I really need help with question. I need to loss a lot of weight. I am only 16 years and my weight is 88kg and my hight is 1m74cm. It horrible for me to look at myself in the mirror blugg. I don't ah on answer for my question. I tried to be anorexic but the resalts where nothing. I don't know it bulimia I my best way to go?

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You tried anorexia? And now thinking of bulimia? You might as well commit suicide if you try bulimia, and thank god the anexoria didn't work!

You are male or female? Let me know and I will give you some tips, but at l6, your weight will fluctuate for a few more years yet. Healthy eating, combined with daily physical activity always works. What acitivites are you involved in at school? Do you have meals a day without junk food?

[QUOTE=tickle;3441821] I'm female and yes I do have physical activity at school but it just to frustrating being that kid. Everyone is so skinny and I'm just fat. You don't think I've tried eating right? IT DOES NOT WORK!

[QUOTE=tickle;3441821] I'm female and yes I do have physical activity at school but it just to frustrating being that kid. Everyone is so skinny and I'm just fat. You don't think ive tryed eating right? IT DOES NOT WORK!
The best way is to go to your pediatrician and have a physical. Let the doctor rule out any health issues, then give you a healthy eating/exercise plan meant just for you.

I think teach has a good idea, only because of your age. At 16 dieting should not be a benchmark, especially when your body will change physically over the next four years. But yes, physical activity and adjusting your caloric intake really does work, you just have to find the right balance and it doesn't happen instantly.

Walking one mile, 20 minutes a day, would do wonders for you and you would see the difference in a month. The simple plan always works best in my view.

The things you named, just ruins your health,

First you need to find out, if there is some medical issue.

Next your parents will have to get behind you, since it means changing often the food that is being cooked at home.

The things you named, just ruins your health,

First you need to find out, if there is some medical issue.

Next your parents will have to get behind you, since it means changing often the food that is being cooked at home.

My parents even tell me that I have to loss weight but they don't even help me with the type of food I eat. They just surve me and that all. I really don't have no one to go to.

Whatever they serve you, reduce your portions; be your own advocate if you want to lose weight, but as I said, your body will be changing so much over the next four years.

Ok I'll do that and then what. Who going to help me after

Hey, CMG 1.

Okay, so you want to lose some weight? You have to work on it yourself! Eat healthy, means no junk food and consuming smaller portions of your plate, exercising is also important. If you do this routinely, than I am sure your family will notice how much you want this and will probably help you; that is how you gain the support you need, you earn it yourself. Show, don't tell, them that you are serious about this.

I know it is hard to go on with this by yourself, so I suggest that you set a schedule, for the days you decide to exercise, set short/long-term goals for how much weight you want to lose, and reward yourself every time you achieve a goal you reach. This will take few months; nothing works like magic, if you want something than you have to work hard for it.

If you can't do this by yourself than ask someone close to you for help, you can still see a doctor and ask him/her for help if this does not work for you.

I have no support from no one my dad is always working and my mom well she always with my sis. I can't do anywhere by myself only school. And I've tried every diet and the results are 0. I have no one to go to.

I don't know what I should do. What should I do anorexic or bulimic? Ive tried every single diet, but there is no turn out. I need answers not " go to the doctor and get help" I need really suggestions.

You have had answers suggestions, good ones too, in every response to your previous post. And really, please don't start new threads for this, you already have one. >threads merged<

What should you do, you are asking us to suggest two particularly lethal ways of losing weight, anorexic, or bulimia?

You are l6 for heavens sake, you don't need to diet, just watch what you eat and how much you physically participate.

CMG 1, Your diet may not work at first because fat burns less calories than muscles; you can lift weights to gain more muscle, it could be because you are not doing it right, it could be that you are consuming more calories even when you eat a little, it could be something else... for this reason ask your parents to take you to see a doctor.

Edit: How long have you been on a diet? And what kind of exercising do you do?

[QUOTE=Zea;3442028] The only thing I eat is:
Fruit, veggies and water. I what else do I have to do. And I love sports I play sport every day for an 1h20min. My parents are to busy to listen to me. All of my family is also in their own world to know about my. Ive had so many cruches and what do they do laugh at me that all. I have no one else to see.

"cruches" What does this mean?

For how long have you been exercising?

Eating fruits and veggies only is not healthy for anyone.

Okay, no worries, You can talk to your school counselor. Be honest, and tell him/her what bothers you.

[QUOTE=Zea;3442039]"crushes" that meansthe guys are hot I like them the laugh at me every single guy does that.

