I have been in a relationship for a year and two months now with a boy that I have known for four years.We have our ups and downs just like every other relationship but somehow me have managed to stay together through our love.Lately we have not been getting along and we both know that we are slowly falling apart.But I don't think that either one of us wants to call it off because we care about each other so much and we don't want to hurt each other.I have been going to church and it has made me realize a lot of things that I need to change in my life for my own good.And eveyday that we argue I realize more and more what will be best for me.It makes it so hard for me even to think about not being with him and it is very hard to explain to him how I am feeling and exactly what I need to do to be a stronger person.As to say all of that I need some advice to help me get through this and how to break it off to him.Or should I wait a little while longer and see if we could work through all of our problems??

As you have said every relationship has its ups and downs but if you truly love each other you should try and make it to the up and then talk to him about howw you feel and try to work things out before you end it .

No communication, no relationship. If to people are not willing to put the work required to have a healthy relationship, then its already over.

Why can't the two of you sit down and talk about it? Where do you each see your relationship going? No one can tell you what to do, you two have to figure this one out. Would it hurt you if he walked up to you one day and said, hey, I think this is over. See you. Of course it would, but if you had been talking back and forth you'd see it coming, you'd acknowledge the problems together, and you might even sort them out and be happy again. Ask him the question you asked here. His response if far more important than any of ours.