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Jessica9164
May 20, 2013, 12:57 PM
I may be pregnant by two different men.me and my current boyfriwnd broke up the first of January.I had sex woth someone else days later then me and my boyfriend got back together my due date is oct. 19 and dr. said I concepted jan 22 through 30.when exactly did I get pregnant?
busymomma2013
May 20, 2013, 12:59 PM
No way to tell. Sorry, you will have to wait until baby is born for a DNA test.
ScottGem
May 20, 2013, 01:00 PM
I think you mean to say that you may be pregnant with two possible fathers.
Calculating conception dates is an inexact science. It could be 2-3 weeks either way. So it could be this other guy. The ONLY way to tell is with a paternity test after birth.
Alty
May 20, 2013, 01:05 PM
I agree. There's no way to accurately determine the day you conceived, even an ultrasound is a best guess.
The only way to find out who the father is, is a DNA test after the baby is born.
Jessica9164
May 20, 2013, 01:06 PM
But after getting back with my current boyfriend I had one last period then the next month I didn't.. if I'm due oct 19 there's got to be a way of knowing
ScottGem
May 20, 2013, 01:08 PM
But after getting back with my current boyfriend I had one last period then the next month I didnt..if im due oct 19 theres got to be a way of knowing
Your due date is a guesstimate. Its not exact. Like I said, it could go either way. However, if you had a full period after having sex with this other guy, it is unlikely, but not impossible, he is the father.
busymomma2013
May 20, 2013, 01:09 PM
Really there is no way of knowing FOR SURE until baby is born and a DNA test is done.
Was your last period in February?
Jessica9164
May 20, 2013, 01:13 PM
No end of January and it was a normal heavy period as I always have.me and other guy had sex towards the begging of January then me and current boyfriend got back together on 10th and had sex
JudyKayTee
May 20, 2013, 01:15 PM
And, once more - without a DNA test there is no way to know the ID of the father, and I've seen crazy results.
Jessica9164
May 20, 2013, 01:21 PM
Really there is no way of knowing FOR SURE until baby is born and a DNA test is done.
Was your last period in February?my last period wa dds at the end of January
busymomma2013
May 20, 2013, 01:25 PM
Well, I guess, just like Scott said,"if you had a full period after having sex with this other guy, it is unlikely, but not impossible, he is the father."
I recommend, instead of worrying about it all day and night until the baby is here in October, to just stay focused on keeping yourself and your baby healthy.
When the baby is born, once again, get a DNA test.
Jessica9164
May 20, 2013, 01:42 PM
Well I want to say thanks for all the help.. I just wish I knew for sure.. I wouldn't worry then.
busymomma2013
May 20, 2013, 01:47 PM
I can't say that I know what you are going through. But I can say that if I were in your position I too would be worried and wanting answers. For now you will have to play the waiting game.
Does your boyfriend know that there is a possibility that he may not be the father?
Jessica9164
May 20, 2013, 02:15 PM
I can't say that I know what you are going through. But I can say that if I were in your position I too would be worried and wanting answers. For now you will have to play the waiting game.
Does your boyfriend know that there is a possibility that he may not be the father?
No he don't this is why I'm so worries
busymomma2013
May 20, 2013, 02:20 PM
Well, now is the time to be honest with him. The longer you keep it from him the worse it could make the situation. Telling him will help you feel better too.
Jessica9164
May 20, 2013, 02:22 PM
Well, now is the time to be honest with him. The longer you keep it from him the worse it could make the situation. Telling him will help you feel better too.your right but you don't understand the type of man I'm with.. I didn't cheat.qe were separated and he waa doing hia own thing.
busymomma2013
May 20, 2013, 02:25 PM
You're right. I have no clue what kind of man you are with. Are you scared to tell him because he might hurt you physically? Or mentally?
I understand that you were separated and that you did not cheat.
Jessica9164
May 20, 2013, 02:30 PM
You're right. I have no clue what kind of man you are with. Are you scared to tell him because he might hurt you physically? Or mentally?
I understand that you were separated and that you did not cheat.
Yes.we have a daugter togther and I don't was our family torn apart
busymomma2013
May 20, 2013, 02:42 PM
Unfortunately for you, you are going to have to tell your boyfriend. Either he finds out now or he finds out when the baby is born. This is something that you will not be able to keep from him. Unless the baby comes out a spitting image of your boyfriend.
Put yourself in his shoes. Wouldn't you rather know now instead of later? I know I would.
ScottGem
May 20, 2013, 02:49 PM
your right but u dont understand the type of man im with..i didnt cheat.qe were seperated and he waa doin hia own thing.
So you were on a break. You were free to be with other men. So why the big deal?
JudyKayTee
May 21, 2013, 06:02 AM
I agree with Scott - you were on a break, both doing your own thing (so to speak). You know intercourse can lead to pregnancy - you have a child. What is the big concern (unless you weren't on a "have sex with other people" break)?
If this is going to tear your family apart it's going to happen whether you find out now or later who the father is - and it's going to be later, after DNA testing.