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jhaychelforever
May 23, 2013, 05:13 PM
I forgot my exact LMP, I only remember the month it was November but I forgot the date and day. What should be my due date?
I haven't seen a doctor and haven't prenatal check up. But my baby is moving and kicking is my baby OK?
teacherjenn4
May 23, 2013, 05:14 PM
How would we know if the baby is OK? Why haven't you seen a doctor? Your health and your baby's health should be important to you.
jhaychelforever
May 23, 2013, 05:17 PM
How would we know if the baby is ok? Why haven't you seen a doctor? Your health and your baby's health should be important to you.
But my concern is will I know my due date on ultra sound?
teacherjenn4
May 23, 2013, 05:18 PM
Your concern should be the health of your baby, but yes, they will give you an idea of when your baby is due with an ultrasound.
ScottGem
May 23, 2013, 05:27 PM
I agree with jenn. You have known you were pregnant for at least 4 months! Assuming your LMP was Nov you have known since Jan.
Why are you risking your child's health by not seeing a doctor? I can't believe you are being so foolish and that you are more concerned with your due date then the health of your child.
Alty
May 23, 2013, 05:27 PM
You're 6 months pregnant and you've had no prenatal care at all? Do you realize the risks you're putting yourself and the baby through?
An ultrasound is a best guess, it can be off by 2 weeks either way, a month total. Why are you so concerned about a due date and not concerned about the health of the child you're caring? There's a reason why pregnant women need medical care, there are many things that can happen during pregnancy that can affect the health of the baby and the mother.
You need prenatal care! Please tell me that at the very least you've been taking prenatal vitamins. But know that prenatal vitamins, eating healthy, not drinking, not smoking, isn't enough. There are so many things that can go wrong, things that are screened and checked during prenatal checkups. You're playing russian roulette with this babies life. See a doctor yesterday!
jhaychelforever
May 23, 2013, 06:07 PM
Hms. It's not that I'm not concern with my baby okay. I'm just confious right now. Because my mother might get mad at me if she know that I'm pregnant with my age. :( she said if I get pregnant she'll let me out of the house, my baby's father is only 17 but has work in jollibee. How could I tell this to my mother ? Im scared.
jhaychelforever
May 23, 2013, 06:10 PM
You're 6 months pregnant and you've had no prenatal care at all? Do you realize the risks you're putting yourself and the baby through?
An ultrasound is a best guess, it can be off by 2 weeks either way, a month total. Why are you so concerned about a due date and not concerned about the health of the child you're caring? There's a reason why pregnant women need medical care, there are many things that can happen during pregnancy that can affect the health of the baby and the mother.
You need prenatal care! Please tell me that at the very least you've been taking prenatal vitamins. But know that prenatal vitamins, eating healthy, not drinking, not smoking, isn't enough. There are so many things that can go wrong, things that are screened and checked during prenatal checkups. You're playing russian roulette with this babies life. See a doctor yesterday!
I'm sorry for my english guys I'm not that good in english.
ScottGem
May 23, 2013, 06:10 PM
So you are more concerned about what your mother does than the health of your baby? You should have thought of all this before you open your legs to the father.
Can't you get it through you immature head, that babies need to be cared for? You were old enough to make the decision to have sex with this boy, now take the consequences of your actions and protect your baby!
Tell your mother today, you don't think she is noticing your growing? Make a doctor's appointment tomorrow!
jhaychelforever
May 23, 2013, 06:14 PM
So you are more concerned about what your mother does than the health of your baby? You should have thought of all this before you open your legs to the father.
Can't you get it through you immature head, that babies need to be cared for? You were old enough to make the decision to have sex with this boy, now take the consequences of your actions and protect your baby!
Tell your mother today, you don't think she is noticing your growing? Make a doctor's appointment tomorrow!
My other problem is that I'm not showing. But I have a linea nigra , and my baby is moving. Why is it that I'm not showing?
Alty
May 23, 2013, 06:14 PM
hms. It's not that im not concern with my baby okay. im just confious right now. because my mother might get mad at me if she know that im pregnant with my age. :( she said if i get pregnant she'll let me out of the house, my baby's father is only 17 but has work in jollibee. How could i tell this to my mother ? Im scared.
You had sex, you thought you were mature enough to make that decision. You're going to be a mother sooner rather than later. You tell your mother, and if she kicks you out, you have to find a way to make it work. You thought you were mature enough to have sex, which means you thought you were mature enough to have a child.
