I'm 125lbs and he is 150 something and 5'11" and I'm stronger than my boyfriend. i beat him arm-wrestling and in a push-up contest. My twelve year old brother beat him wrestling and he's only 5'2" and no more than 110lbs. Is a wimp? Girls would you be turned off by your boyfriend if this happened to him?

You are superficial and shallow.

Just because a person isn't physically strong doesn't mean they don't stand out in other ways.

He's not a wimp, but you are cruel.

I would realize that some people are physically stronger than others, and that calling anyone a wimp is what a bully does. So, why do you bully a guy you obviously liked enough to date?

I would love him for who he is, and not be so shallow to label him just because he's not as strong as you.

He deserves someone a lot better than you. You are not a nice person. Who else do you bully? Do you think that makes you cool? News flash, bullies are the worst of the worst, they're the scum of the Earth. Those that pick on others because of their short fallings, are scum.

What comes around goes around. Hopefully you'll get yours soon, and learn something from it.

I would realize that some people are physically stronger than others, and that calling anyone a wimp is what a bully does. So, why do you bully a guy you obviously liked enough to date?

I would love him for who he is, and not be so shallow to label him just because he's not as strong as you.

He deserves someone a lot better than you. You are not a nice person. Who else do you bully? Do you think that makes you cool? News flash, bullies are the worst of the worst, they're the scum of the Earth. Those that pick on others because of their short fallings, are scum.

What comes around goes around. Hopefully you'll get yours soon, and learn something from it.
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Oh, but I love him. And its not like I'm beating up on him, although the options is there. I have feelings for him, even though he's a wimp.


You are superficial and shallow.

Just because a person isn't physically strong doesn't mean they don't stand out in other ways.

He's not a wimp, but you are cruel.

Shallow, okay, but superficial? I just want someone who can protect me, and if he's overpowered by me and my 12 year old brother how could he protect me from a grown guy if he had to. I love him though. Should I tell him to strength train?

You are verbally and mentally abusive. You are a bully and he doesn't deserve you.

You don't love him or you wouldn't talk about him the way you do.

I think you are disgusting. Did it ever occur to you that he might let you and your brother win? I don't think he is a wimp, more a gentleman and you calling him such is wrong. He ought to get a clue and leave you alone.

Should I tell him to strength train? No, you should tell him to get a girlfriend who respects him for who and what he is. You are not worthy of him.

You are verbally and mentally abusive. You are a bully and he doesn't deserve you.

You don't love him or you wouldn't talk about him the way you do.

I do. And he was always sort of cocky about his male dominance or manhood. So I'm shocked.

Shallow, okay, but superficial? I just want someone who can protect me, and if he's overpowered by me and my 12 year old brother how could he protect me from a grown guy if he had to. I love him though. Should I tell him to strength train?

You should tell him that you don't deserve him and he should find someone who respects and deserves him.
How old are you?

I think you are disgusting. Did it ever occur to you that he might let you and your brother win? I don't think he is a wimp, more a gentleman and you calling him such is wrong. He ought to get a clue and leave you alone.

Sure. He was red, straining, and looked like he was going to cry after losing wrestling to my young brother. It wasn't fake. Maybe not a wimp then, but could use some strength training or wrestling lesson.

No, you don't. You are here calling him a wimp. You don't love him, nor do you respect him.

You disgust me as well. You make me ashamed to be the same gender as you.

Are you putting your brother up to this to prove a point?
I think you are being silly. Leave the guy alone, you don't deserve him. Why should he take wrestling lessons? That is just immature. How old are you?

Sure. He was red, straining, and looked like he was going to cry after losing wrestling to my young brother. It wasn't fake. Maybe not a wimp then, but could use some strength training or wrestling lesson.

Since when is it your decision what he does with his life? If he wants to do strength training, that's his choice, not yours.

You don't care about him at all. You're a bully.

