marymg
Jun 9, 2013, 02:59 PM
We had a relationship of 5 years. 2 years ago it turned into long distance, because he moved out. I was moving to his new city in 5 months, was making plans etc. And I was going to visit him in 2 months. Suddenly he started to act differently, said he just wasnīt in love with me anymore, the love was "gone" and he was really sorry. I tried to convince him that it was all a result of being long distance, that I could try and visit him in 2 months and he said he didnīt want to hurt me anymore and hung up the phone. He blocked me on whatsapp, Facebook etc. 2 days before he broke up with me he was treating me like he really loved me, asking for pics, telling me he couldnīt wait to see me, and actually pushing me to hurry with my visit, sent me the money for the ticket, etc.
On the next 4 days after he broke up with me I sent about 5 emails, expressing how hurt I was and how lost and desperate I felt, cried over the phone when he said he didnīt love me, begged etc. I got no answer, he is just ignoring me. I even asked one of his friends for help and he was very supportive but said he talked with my ex, and he couldnīt really do anything, my ex had already made a decision. I sent one last email last night, saying he should have been more considerate in the way he broke up, that I thought I didnīt deserve being blocked and ignored right after hearing he doesnīt love me. He just really hated to hear me cry and didnt know how to handle it, I know my ex is not a bad person, he was feeling sorry and he apologized before hanging up.
I donīt think he is going to come back ever again because 2 years ago he left me, came back after 6 months, asked me to give him another chance, that he dated other people and realized that he was never going to love them like he loved me, and I did give him another chance, but back then we broke up for the long distance factor. He had never told me he stopped loving me until now, so I donīt think heīll ever try again with me, also because he feels he has hurt me too much, too many times.
I started NC today, and I wonder is my last email was good, saying I was hurt and I think I didnt deserve this. Should I say that I wont contact him anymore? Or should I just disappear?
I want to know what is going to make him regret his decision , knowing that Im hurt and moving on, or telling him directly that he has lost his chances and I donīt want to hear from him again? Is it going to make him miss me more if he knows that he canīt contact me and he has no access?
Thanks, I know I need to move on, but itīs so recent, the only think that calms me down is the thought of him regretting his decision.
On the next 4 days after he broke up with me I sent about 5 emails, expressing how hurt I was and how lost and desperate I felt, cried over the phone when he said he didnīt love me, begged etc. I got no answer, he is just ignoring me. I even asked one of his friends for help and he was very supportive but said he talked with my ex, and he couldnīt really do anything, my ex had already made a decision. I sent one last email last night, saying he should have been more considerate in the way he broke up, that I thought I didnīt deserve being blocked and ignored right after hearing he doesnīt love me. He just really hated to hear me cry and didnt know how to handle it, I know my ex is not a bad person, he was feeling sorry and he apologized before hanging up.
I donīt think he is going to come back ever again because 2 years ago he left me, came back after 6 months, asked me to give him another chance, that he dated other people and realized that he was never going to love them like he loved me, and I did give him another chance, but back then we broke up for the long distance factor. He had never told me he stopped loving me until now, so I donīt think heīll ever try again with me, also because he feels he has hurt me too much, too many times.
I started NC today, and I wonder is my last email was good, saying I was hurt and I think I didnt deserve this. Should I say that I wont contact him anymore? Or should I just disappear?
I want to know what is going to make him regret his decision , knowing that Im hurt and moving on, or telling him directly that he has lost his chances and I donīt want to hear from him again? Is it going to make him miss me more if he knows that he canīt contact me and he has no access?
Thanks, I know I need to move on, but itīs so recent, the only think that calms me down is the thought of him regretting his decision.