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desireelyn101
Apr 21, 2013, 08:25 PM
Well, I am with my boyfriend of 6 months and well when we started dating he was the sweetest guy ever!. Well after about 3 months of knowing him we ended up getting pregnant. Yes, stupid I know... Well by about well last month he started to show a side to him that I never thought he had. He started to get angry really! Fast. Which now he tells me that he only gets as mad as he does with me. Which I don't know if that's true or not. Well I am 5 months pregnant with his child and he has started to verbally abuse me. I have constantly asked him to stop calling me what he calls me.. He tells me he will stop but then he starts to continue the names again in the next argument we get into and the names are just getting worse & worse. Today we had gotten in a huge fight in his car over something really pointless and he proceeded to get angrier and angrier until he was attempting to get into car crashes, he refused to let me out of the car, he refused to take me home, he was punching the steering wheel, the middle console thing, and screaming he was going to kill us. I started to scream that I wanted to get out and I wanted to go home then when I was screaming he covered my mouth with his hand. He grabbed my arm which as of now I have 4 very noticeable bruises on my upper arm. I busted my lip open trying to get out of the car. My chest above my left breast is bruised and swollen. As soon as he saw my mouth was covered in blood he stopped everything he was doing to me and he was trying to comfort me and kept telling me to calm down. Now I am stuck on what to do because after all of this.. I am 5 months almost 6 months pregnant with his baby and I have no way to support the baby. I am emotionally unable to work. My mother isn't going to let the baby stay in her home. I need advice on what to do for my unborn child and how to get rid of him because he knows where all my family lives and my friends. Please help me.

Alty
Apr 21, 2013, 09:51 PM
What issues do you have that you are not able to work? I've never heard of being emotionally unable to work.

Have you considered giving the child up for adoption? Obviously you can't stay with this man, it's not safe, and he will only get worse, not better. You can't afford to support this child, so really, you have three options, you can stay with an abusive man who will likely end up killing you one day, and your child. You can get over you emotional inability to work, find a job and support yourself and your child, or you can give your baby up for adoption and find a way to get back on your feet without him or the child.

If you leave him he will be responsible to pay child support, but you'll need to take him to court to establish that, and court isn't free. Child support won't be enough for you to live on your own and care for a child. You could go to a woman's shelter, but they can't and won't let you stay there indefinitely. Sooner or later you're going to have to find a way to stand on your own two feet.

Good luck.

J_9
Apr 21, 2013, 09:53 PM
Darlin', why haven't you called the police? That's the first step in getting him out.

Fr_Chuck
Apr 21, 2013, 10:36 PM
Call the police and file a report. Next of course you can work, find a job, go to a women's shelter, go back home to mom, just get out of his house

Homegirl 50
Apr 22, 2013, 06:26 AM
Call the police and get yourself into a shelter. Get away from this guy so you can think clearly and decide what to do.