I exersise every single say for an 1h and 25min. I don't want to take to no school person. I don't want to let no one to find out about my personal live. I'm taking to u cauze I don't know u and u don't know me but for me to take to some one that does know me.

I think that bulimia is the same as using the bathroom except it comes out the other way.

This is bulimia

Bulimia nervosa - MayoClinic.com (http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/bulimia/DS00607)

You problem isn't your weight - your problem is your open resentment of your family and the way you believe they are treating you.

You are not going to solve a physical issue (weight) until you come to terms with your emotional problem. If you are considering ruining your health by "developing" (or at least practicing) vomiting and starvation as means of weight control you have more problems than we can address here. You are also an insult to everyone who does suffer from bulimia and anorexia - they are diseases, not play toys.

Your attitude, by the way, is confrontational, and unnecessarily so. No one here deserves your attitude. We aren't your problem.

Zea, what does this mean: "CMG 1, Your diet may not work at first because fat burns less calories than muscles ..."

JudyKayTee, I have no attitude
I just have no one to take to I'm already an anorexic (not at a 100% I eat very little like fruit and veggies and well water). I'm not blaming no one for my problems I'm just looking for help but from people I don't know OK. If I made u feel bad then I'm sorry OK I didn't mean to.

So you are not willing to talk with a real-life person about this?

You didn't make me feel bad but re-read what you've posted. You ignore all suggestions and it's frustrating for the people trying to help you.

Anorexics aren't people who only eat fruits and veggies and drink well water. If, in fact, this is all you are doing and you are not losing weight something is very, very wrong - or you aren't telling us the truth. I'm not saying it's healty. I'm just saying you either aren't living on fruits and veggies alone or something else is going on.

[QUOTE=JudyKayTee;3442070]I am being completely honest. I only eat that and not even all day I eat only my breakfast with that and for the rest of the day I play sports and drink water. I don't do anything else. I've tried to throw up right after eating and I can't get anything going back up. Jaja I've even tried standing on head to help it come back but nothen. The first time it did work but now it doesn't. I just need to know if it because of all of my school, parents, work stress that isn't helping me to make my food throw up or is it because I'm not doing it right.

is it because im not doing it right.
No, you're not doing it right.

No, you're not doing it right.
So then what do I do and how do I make it right. How do I make myself throw up every time I put my finger in my throat. And how long does it take until my body gets used to that for the food to come back

so then what do i do and how do i make it right. how do i make myself throw up everytime i put my finger in my throat. and how long does it take until my body gets used to that for the food to come back
No, that is not what to do. If you do that, your body will think it is starving and then will not allow you to lose weight.

Tell me more about your family. How old is your sister?

What sports do you play for an hour and twenty minutes each day?

Why do you want o know about my family? Are you OK. I just want to know what is better if I starve then my body will eat my fat then ill become skinny but if I throw up then I know that I eat but nothing will be inside me.

why do u want o know about my family? are you ok. i just want to know what is better if i starve then my body will eat my fat then ill become skinny but if i throw up then i know that i eat but nothing will be inside me.
You tell me -- why would I want to know about your family?

No, you won't get skinnier at first, but then you will eventually get sick and die.

Do you have learning problems and are in special ed or are mainstreamed at school?

This is a losing battle for us to explain to you you are on the wrong path; by trying you will make yourself sick, lose school time. But wait, yes I know what you want, you want to draw your moms attention to yourself and away from your sister right. Well it will do that but at the expense of your health.

I am done with giving you my time, CMG.

CMG 1, you do need to talk to someone about this. Maybe, you can talk to your parents about what you have been trying lately. You are seriously trying to hurt yourself. It is frustrating not to have someone you can rely on at all times, maybe you are trying to get someone's attention, in a way that you don't even realize. Trying and being honest with your parents will maybe make them see that you need more attention; communication is important, and that is what must be happening in a family. Don't start arguing just tell them how you feel, there must be a reason to why you want to lose weight so badly, and so impatiently. Losing weight takes time, months of hard work.

Also, you can eat everything you want to, not only vegetables and fruits, it will not make you gain weight as long as you eat in the right portions. You are only 16 you don't need to be doing something so extreme that can harm you, take it easy and give it some time. By the way, all eating disorders are deadly, I am not trying to scare you, but I am telling you were you are heading.

I believe the OP is seeking attention - good, bad, indifferent. The more "we" feed into this the worse it will get.

