Ok so we have that strong special kind of connection, we've been together for 2 1/2 almost 3 years and everything was great until recently! This past year she just started college and her second semester she went out for the girls lax team. On top of going to school full time, playing lacrosse, she also worked full time and had to babysit her niece every other day. Also her mom barely would ever let her come out so we didn't get to see each other as much as we used to the past few weeks, even more so that I started working full time and side jobs! Due to the little time we spent together the past few months I was getting jealous because she was spending more time on twitter, Facebook, etc than she was with me and I would sometimes lose my cool and say I don't mean like I'm done with you. So obviously she has been over stressed so she took the summer break to work in Ocean City all summer as a means to get time to herself since she never got to do what she wanted at home!

Well this memorial weekend we planned for me to come down for the weekend but neither of us asked being that the place belongs to her aunt. So I was half way down and her mom flipped that we planned this without asking so she didn't want me to stay. When my girlfriend told me that I flipped out on her and said I'm done with the bull! So her mom lets me stay the night but that night we talked and she said she wanted a break and thinks we need time apart because we are both stressed to the max but she also told me she doesn't think we should talk to other people cause she only wants me and loves me and we are meant to be and thinks the time away will be good and make us stronger as individuals because she thinks we rely on each other too much!

But that's where I'm confused cause why would she need to do that without me? She deserves a break from the BS she puts up with at home but why does she need a break from me, If she loves me and knows I'm the one why does she need a break from me? Also she said this will be good and make us stronger! But she said she didn't want me to stop calling and texting her but at the same time, she isn't texting me back often at all and this worries me as she has been out partying the last four days and I've been a wreck but pulling myself together!

I guess this shows my weakness but I don't want to ruin my chances I love her and I know that we still have chemistry and there is still a spark! But I'm having trouble coming to grasps with this! I can't lose her cause I have that gut feeling she is the one! We both say it all the time! So I am willing to do anything but give up on what we still have! Any advice? Should I stop trying to talk to her or what are my other options? Again I know I have to be strong and worry about myself but I cannot and will not let what we had go! Please help!!

You are willing to do anything? From what you posted I get a different view of that.

Her life is changing and growing and you are caught on the outside looking in. And that has upset your world.

The worst boyfriend you could be is how you have reacted to all of this. When you say "I am done with this" you need to be ready for whatever reaction she gives you. She could have said no let's not. She could have said great I've been waiting for this. And what she did say is she wants a break.

Now what you have to decide is will you allow her to have her cake and eat it to? She wants a break from the relationship but wants to continue communicating. How are you going to handle this because that won't be easy. And I don't advise it.

If you supported her while her life is changing and growing, I bet this wouldn't have happened.

"she's the one" what bull, you have treated her poorly, told you were were breaking up on a number of times. And it sounds like she is working all the time, BUSY, but you will not accept this.

You are willing to do anything? From what you posted I get a different view of that.

Her life is changing and growing and you are caught on the outside looking in. And that has upset your world.

The worst boyfriend you could be is how you have reacted to all of this. When you say "I am done with this" you need to be ready for whatever reaction she gives you. She could have said no let's not. She could have said great I've been waiting for this. And what she did say is she wants a break.

Now what you have to decide is will you allow her to have her cake and eat it to? She wants a break from the relationship but wants to continue communicating. How are you going to handle this because that won't be easy. And I don't advise it.

If you supported her while her life is changing and growing, I bet this wouldn't have happened.

We both had our faults at certain times where we did something wrong but I was letting my stress get in between us! And I understand I should have never gone to that extreme to try and get her to change or stop what was frustrating me! But she has told me she loves me, and her exact words were she doesn't think we should talk to other people because she knows we aren't done with each other! She also said she thinks we just need time apart thinking it will do us good as it will give us time to straighten ourselves out and be ourselves better! When she said this I agreed thinking it might just make us stronger and make me realize, which it already has, how much I really need her etc. So now my question is do you think she really means this? And should I stop trying to contact her for awhile and let her contact me? She said though that she does want to see me in 3 weeks

"So now my question is do you think she really means this?" We in cyberland can't tell you the answer to that. Only she knows.

Two things concern me. She wants a break yet she doesn't want you talking to any other girls. How long are you going to agree to this? If my partner ever wanted a break, I would decide who I wanted to talk to.

The other thing is your statement on how much you need her. If she does decide to break up with you, you are setting yourself up for a big fall. You do understand that if she breaks up with you that your world won't end. You will survive and go on.

You can't leave her alone for 3 weeks and just do your own thing without her?

You already know that you being needy, clingy, insecure, jealous, impulsive and angry is what led to this break, so why not show some cool, calm, understanding confidence and trust?

I suggest you not call or text, but write a letter of apology for being an immature boob in her time of stress and need and own your part in this fiasco, and promise greater control understanding and patience from now on.

The thing to remember is once you say it, you have to mean it and do it, or she will be very disappointed in you and a break is a break up. I mean who needs that baby crap behavior?

Normally I tell young guys to forget it from the start of the break, because usually they are hardheaded and tend to screw up worse and do things that push her away even further. You don't seem to realize the changes she is going through as she is growing, changing, and exploring the world she has been thrust in. You think this is all about you and what YOU want and its NOT. That's the understanding part, going from high school dates to real world adult couples. The rules have changed and you must adjust.

One letter and be patient for 3 weeks. Hope for the best, plan for the worst. If you cannot control yourself in a calm manner, then you have much more growing to do.