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ziggycarter4
Apr 25, 2013, 07:37 AM
We do not live in the same state as my grandparents, who we were always close to. My Aunt has taking over care of them since she is retired and can afford to. My grandparents are worth a lot of money, She has cut off communication from us and will not let us talk to them. She cut us out of her life after my Dad (her brother passed on 10 years ago). My Grandfather has had an amputation but is now at home along with my grandmother who has dementia real bad. We can not find out how they are and the phone is not answered. She is in the process of being my grandmothers guardian. We know that my grandparents are not getting the proper care that they can afford. If we go there she will not let us in. Something is not right and we feel that she will get the power to change the will which includes my brother and me. What options do we have. Can we call family welfare?

JudyKayTee
Apr 25, 2013, 09:40 AM
Where? If your Grandparents are not capable of making decisions they cannot write a new Will which will withstand a Will contest.

Are you saying you've had no contact in 10 years?

You can ask the Police to do a Welfare check, particularly if you go to the house and no one will let you in.

If, however, it is your Grandparents' decision not to see you there is little you can do. You could, of course, go to Court and PROVE they are not being properly cared for and PROVE they are incompetent and cannot make legal decisions.

ScottGem
Apr 25, 2013, 09:53 AM
Depending on where they live there may be an Elder Care agency that can investigate. Otherwise I would go to the local District Attorney or Prosecutor's office and ask that an investigation be done.

But yes, the guardian can keep you away until an investigation is done.

ziggycarter4
Apr 28, 2013, 07:29 AM
My Aunt is taking care of my grandparents at my grandparents house. Both of grandparents need medical care. My Aunt does not have any legal guardianship over them yet. She will not let us talk to them on the phone as I live out of state. Do I have any rights . I am very concerned about their well being. What can I do? From what little I can find out my grandfather, who has had a leg amputation and my grandmother who has dementia bad only has medical help come to their house 2 times a week. They can afford to have the best care. I don't understand why they do not have the care they need and can not get any answers.

ScottGem
Apr 28, 2013, 07:32 AM
Please don't start multiple threads over the same issue. I've merged your two threads. Please post any follow-up as a response to this thread.

You received a few responses to your initial post asking for more info so we can help.

teacherjenn4
Apr 28, 2013, 07:33 AM
Can you make a visit?

joypulv
Apr 28, 2013, 07:40 AM
I would hire a lawyer where they live. Unless you are willing to travel and stay in a hotel for a week trying to get social services and their doctors involved. You can cut down on the hourly lawyer charges by trying to get medical records and other facts.

Often these stories boil down to the caretaker feeling that the distant relatives didn't care and didn't help. Legally, that isn't much to stand on. It just explains the emotions.