All the explaining and pleading in the world will make no difference. There are serious issues which I, for one, do not feel qualified to deal with.

Tickle said it best - time to be done with this.

I think it's time to close.

This is a loosing battle for us to explain to you you are on the wrong path; by trying you will make yourself sick, lose school time. But wait, yes i know what you want, you want to draw your moms attention to yourself and away from your sister right. Well it will do that but at the expense of your health.

I am done with giving you my time, CMG.

The truth is that I would like to get some attenstion from my mom but every time I take to her its like I'm talking to a wall. I think a wall understands my more then my mom :( :,(. I do think that anorexic and bulimic people are crazy and stupid but they do give results so if that's what I have to do to be skinny then I will. I don't want you to feel that you are wasting your time with me I just need some one to listen to me and well to comfort me. And I know that you can't huge me right now but it really does help to express the way I feel, my opinions, and my ideas and to get help.

Zea, what does this mean: "CMG 1, Your diet may not work at first because fat burns less calories than muscles ..."


What I mean is that muscle tissue burns more calories than fat tissue does. Sorry, I was unclear.

i do think that anorexic and bulimic people are crazy and stupid but they do give results so if thats what i have to do to be skinny then i will.
No, they don't get results. They die slow painful deaths.

Do you have learning problems at school?

[QUOTE=Zea;3442132] Im actually crying right now. I wold love to do that and do what every single one of you is telling my but I just... I don't know I can't do anything right. I'm so disgusted with the way I look. I have no guy friends only 3 OK girl friend. Home time is the only time I feel good but while I do my HW because I forget everything. But once I finish I just feel like throwing up is the only way I forgive and forget. I don't know. :,(

No, they don't get results. They die slow painful deaths.

Do you have learning problems at school? Yes everyday since grade 4

Yes everyday since grade 4
How old is your sister? Is she smart and in school?

It's okay, accepting and admitting is not wrong.

You are shortening your time on earth... I know that this is not what you want. Talk to your school counselor, say what is on your mind. You are slowly extinguishing yourself, I promise you this is not worth it. There are bad parents, worse than in your case, but thank God yours are not that bad. For this reason you can fix this by trying to talk to your school counselor. You have to open this subject and accept the suggestions you get. I know it is hard, and it is all right to cry. You can fix things, you have to speak with your school counselor.

Edit: Sorry for interrupting, you can speak here too.

How old is your sister? Is she smart and in school?

I thought that you where saying if I had problems in school so I said yes since grade 4 but I don't have any learning probles am a 85-100% student.

And yes my sis is in school. And yes she's also smart the same GPA as mine.

i thought that you where saying if i had problems in school so i said yes since grade 4 but i dont have any learning probles am a 85-100% student.

and yes my sis is in school. and yes shes also smart the same GPA as mine.



What kind of problems do you face in school?

What kind of problems do you face in school?

Always bullying

"Bullying" Report all Bullies to a teacher, counselor, to anyone.

"Sorry for interrupting, you can speak here, too". Who are you addressing?

Wondergirl who actually has a degree (and more than one) in the counselling field?

I don't think telling a person that her parents could be worse is helpful.

Now, back to the OP - what do you do well? Sports? A hobby? Something else? If you have a learning disabiity is it treated? Who diagnosed you?

I think having 3 good female friends is a pretty good record. Not everyone has a boyfriend. Not everyone wants a boyfriend. Your life should not hinge on that.

" 'Sorry for interrupting, you can speak here, too'. Who are you addressing?" I meant the OP.

You realize OP is in the UK (from what I'm reading) and the rules concerning bullying are very different.

To OP - what forms does the bullying take? Why are you bullied?

I am concerned that this might be conceived to be a blog. I trust WG will jump in here soon. I hesitate to give advice when the OP is greatly troubled because I am not a trained health professional. She is.

I am addressing all of you that are helping me here right know. The sport I play are: soccer, baseball, basketball, badminton, cricket, flag football, snow bowl, bowling. And my hobbies are drawing, acting, singing, playing the guitar, playing the sax.

I also said 3 OK female friends not the best. And I did tell a teacher about the bullying problem but they just continue. And I don't have any learning disability. I thought that she was saying if I had any school problem.

I do try to eat normally but every time I do eat I feel like it poison so I go to the bathroom. The only thing that does come out id a little bit of food not that much though. And I know that B and an A is not the best way to go but... I don't now I just feel like I don't belong like everything in my life is going wrong because of all of my weight.

