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need_help_101
Apr 17, 2013, 09:34 AM
I have been talking to a girl for 3 over months and we have been dating for over 2 months. The first 2 and 1/2 months were perfect! We spent almost every day together and talked all the time when we were at work. We both were talking about our long term future together and things I thought were going great.

But a couple weeks ago she started acting strange (being distant) and asking for space to "deal with her stuff" She swears up and down that it has nothing to do with me and they are her issues and continually tells me I am an amazing person. So we stopped seeing each other every day but she kept wanting more time away. I know she has been really stressed about work and her other job as a cheer coach and all the time and energy that takes. Plus trying to fit in things she enjoys like working out or hanging out with friends, plus trying to find time to spend with me.

Now she wants a break. I love this girl and she says she loves me but she needs some time and space. What do I do? Do I give her that time or is this her way of telling me I just don’t have time for you and break it off? Any one that has experienced this or can offer some advice I would be very grateful, thanks!

JudyKayTee
Apr 17, 2013, 10:16 AM
"It's not you, it's me" is the oldest break up line there is. I've used it myself.

If she says she needs time to herself, time outside the relationship, something else, I'd respect her wishes. I know it's hard to sit and wait to see what she's going to do but I don't see that you have a choice.

talaniman
Apr 23, 2013, 07:41 AM
You give her what she asked for and let her get to her issues by leaving her alone and go back to the fun you were having before. When she gets caught up with her life, she will call. If not, you will be enjoying your own life, right?

It was fun while it lasted, now move on to the next adventure.

tita1
Apr 23, 2013, 08:25 AM
Mabye she thinks really want to have some time away to re-think about you and her.Sometimes love is there,but the couple may not understand each other,have you argued you too about stuff for long time? Or have she asked you things and you had opposite opinions? If you deeply really want her.. just give her that space she wants.. and don't put much stress on her,if she would come back then there may be other chance,if not.. it's not the end of the world.. put a smile and keep going.. like a boss :)

Homegirl 50
Apr 23, 2013, 04:33 PM
Give her space and go on with your life. The relationship was 2 months long, just a spit in time.