise. You should have followed through on all those promises by now (convert and get married) or let her go. Women won't wait as long as men because of their biological clocks.

Were you living together? What was keeping this relationship from evolving a little faster?


Well, you might be right my friend. Cause when I saw her get mad at me quick I asked her to get married she was accepted. Then I've found myself a better job. She told me that I have to come talk to her. On Sunday she told me she was just talking to her dad. Her dad tell her that her mom won't accepted cause I'm a Christian she told her dad that I will convert she told me that her dad was agree. On Monday she told she's checking a place for me to convert. On Wednesday she come to my home and asking me for her space.

'Please don't ignored I need your help right now'

So you ignore what I said. Rots 'o' ruck ol' buddy

Never my friend how can I? You're helping me right now I'm in pain I don't think one of you know how I feel. Please give me some advice I don't know what to do my friend

OK, more of the picture is becoming clear. Even though you told her you would convert, she wanted some space again. So now you are back to the personality differences.
We aren't there to see you both interacting. One minute it seems like you are dragging your feet too much regarding marriage, and the next minute it seems that you are too jealous and insecure.
I wish she would tell you what's bothering her, not just that she can't be happy with you. But if she has lost that loving feeling, it's gone, sorry.
Instead of giving and giving and buying and taking trips, you need to find out what a woman is needing, wanting, and missing, emotionally. And it certainly isn't smothering and being insecure, possessive, and jealous. It's shared admiration and respect, compromise and understanding. If she goes somewhere else, you should be glad, and enjoy the story of what happened. You do the same. Love is coming home to each other, not hovering over each other and being jealous.
When a man comes to this site and says he gave a woman everything he had, I worry. That's not what a woman wants. She wants to be appreciated for who she is, she wants warmth of touch without it always being sex, and she wants good, fun, tender, thoughtful, communication.
I don't know if it's too late with her or not. I don't know what she is missing from you.

OK, more of the picture is becoming clear. Even though you told her you would convert, she wanted some space again. So now you are back to the personality differences.
We aren't there to see you both interacting. One minute it seems like you are dragging your feet too much regarding marriage, and the next minute it seems that you are too jealous and insecure.
I wish she would tell you what's bothering her, not just that she can't be happy with you. but if she has lost that loving feeling, it's gone, sorry.
Instead of giving and giving and buying and taking trips, you need to find out what a woman is needing, wanting, and missing, emotionally. And it certainly isn't smothering and being insecure, possessive, and jealous. It's shared admiration and respect, compromise and understanding. If she goes somewhere else, you should be glad, and enjoy the story of what happened. You do the same. Love is coming home to each other, not hovering over each other and being jealous.
When a man comes to this site and says he gave a woman everything he had, I worry. That's not what a woman wants. She wants to be appreciated for who she is, she wants warmth of touch without it always being sex, and she wants good, fun, tender, thoughtful, communication.
I don't know if it's too late with her or not. I don't know what she is missing from you.

Great advice my friend!
I do respect her a lot. My girlfriend and I never fight for six years we might arguiring may be twice, but not a big one. We really have respect for each other. When it come to communication, my door always open for her. We talked more than 7 time a day. Every time I saw her a little sad I always trying to know what was wrong. Me and her never call each other by our name we both call each other baby. Honestly when she was with me I did my part. It was just a couple month ago she had called me my name sometime. But you really mention some big point thank you brother!

What's make me so sad the day that she was asking for her space. She was crying so bad the next day I had gave her a call when she hear my voice she cannot stop crying.