So I began dating this girl about 8 months ago. I don't date very often or try to be with girls all the time. I like to choose carefully because I put a lot of emotion and effort into my relationships. Anyway we started talking and immediately clicked. It seemed so unreal that everything worked so perfectly. I had known that she almost never dates and has never gotten attached to anyone. She did get very close to me and I got very close to her as well. Not only did we talk everyday and see each other almost everyday, we were close in another way. The way we touched and fit together it felt like nothing either of us had ever experienced. I liked her family a lot also everything was just great. Of course I had to ruin things, kind of got possessive and jealous very easily that she would spend time with her friends a lot or things like that. I overreacted with a lot of things she did like the most minuscule things it was so stupid. That along with some fights about stupid things. Also it seemed like I stopped trying to earn the privilege of being with her. Anyway she was asking me to hang out one day and I said maybe because she was with friends and I tended to like being with her alone mostly, selfish I know and realize that now. Anyway I got home and the whole time I decided I was going to be with her I just didn't say that necessarily. She didn't text me for a couple hours because she left her phone at her friends house when they were riding bikes. When she finally texted with me I was kind of bothered and got snappy with her. She picked up on it and it turned into a disagreement. I apologized after I realized the stupid thing that I had done once again and she said okay. I asked her to hang out and she said she didn't know yet. I said "why?" And she said she might just hang out at her friends house, I asked if I was not allowed over there or something. She said she just felt like I would only come over because my friends ditched me but that wasn't true. Anyway I told her we needed to talk and when she got in my car I said " i don't know If I can do us anymore" , I said it to scare her thinking she would say I'm sorry or something but she got pissed. Everything was falling apart and all I could do was apologize and say it wouldn't happen and just say I was retarded but she wouldn't have it and said she couldn't do it anymore and walked away. I was devastated and I texted her sister and she told me to give her time. I was really impatient and asked her friend to talk to her and see if she wanted to talk to me sometime about everything. She agreed and I told her how I realized everything that I had been doing lately and I just wanted it to be back to how it was and she got teared up and so did I and I thought it was going good. She told me she still loved me so much and we just needed to grow on our own a little but still be there for each other. I pleaded her to think about it but she just said that was her decision. She told her friend that we were friends for now. Implying that maybe she would want to reconsider everything after a while. I also talked to her mom who told me that she was taking everything really hard and wasn't sure how she felt about everything. As in she didn't know if she wanted to be with me or not and I just needed to give her a couple days then text her to check in but not bring up the subject. I really just don't know what to do, but I have this gut feeling that it would be a really big mistake to give up. I want her to want to be with me but I honestly don't know. I would do anything for her. And yes I do believe its love and not infatuation I've read countless articles and journals about the difference I know what the signs are. Please help

Give up on this one... unless you want her to drive you insane. She doesn't know what she wants... and in fact might not for years... if ever.

Find someone else that does know what they want... which is most of them. After all its only been 8 months... its not like you have any real time invested with her.

Give up on this one....unless you want her to drive you insane. She doesn't know what she wants...and in fact might not for years...if ever.

Find someone else that does know what they want...which is most of them. After all its only been 8 months...its not like you have any real time invested with her.
Okay let's say that I have been extremely broken up about this and even though I want to save my heartbreak, I don't want to waste An amazing girl. How long should I wait for her, I'm talking short term, before I really know she is done?

Okay let's say that I have been extremely broken up about this and even though I want to save my heartbreak, I don't want to waste An amazing girl. How long should I wait for her, I'm talking short term, before I really know she is done?

You'll get over her... NOBODY is that special. So you grieve a little while.. but you get over her. faster than you think... It makes you a stronger person. And trust me... after a few more girlfriends you will see she wasn't worth all this anyway. The first loves never are... after you date more people you will see this. She seems great because you have nothing else to compare her against. You have to date a few hags to know when you find a real princess.

You'll get over her....NOBODY is that special. So you grieve a little while..but you get over her., faster than you think.....It makes you a stronger person. And trust me....after a few more girlfriends you will see she wasn't worth all this anyway. The first loves never are....after you date more people you will see this. She seems great because you have nothing else to compare her against. You have to date a few hags to know when you find a real princess.

Any advice on how to get over her, and please don't say get with someone else I have no desire to be with another girl right now. And what makes a girl the true princess. Funny you should use that term actually, when we broke up I said thanks for looking at me and smiling like I treat you like a princess when I was being a , if you want to be treated like a princess I'll be here. Haha

Any advice on how to get over her, and please don't say get with someone else I have no desire to be with another girl right now. And what makes a girl the true princess. Funny you should use that term actually, when we broke up I said thanks for looking at me and smiling like I treat you like a princess when I was being a , if you want to be treated like a princess I'll be here. Haha

Focus on your hobbies... sports, school.. whatever you enjoy.. there is no magic trick... other than divert your attention onto something else... and time will do the rest. That's the easiest way I've found. Even if you was seriously angry with her... you still have to deal with the change.

It takes a really cold person to walk away and not feel anything.

Focus on your hobbies...sports, school..whatever you enjoy..there is no magic trick....other than divert your attention onto something else...and time will do the rest. That's the easiest way I've found. Even if you was seriously angry with her....you still have to deal with the change.

It takes a really cold person to walk away and not feel anything.

Everyone says that I guess I just have to try. It's just really hard but life goes on. If she does try to talk to me and reconsider then what?

Just leave her be. Tell her that you feel bad that you messed up and if and when she feels she wants to give you another chance maybe she could find it in her heart... Leave the door open on her end, but then let it go and get over her.

Just leave her be. Tell her that you feel bad that you messed up and if and when she feels she wants to give you another chance maybe she could find it in her heart...... Leave the door open on her end, but then let it go and get over her.
Sounds about right

Personally... I wouldn't give her another chance... not for a relationship.. if you could be friends (not everyone can be after that) that would be OK... but giving her another chance is putting your life on hold... and you would be waiting around for someone htat doesn't know what they want... and who statitistically is going to be out of the picture before long anyway.

I'm guessing you are still fairly young.

I've found if you leave the door open... you can't move on... and the next person is more likely to take you a bit more seriously. Adn I'm saying that from personal life experience.

Yeah... I learned that years before 99% of the population even heard about the internet. Wasted a lot of time on women when I should have moved on... because I didn't have anyone to advise me differently at the time. So I have the benefit of having been there... and of hindsight to see what I did wrong myself.. and what I should have done at the time.