You said you want someone that can take care of you? Here's a tip. Learn to take care of yourself, don't rely on any guy to do it for you. You're the wimp if you expect a man to take care of you.

I'm guessing you're 13, 14? Hopefully when you become an adult you'll realize how mean you're being, and how silly your expectations are.

Let him go, he deserves someone better.

Shallow, okay, but superficial? I just want someone who can protect me, and if he's overpowered by me and my 12 year old brother how could he protect me from a grown guy if he had to. I love him though. Should I tell him to strength train?

How about you learn how to protect yourself?

I am going to guess that you are only slightly older than your 12 year old brother. You certainly haven't learned what loving and accepting someone for being themselves is all about.

Do you like him or the person you think he should be? They are two different people.

And its not like I'm beating up on him, although the options is there

This says it all. She doesn't beat up on him, but she can if she wants to. How is that not bullying?

No, you don't. You are here calling him a wimp. You don't love him, nor do you respect him.

You disgust me as well. You make me ashamed to be the same gender as you.

You mean you'd change your gender? Because of my opinion, or just ashamed because I think my boyfriend is physically inferior to me and my 12 yo brother?
I do have feelings for him. I can't deny that.

And its not like I'm beating up on him, although the options is there

You are a very cruel person. I'm guessing you don't have many friends.

How about you learn how to protect yourself?

I am going to guess that you are only slightly older than your 12 year old brother. You certainly haven't learned what loving and accepting someone for being themselves is all about.

Do you like him or the person you think he should be? They are two different people.

Hi. I'm 23 actually. So, you wouldn't leave your boyfriend if he may have been physically inferior to you? Or think of him any differently.

I do have feelings for him. I can't deny that.

Yes you do have feelings for him. They are called disrespectful feelings.




So, you wouldn't leave your boyfriend if he may have been physically inferior to you? Or think of him any differently.

No, of course not. He's proven that he's actually stronger than you because he is still with you. Or maybe he's a wimp because he hasn't left a disrespectful, manipulative, controlling (insert your favorite word here).



Maybe he should leave you because you are emotionally inferior to him.

You mean you'd change your gender? because of my opinion, or just ashamed because I think my boyfriend is physically inferior to me and my 12 yo brother?
I do have feelings for him. i can;t deny that.

Ashley, you may not understand this but you are very close to being abusive, physically, mentally and emotionally.

A life lesson to learn, you cannot change or make someone else change to suit your needs or desires. The only person you can change is yourself. If you cannot accept him as the individual he is, then let him find someone who will.

Sometimes love isn't enough. Love doesn't last when there is no respect to support it.

Unlike you, I did not look for someone to 'protect' me. My father taught me to be able to protect myself. I chose my husband because his personality drew me in. I love him because of who he is, not because of what I think he should be.

You certainly don't sound like a 23 year old. You think he is physically inferior to you, I think you are emotionally inferior. You have no respect for this guy so you need to leave him alone. I'm sure he can find a woman who appreciates him for who he is, not for who he can beat wrestling.

You're 23? Wow! I would have figured 13, maybe 14 tops. You are very immature for a 23 year old adult. Most 23 year olds don't act this way.

Were you a bully in school as well?

The way I see it, it doesn't matter on how strong,skinny,fat,or emoshional your boyfriend is it's about how he treats you. If he treats you right and loves you the way you should be loved girl you have it made. Being strong or size or any of that don't matter it's love that matters

It could be a trick watch your back girl!

It could be a trick watch your back girl!

What?

Someone obviously has issues.

He could be letting you win. I know mine always lets me win in everything. I wouldn't be turned off. That means no fighting. I don't know if fighting is cute to you. I find it absolutely disgusting and unattractive, I don't think his muscle should matter. If you really like him. You would be with him for who he is, not how he appears.

I agree that he could be letting you win. As far as your brother, maybe he didn't want to hurt your brother? Maybe he is just a gentleman. But my personal answer to your question is no. Your boyfriend is not a wimp.

