I used to like someone... I convinced my parents to let me marry him... my parents supported me and agreed... then conditions went out of hand and my parents did not want me to marry him... and even I was scared... so I lost all hope and instead of convincing my parents again I decided not to marry him... according to him I betrayed him and cheated on him... I apologized him several times but he did not forgive mr... and I feel v.bad for him... and also... I am feeling guilty that I did wrong to him... plz help... I asked Allah's forgiveness... but that man did not forgive me...

What I have to say applies in any religion...

If he's going to act like this.. why would you want to marry him... do you think he's going to suddenly change? He's not.. if he has a problem now... you would never hear the end of it even if you did get married.

I have a close friend who is Muslim (similar situation)... and she thought this way too... only he continued to do it and much, much worse... eventually they got married... and nothing changed over the next 20 years.

And she put up with it for the sake of the children... and she has been unhappy for a very long time. She will be leaving him as soon as the last child is old enough to be on their own... she wishes she had done that BEFORE they had kids.

And I have known others in very similar situations... One thing that remains true is human nature... people rarely change much unless they have a near death experience... and even then... many don't.

Look at the man you see now... this is how he is... this is how he will remain unless and until he recognizes what he was doing... and that he was wrong.

You did let him down for sure. But it's good that you apologised to him. It's up to him forgive or not. You try to your best. If you seek forgiveness from allah then seek. May allah forgives you both.