You realize OP is in the UK
Not quite.

I trust WG will jump in here soon. I hesitate to give advice when the OP is greatly troubled because I am not a trained health professional. She is.
I'm here again, was working on my family tree and am trying to root out German ancestors.

everything in my life is going wrong because of all of my weight.
Thanks for all the info about sports and stuff.

No, your weight is not why things are going wrong.

Let 's talk about the bullying. Tell me more about what happens.

Thanks for all the info about sports and stuff.

No, your weight is not why things are going wrong.

Then... why is my life going wrong. I try my best at everything but I can't get any weight to go down. The only thing that goes right is all of my sports and hobbies but that's all, weelll, my grades.

I have nothing besides myself and I don't like myself. I feel that if wold disappear (go to some other place) nobody would miss me.

I have nothing besides myself and i dont like myself. i feel that if wold disappear (go to some other place) nobody would miss me.
Bingo! You don't like yourself. That's why things don't go right. It has NOTHING to do with your weight.

Tell me about the bullying. What happens? Tell me about one of the times.

Bingo! You don't like yourself. That's why things don't go right. It has NOTHING to do with your weight.

Tell me about the bullying. What happens? Tell me about one of the times.

Well I was going to go to Careers and the seat that I normally sit was taken to I went to go sit somewhere else (I normally see that no one else sits). Put then this girl comes out of no where and tells me" hay i sit there so move" I said to her " no u sit over there(i now where everyone sits because im very detailed) then she said " no I want to sit here today" then i said "OK sit that's fine" but then she turns around and said very loudly" some people shouldn't even be here or just a life" everyone laughed looked at me and well I think you know what happens next.

I started to cry( we had a test that day and I failed it completely) when I got home to finally be home I went to take to my mom and all she said was this big lecture about getting bad marks and not going to UNIVERSITY.

And there's more way more where that came from

well i was going to go to Careers and the seat that i normally sit was taken
Okay, thanks. I understand and can imagine that you have endured more episodes like this one. I feel a connection to you. My initials used to be CJG. Are CMG your initials?

Would you be willing to work with me a little bit to improve the situation?

Okay, thanks. I understand and can imagine that you have endured more episodes like this one. I feel a connection to you. My initials used to be CJG. Are CMG your initials?

Would you be willing to work with me a little bit to improve the situation?

Yea CMG are my initials. What do I have to do. But tell me first what I should do with my beginning bulimia stuff? I really need some one to take to.(just know that I'm opening my heart to you(ive never none that before with no one not even my parents) I just hope that your really do help me and not just playing around with me) I've never had some one take to me like that.

PS. I feel very good and happy that someone is really taking to me the way you are. Thanks

But please what do I have to do.

Well CMG, I am not as callous as I sounded earlier, and I can ((((hug)))) you, but not in real time Sorry I upset you.

You are in the UK, yes ? My son, from Germany, just took a trip to Scotland last week with his live in g/f and they had a great time. They said it was just so beautiful to see, with the heather out.

He was bullied in school too, but overcame it by fighting back, easier for a guy to do I know, but he had good friends too. He was really great in school, yes, much older now of course and moved from Canada to Germany to work.

Good things can come from winning the game of being bullyed, so keep on coming back and talking to us please.

Any problems you have, talk them out here and we will help the best we can.

Tick

but please what do i have to do.
First, I have to tell you I am a real-life counselor and have worked with kids to help them with school problems. I can't really counsel you here because it's not in real life (I wish we lived closer to each other!), but maybe I can get things started for you to improve your life. Okay? Are you still with me?

Well CMG, I am not as callous as I sounded earlier, and I can ((((hug)))) you,

Thanks. No I'm in Canada. Well I think that you said about just committing seaside isn't the best way to go(you said that in the 1 message) but I'm beginning to feel a need to throw up everything I eat. (bulimia symptoms) I think that I should go see a doctor but I have no DL, I will not go on a Trying to conceive (public transportation) and my parents well... wouldn't care. So I don't know what I should do. Besides talking here and letting my feeling lose and open my heart but I also need someone that could really be here with me. NOBODY FROM SCHOOL NO NO AND NO!!

I already have them laughing at me for the way I look, I don't need people to start laughing at me because I have a problem.

First, I have to tell you I am a real-life counselor and have worked with kids to help them with school problems. I can't really counsel you here because it's not in real life (I wish we lived closer to each other!), but maybe I can get things started for you to improve your life. Okay? Are you still with me?

