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JasonWest99
Jul 19, 2013, 12:55 PM
I am 14 and I like a seventeen year old girl who possibly likes me. I can tell that she is a little disappointed that I'm younger than her. Should I still like her?

JudyKayTee
Jul 19, 2013, 12:59 PM
Should you "like" her? Sure, you could "like" someone who is 40, for that matter.

She, likewise, is free to "like" you.

I doubt it's more than "like," because your ages are worlds apart at this stage in your life, and I am gathering from your question that you are not remarkably mature for your age. How did she happen to think you are the same age? She can date "boys" who drive, have cars, have jobs/money. I'm surprised she is considering dating younger.

Is that your question? Yes, you are free to "like" anyone/everyone.

When it comes to dating (and this is posted on an adult dating board) that's something else.

You can date anyone as long as no sex is involved. If your parents don't approve of you dating her she can be charged with interfering with your parents who are trying to raise you.

Homegirl 50
Jul 19, 2013, 01:04 PM
Can you like her yes. Can you date her, that depends on your parents but I cannot understand why a 17 year old girl would want to date a 14 year old. You don't drive, you have no job, you need your parents permission to even talk to her. You are nowhere near her maturity level.

joypulv
Jul 19, 2013, 01:11 PM
Many an older teen says 'too bad you are x years younger.' Take it as a compliment and leave it at that.
Part of getting older means knowing what someone MEANS. You do this with little exchanges back and forth, maybe joking, maybe serious, until you have a sense of what the other person is thinking. Don't forget that half the time the other person has no clue what you mean at first either.

talaniman
Jul 19, 2013, 01:19 PM
You know she is disappointed because of your age so don't get carried away by liking her and thinking you can get with her. For dating or anything else.

I doubt she likes you that way. But I understand how the attention of an older female can lead you to wonder. Feel good about it without being silly, or foolish. That won't feel very good trust me. Been there, done that.

nanyananya
Jul 23, 2013, 08:43 PM
I don't think so, my sisters friend had her heart crushed by a 16 year old, he thought she was an immature 13 year old and cheated on her with a 12 year old. Dating an older person might seem fun, but until your in your late teens like 16 it really can cause problems. And you might just be too immature from their point of view

Homegirl 50
Jul 23, 2013, 09:14 PM
I don't think so, my sisters friend had her heart crushed by a 16 year old, he thought she was an immature 13 year old and cheated on her with a 12 year old. Dating an older person might seem fun, but until your in your late teens like 16 it really can cause problems. And you might just be too immature from their point of view
A 16 year old has no business messing with a 12 or 13 year old. That is just creepy and wrong.

Oliver2011
Jul 24, 2013, 07:44 AM
A 16 year old has no business messing with a 12 or 13 year old. That is just creepy and wrong.

Amen.

Fr_Chuck
Jul 24, 2013, 11:20 AM
It is great to dream and like, no it will not work and the older teen would not want this