Mommy can't save you now. You're going to be the mommy, so it's time to grow up and take care of the baby you chose to make. That means you need to see a doctor. You should be concerned about the baby! That should be your major concern. You are no longer a priority. That's motherhood.
You're only thinking about yourself. Well sweetie, you made your bed, now you have to lay in it. If you weren't ready to be a mom, you should have kept your pants on.
Tell your mom, but don't expect her to be happy about this, it's not a time to rejoice, you just made a major life changing decision and it for most teens it doesn't end up well. But maybe mom can help. Does she have to? No. Once you're a parent, it's up to you to take care of yourself and your child.
Tell mom. If she kicks you out, welcome to being an adult. You played adult games, now you have to figure out a way to deal with your choices.
jhaychelforever
May 23, 2013, 06:21 PM
You had sex, you thought you were mature enough to make that decision. You're going to be a mother sooner rather than later. You tell your mother, and if she kicks you out, you have to find a way to make it work. You thought you were mature enough to have sex, which means you thought you were mature enough to have a child.
Mommy can't save you now. You're going to be the mommy, so it's time to grow up and take care of the baby you chose to make. That means you need to see a doctor. You should be concerned about the baby! That should be your major concern. You are no longer a priority. That's motherhood.
You're only thinking about yourself. Well sweetie, you made your bed, now you have to lay in it. If you weren't ready to be a mom, you should have kept your pants on.
Tell your mom, but don't expect her to be happy about this, it's not a time to rejoice, you just made a major life changing decision and it for most teens it doesn't end up well. But maybe mom can help. Does she have to? No. Once you're a parent, it's up to you to take care of yourself and your child.
Tell mom. If she kicks you out, welcome to being an adult. You played adult games, now you have to figure out a way to deal with your choices.
Ok :( I will. One more thing is my mom has a problem with her heart.. If I tell this to her I don't know what will I do if something happens to her :(
ScottGem
May 23, 2013, 06:21 PM
What Alty said. And every day you delay in getting care for yourself and your baby increases the risk to the baby's health AND yours. You are a foolish girl. Stop being foolish. You did an adult thing and now have to act like an adult to protect yourself and your baby.
I doubt if her heart is that bad. What about your father, maybe you tell him first and tell your mom together.
jhaychelforever
May 23, 2013, 06:25 PM
What Alty said. And every day you delay in getting care for yourself and your baby increases the risk to the baby's health AND yours. You are a foolish girl. Stop being foolish. You did an adult thing and now have to act like an adult to protect yourself and your baby.
I doubt if her heart is that bad. What about your father, maybe you tell him first and tell your mom together.
My father died last July 2012 :(
Alty
May 23, 2013, 06:28 PM
Ok :( i will. One more thing is my mom has a problem with her heart.. If i tell this to her i don't know what will i do if something happens to her :(
Your mother is an adult. If this news affects her, she'll have to deal with that.
The fact that she told you she'd kick you out if you got pregnant, tells me she expected it to happen, because she didn't educate you, she didn't warn you. Then again, you didn't bother to educate yourself. You looked for advice and information after the fact. Very foolish.
But that's a moot point. The fact is, you're the mother now, like it or not, ready or not, you're going to be a mother. That's all on you, no one else, and you have to take care of this child. That means taking the child to the doctor. That means finding a job, a place to live, money to buy diapers, clothes, a crib, pay for doctors visits, etc. The birth alone will cost around $12,000 (which you have to pay) and that's only if nothing goes wrong. Without prenatal care, there's a good chance something will go wrong. Do you have $12,000 plus to pay the hospital just to deliver your baby? Bet you don't.
Have you considered adoption? We can help with that. Honestly, I think that's you're best option. That's the best you can do for this baby, and yourself. It won't be easy, but if you really care about what happens to this baby, you have to admit to yourself that you aren't ready to raise a human being. Please consider adoption.
Alty
May 23, 2013, 06:28 PM
My father died last July 2012 :(
I'm sorry to hear that. That has nothing to do with your pregnancy or your lack of responsibility towards the child you're carrying.
jhaychelforever
May 23, 2013, 06:36 PM
I'm sorry to hear that. That has nothing to do with your pregnancy or your lack of responsibility towards the child you're carrying.
I don't want an adoption. Because I don't want my child to get adopted because I'm adopted too. I don't let that thing happen to my child. Tomorrow I'll go to see a doctor.
Alty
May 23, 2013, 06:46 PM
I don't want an adoption. Because I don't want my child to get adopted because I'm adopted too. I don't let that thing happen to my child. Tomorrow i'll go to see a doctor.
