Sometime in June last year, I posted on this forum the trouble I was in regarding my relationship. In summary, I fell in love with a girl who had a boyfriend but had same feelings for me. She promised to breakup with the old guy but needed time. 90% of the contributors advised that I should walk away. Details can be read from the post;

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/she-has-boyfriend-but-wants-see-me-again-before-deciding-if-she-will-date-me-688075.html

However despite the advice I got, I decided to give the one I loved a little time. I stopped bothering her about the other guy and gave her the time she needed. Since then, its been days rolling into weeks, weeks rolling into months and ultimately 2012 ended with no change in the status quo.

The new year started beautifully for the three of us (as I would put it) again. She doesn't live with neither of us as she was a student based in a campus that practically no student is allowed to exit unless on breaks. However, whenever she manages to leave the school, she comes to my place and spend some time with me. She often swears to me she doesn't visit the guy but was still in contact with him and that she was still working on plans to break up with him. In spite of her seemingly sincere claims that I am the one she truly loves, I still see love messages to and from the guy in her phone. I must say that she was doing a very good job keeping two guys at the same time and managing to satisfy both and keeping it as a secret to the other guy who was certainly the first in the picture.

To cut the long story short, just recently, circumstances that made me doubt her honesty and sincerity came forth and I became really uncomfortable knowing I had a rival hence I brought back the old unanswered question. Her responses proved simply that she is still confused and neither knows who she wants to be with nor whether she was ready to let any of us go but like always still claimed that she loves me still. I felt disappointed and betrayed. I managed to summon the courage to give her two options; either she decides to be with me and leave him totally or be with him and end things with me as I can no longer afford to share the girl I love with another man. I told her I would give her time to make up her mind and let me know when she decides.

Its been two days now and I haven't heard from her and its really killing me. I don't know if I have done the right thing. Please people I need your advise, suggestions, opinions on this. What should I do now?

She will choose him, no one likes to be ordered to chose. Next there was no reason she had to, she was not ready and wanted to date both, which left you free to date others also.

Your issue, you keep using the love word, you did not love her before you started dating, you had feelings, based on how you knew her, but she had a boyfriend and you needed to have walked away then. If she would dump him for you, she will do same to you.

You need as the same before, walk away

So you are saying I shouldn't have continued with her at all in the first place and whether she chooses me I should still just walk away?

I would have never have given my heart to one that was in a relationship in the first place and certainly would not continued with her when I found out she was lying about the guy to you, and obviously to him.

You could have saved the whole mess by taking the suggestions given you in your previous question, and should do so now.

Walk away, and stay away. No further negotiating with this liar. No need to be a snoop either, and that's a red flag you can no longer ignore. There was no trust, probably never will be, and certainly no honest communication.

Hope you had fun.

Ok I have heard you all, thanks a lot but one more thing. Considering my last words to her, it appears there will be need for a final communication between us during which she will let her decision known to me. So if eventually she says she has chosen to be with me and will dump the other guy should I still walk away? If yes what should I say to her before walking? If on the other hand she says it's the other guy, what should I say before walking? If none happens to be the case and she doesn't call me within a certain period to make her decision known to me, what should I do and how long should I wait for her response before doing whatever it is that should be done

Ok I have heard you all, thanks a lot but one more thing. Considering my last words to her, it appears there will be need for a final communication between us during which she will let her decision known to me.
Why do you insist on prolonging this agony? No "final communication" has to happen. Walk away. She's a cheat and a liar. Have some self esteem and some pride in yourself.

I must admit its been really tough making up my mind to walk away but I definetely have to and I will. At the moment, the only impression she has is that I am giving her time to decide not that I have quit so do I have to tell her that I have taken a decision or should I just assume that its over and let her figure it out by herself.

Once YOU make a decision, it IS over. There are no more assumptions on your part. Its just sticking to your decision.

You are no longer waiting for her decision no matter what it is. To continue to talk to her is what got you here yet again. As an insecure snoop. That's what this relationship made you and that's not healthy.

Disappear, and use your caller ID wisely.

Once YOU make a decision, it IS over. There are no more assumptions on your part. Its just sticking to your decision.

You are no longer waiting for her decision no matter what it is. To continue to talk to her is what got you here yet again. As an insecure snoop. That's what this relationship made you and that's not healthy.

Disappear, and use your caller ID wisely.

This really is the best thing to do but there is a little problem. There are stuffs that belong to me (that are important to me) in her possession and she's got some of her stuffs in my place too. What should I do about that?

You don't have to tell her anything. You have already waited around for how long? She is not leaving this guy, why should she? She had you both and you allowed it.
Walk away from this. Don't take any calls texts or emails from her. Be done. Walk away with some dignity.