I'm reading this with clear eyes, not having seen it before. My take? AMHD is again being taken by someone (probably last week's person) who posts deliberately to get a response.

And she got one.

I'm not believing it - from the style of writing to the content.

I'm only surprised it didn't start with "Don't hate me but ...," a very clear indication of where things are going.

On the offchance that the OP is serious (which I highly doubt) every relationship has give and take. She's a bully, he likes to bully and be physically inferior to her, it works for them, good luck to the whole family.

I'm pretty certain my boyfriend was trying, against me and my brother. My little brother is a wrestler, so he is strong for his size and age group, not to mention knows how to wrestle. But my boyfriend tried wrestling and armwrestling me and I won. You're over analyzing my entire post, maybe because it isn't clear to you.


I agree that he could be letting you win. As far as your brother, maybe he didn't want to hurt your brother? Maybe he is just a gentleman. But my personal answer to your question is no. Your boyfriend is not a wimp.

He could have, but he isn't.


It could be a trick watch your back girl!

Huh? I doubt it, but I'll keep that it in mind.lol

I'm pretty certain my boyfriend was trying, against me and my brother. My little brother is a wrestler, so he is strong for his size and age group, not to mention knows how to wrestle. But my bf tried wrestling and armwrestling me and I won. You're over analyzing my entire post, maybe because it isn't clear to you.

Ashley, your boyfriend may not be as strong as you are. He may not be physically strong. He may be strong in other ways. His strength may lie in his love and loyalty.

He may also be the type who doesn't give his all when playing games but when courage and strength are needed he will give his life for those he loves.

You, on the other hand, seem to think that masculinity is tied to acting like a jerk and beating other people up. Your 'play' wrestling sounds more like a test. He isn't a man or worth much if he can't beat up a child and woman. He won't be able to protect me if he can't win a play fight. I shouldn't be with a wimpy kid who can't beat up me or my brother in a game. That is how you sound.

Being a man is more than muscular strength. It is knowing when to use your brain instead of your biceps to solve conflicts. It is not being afraid to care and show it. It is knowing the difference between playing and reality.

If you don't love him as the person he is, then let him go. But do not call him a wimp because you are behaving like a bully.

I'm pretty certain my boyfriend was trying, against me and my brother. My little brother is a wrestler, so he is strong for his size and age group, not to mention knows how to wrestle. But my bf tried wrestling and armwrestling me and I won. You're over analyzing my entire post, maybe because it isn't clear to you.




You sound like a shallow immature bully. You have called your boyfriend a wimp because you beat him arm wrestling. I suggest you leave him alone. Allow him to find someone who will respect who he is, you don't.

Why is it such a big deal that he isn't into physicality as much as you are?

Maybe this is a good time to take a vote. Speaking only for myself: I have never arm wrestled with a boyfriend, never. I have also never seriously wrestled with a boyfriend, never.

Did I miss something by not engaging in these activities?

Thinking back, my late husband was a very large man but had a heart condition. Him, I bet I could have arm wrestled him into submission due to his health concerns. Darn! I never thought of it!

He had a heart condition then no you should not have wrestled or arm wrestled him maybe. My boyfriend doesn't. Nice attempt at sarcasm?

Let me make a note of that - do not arm wrestle men with heart conditions,

And, no, you failed miserably.

How can you in good conscious continue to date someone who feel so poorly about? Your boyfriend is not a wimp but he is certainly with the wrong person.

I actually have to agree with the OP that the boyfriend is a wimp...

I mean, anyone that wasn't a wimp surely wouldn't put up with being treated this way, would they?

Odinn is the clear winner here - yes, the boyfriend is a wimp.

Have to say, I agree. The boyfriend is a wimp. Anyone that stays with someone as callous as the OP, is too afraid to tell her the truth, and leave. He needs to get a backbone, leave this bully, and find someone that appreciates him for who he is.

Alty, roll up your sleeve and come on over here...