confusediniowa
Jun 21, 2013, 05:16 PM
I have known this guy for a couple of years, he is my moms upstairs neighbor. I have been attracted to both his personality and looks since day one, but he always had a girlfriend. In February we started talking and I found out he was single, finally. We hung out a few times and he made it clear to me at the beginning that he wasn't sure what was going to happen between him and his ex.
They broke up because while taking a "break" from each other he got drunk and slept with someone else. Well, that girl showed up in March, I believe, telling him she was pregnant. He told me about it and how him and his ex were done. Also, that he was going to try to make it work with this girl for the baby. I wasn't OK with it, but respected him for his honesty and being a man, stepping up to the plate. We talked here and there by text or just in passing. Then, about a month later I get a text from him and he told me he's totally single again. We then spent everyday together, even if for only a couple hours. Spent the time we weren't together texting and talking, just getting to know each other better.
The end of April we decided we would see where things would go, slowly. We spent time together and around his friends, around my friends,and he even got involved with my children. Things were amazing, we talked about future things such as us being together, the kids, moving, etc. Then one night out of no where I got friend zoned. It went from talking all day, everyday to practically nothing. He won't talk about what changed. He had told me before he had a fear of commitment. So I don't know if it's a matter of he's just not into me, which I didn't get from our conversations, staying together, sleeping together(non-sexual), etc or if he let his fear take over.
Its been a month now. And I still have no answers. I understand he went through a lot before "us" and may need time to sort his brain and feelings out. But what do I do in the meantime? I do want it to work and do want to be with him. He genuinely is a great guy. But I don't know if I should wait for him to get his head on right or move on with out him, find someone else who is emotionally available. Help, please.
They broke up because while taking a "break" from each other he got drunk and slept with someone else. Well, that girl showed up in March, I believe, telling him she was pregnant. He told me about it and how him and his ex were done. Also, that he was going to try to make it work with this girl for the baby. I wasn't OK with it, but respected him for his honesty and being a man, stepping up to the plate. We talked here and there by text or just in passing. Then, about a month later I get a text from him and he told me he's totally single again. We then spent everyday together, even if for only a couple hours. Spent the time we weren't together texting and talking, just getting to know each other better.
The end of April we decided we would see where things would go, slowly. We spent time together and around his friends, around my friends,and he even got involved with my children. Things were amazing, we talked about future things such as us being together, the kids, moving, etc. Then one night out of no where I got friend zoned. It went from talking all day, everyday to practically nothing. He won't talk about what changed. He had told me before he had a fear of commitment. So I don't know if it's a matter of he's just not into me, which I didn't get from our conversations, staying together, sleeping together(non-sexual), etc or if he let his fear take over.
Its been a month now. And I still have no answers. I understand he went through a lot before "us" and may need time to sort his brain and feelings out. But what do I do in the meantime? I do want it to work and do want to be with him. He genuinely is a great guy. But I don't know if I should wait for him to get his head on right or move on with out him, find someone else who is emotionally available. Help, please.