That's very noble, but, how will you support this child if your mother kicks you out? Have you thought about that? At the very latest this child will be born in 4 months, probably less. Do you have job? Do you even know how much it takes to find a place to live and raise a child? It takes more than minimum wage even if you're working full time, and I'm guessing you don't even have a part time job.
You will have to pay the bill to give birth, at least $12,000 and that's if everything is okay. If you need a c-section, or anything is wrong with the child (which is very possible since you had no prenatal care) or you (which is also very possible) that bill will sky rocket. How will you pay it? How will you pay for diapers every month, how will you pay for formula, how will you pay for doctors visits? What if the baby is born with a medical issue, which is very possible because of your lack of maturity and lack of prenatal care? How?
So, how are you going to raise this child? It takes more than love and hope. What's your plan? Not wanting to put the child up for adoption is your choice, but that means that you have to find a way to be an adult and raise the child you chose to create and bring into this world. Does the child deserve to be stuck with someone that doesn't even have the maturity to tell her mother, that doesn't even have the common sense to see a doctor?
ScottGem
May 23, 2013, 06:51 PM
I don't want an adoption. Because I don't want my child to get adopted because I'm adopted too. I don't let that thing happen to my child. Tomorrow i'll go to see a doctor.
What does your being adopted have to do with it. Don't you understand that your birth parents were probably faced with the same choices you know face? But instead of trying to raise a child they were unprepared for, as you are, they decided to give their child to someone who could raise the child properly. That was a noble thing they did and you should be thankful to them for it.
jhaychelforever
May 23, 2013, 06:52 PM
That's very noble, but, how will you support this child if your mother kicks you out? Have you thought about that? At the very latest this child will be born in 4 months, probably less. Do you have job? Do you even know how much it takes to find a place to live and raise a child? It takes more than minimum wage even if you're working full time, and I'm guessing you don't even have a part time job.
You will have to pay the bill to give birth, at least $12,000 and that's if everything is okay. If you need a c-section, or anything is wrong with the child (which is very possible since you had no prenatal care) or you (which is also very possible) that bill will sky rocket. How will you pay it? How will you pay for diapers every month, how will you pay for formula, how will you pay for doctors visits? What if the baby is born with a medical issue, which is very possible because of your lack of maturity and lack of prenatal care? How?
So, how are you going to raise this child? It takes more than love and hope. What's your plan? Not wanting to put the child up for adoption is your choice, but that means that you have to find a way to be an adult and raise the child you chose to create and bring into this world. Does the child deserve to be stuck with someone that doesn't even have the maturity to tell her mother, that doesn't even have the common sense to see a doctor?
My boyfriend has a work and his parents already knew about this. But I don't want to be with his grandma. Bcos his grandmother is bad.
ScottGem
May 23, 2013, 06:58 PM
my boyfriend has a work and his parents already knew about this. but i don't want to be with his grandma. bcos his grandmother is bad.
His parents know, but they haven't insisted you go to the doctor?
Alty
May 23, 2013, 07:09 PM
my boyfriend has a work and his parents already knew about this. but i don't want to be with his grandma. bcos his grandmother is bad.
Then don't be with the grandma. She's not responsible to take care of your mistake anyway, you are. She doesn't have to take you in or raise you and your baby.
How old is the boyfriend? Does he work full time? What will you do when he decides he doesn't want to be a teen father? How will you survive when he leaves and takes his paycheck with him? The odds aren't in your favor that he'll stick around and support you and the baby. Also, the odds aren't good that he's making enough to do that.
You still don't get it. You spread your legs, you made this decision. You got pregnant. You're the mommy now. Not your mom, not the boyfriends grandma, not anyone but you. Boyfriends come and go, and when he leaves (which is inevitable) you'll need to find some money to take him to court and force him to pay a very small amount to care for the child he helped create (not enough to provide the care the child needs) . Even then, chances are he won't pay, which means more court dates, and more court costs. You're on your own.
So, take the boyfriend, your mom, the grandma, and everyone else out of the equation. They won't take care of this child. That leaves you. How are YOU going to care for this child? How are YOU going to pay for a place to live, diapers, formula, a crib, clothes, doctors visits, etc. etc. etc? Not your boyfriend, not his grandma, not your mom, but YOU! This is all on you, no one else. So stop trying to make it someone else's responsibility.
Fr_Chuck
May 23, 2013, 08:02 PM
It is your duty to see a doctor, and no, no one can tell you when the due date is exactly, and no one knows if the baby is OK. Most places in US have welfare or women's clinics or even county health departments to do to.
It is your responsilibity to get into the programs.