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I_l
Jun 15, 2013, 06:03 PM
Hey. I have been with my boyfriend for a year, and I love him with all of my heart. My boyfriend is 19 and I’m 18. We both took each other’s virginity about 3 months ago. I know I have a hard time talking about sex, because it has always been taboo. My boyfriend and I are planning to getting married, but I get worried about the sex. He hasn't yet to make me climax. Sometimes when we have intercourse it feels great, but I never finish. Not even when he goes down on me, or when he uses his hands. I have asked him to focus on the on rubbing the clitoris, but he always ends up doing his own thing. He doesn't know I have never finished. He just assumes that I have, because when it does feel good I moan. We can tell each other everything, but I think this one will really hurt his feeling. My boyfriend is on the smaller end, and I know it bothers him. He is 5.5 inches. I know sex isn't everything, and I should love him for who he is; I really want to enjoy sex more, and experience a wonderful feeling with the person I love. It would be remarkable to hear everyone’s ideas that will help improve our love life!
talaniman
Jun 15, 2013, 06:19 PM
Learn to discuss sex with him and what please you and what doesn't. Tell him everything especially if you need more time. Then you can explore and experiment and enjoy it as you learn about yourself, and him. Get on top and get yours first why don't you.
smoothy
Jun 19, 2013, 05:14 PM
Guys aren't born with instinctive knowledge of how to blow women's mind with sex any more than women are born with the knowledge to blow a mans mind.
You have to talk to each other and teach each other all the little things you like and dislike... and the other person has to actually listen.
I've blown the mind of most of the women I've slept with... and it wasn't because I have a 12" wiener as big around as a beer can (actually I don't, because I was making a point)... but because I've actually paid attention and listened to every woman I've ever been with... and learned from it... which surprisingly enough... apparently most people don't do.
Alty
Jun 19, 2013, 05:24 PM
You're both very inexperienced, and very young. Just because he's a guy doesn't mean that he knows anything about sex, or the female body.
Do you masturbate? Can you get yourself to orgasm? If so, tell him the secret to getting you there. If you don't tell him, then how the heck is he going to figure it out? If you can't talk about sex, your relationship won't last.
I do have to say, he's not small, he's a little above average actually. Average is 5 inches. I've been with guys that are average, and guys that are huge. Size really doesn't matter. In fact, the guy that was average (my husband) was the guy that got me to climax every single time. Most women don't climax from penetration, it's all about what you do before that matters, and it doesn't involve the penis at all.
Talk to him.
JudyKayTee
Jun 20, 2013, 02:32 PM
"My boyfriend is on the smaller end, and I know it bothers him. He is 5.5 inches"
He discusses penis size but cannot/will not discuss whether you are satisfied after sex? You need to talk, shy or not. No one comes with a users guide. It takes time and patience.