What do you mean that you can't COUNSEL my? Just one question where do you live?

What do I have to do to "Improve my life" my live can't get better nomatter what I do

what do you mean that you can't COUNSEL my? Just one question where do you live?
I mean I can't sit down with you in real life and chat and figure out stuff and how to improve things for you. I live near Chicago.

what do I have to do to "Improve my life" my live can't get better nomatter what I do
Yes, it can. I know things that work.

I mean I can't sit down with you in real life and chat and figure out stuff and how to improve things for you. I live near Chicago.

Yes, it can. I know things that work.

Oh yea that's to bad we can't live closer. What do I have to do?

Here are some suggestions:

How do you deal with eating problems? Don't fight it by trying to make yourself through up, you can eat anything you want just stop before you are full. Doing this will not make you gain weight.

How can you lose weight? Don't stop exercising, and give it more time before you can see any difference. You mentioned in one of your previous comments that you might have bulimia, it might be nothing but I think that you should see a doctor just in case.

How do you deal with bullies? Stay out of their way, don't challenge them, don't show them that their words hurt you or they will know that it works on you, next time report this to a counselor not a teacher. I don't think that all teachers know how to deal with this.

How do you improve you life? Continue studying to do better in school, tighten your friendship bond with your three friends or make newer friends.

Do you have any questions, or need help with something else? Just ask if you do.

WG, will probably give you a better advice when she comes back.

Here are some suggestions:

How do you deal with eating problems? Don't fight it by trying to make yourself through up, you can eat anything you want just stop before you are full. Doing this will not make you gain weight.

How can you lose weight? Don't stop exercising, and give it more time before you can see any difference. You mentioned in one of your previous comments that you might have bulimia, it might be nothing but I think that you should see a doctor just in case.

How do you deal with bullies? Stay out of their way, don't challenge them, don't show them that their words hurt you or they will know that it works on you, next time report this to a counselor not a teacher. I don't think that all teachers know how to deal with this.

How do you improve you life? Continue studying to do better in school, tighten your friendship bond with your three friends or make newer friends.

Do you have any questions, or need help with something else? Just ask if you do.

WG, will probably give you a better advice, when she comes back.

I do stay out of the bullies ways they just come to me and bother me. Do u might now how much $ it is to see a psychologist or a doc. I don't know what to do I was talking to WG but I wish she was here so I could take to her in person.

I

I don't know how much it can cost to see a psychologist or a doctor. I don't live in Canada. I think that, WG, will be back and she will probably tell you what are some of your choices.

I don't know how much it can cost to see a psychologist or a doctor, I don't live in Canada. I think that, WG, will be back and she will probably tell you what are some of your choices.

Ok thanks but what do u think I might have? Every time I eat but when I'm all alone I feel the need to throw up. I don't know but ever time I'm with people and like school I don't feel like eating so I don't know what I have to do.

Well, it is important to tell you that I am not a doctor. Giving a diagnosis online is dangerous you are going to have to see a doctor, and for that to happen you must talk to your parents. Don't guess their reactions you must tell them about this.

Ok thanks but what do u think I might have? Everytime I eat but when I'm all alone I feel the need to throw up. I don't know but ever time I'm with people and like school I don't feel like eating so I dont know what I have to do.
I'm back. I had gotten some important phone calls and had to talk for a while.

Is there anything you will eat and enjoy?

I'm back. I had gotten some important phone calls and had to talk for a while.

Is there anything you will eat and enjoy?

I didn't say that the food come back up. I just said that I feel the need to trow up. I try to see if I feel better but nothing comes out. And I don't know what to do.

I didnt say that the food come back up. I just said that I feel the need to trow up. I try to see if I feel better but nothing comes out. And I don't know what to do.
What do you like to eat and will do so with no problem?

What do you like to eat and will do so with no problem?

Idk like water, and very little amount of food like grilled fish

Idk like water, and very little amount of food like grilled fish
Is there a fruit you like?

Is there a fruit you like?

I like watermelon, cantaloupe

I like watermelon, cantaloupe
Yummy! Now, how about vegetables?

I like watermelon, cantaloupe sorry I also like peaches, pairs.
And all veggies except Tomatoes,onions, brussel sprout, and celery

sorry I also like peaches, pairs.
And all veggies except Tomatos,onions, brussel sprout, and celery
Broccoli and cauliflower? I had asparagus for lunch yesterday.

Broccoli and cauliflower? I had asparagus for lunch yesterday.

Yea I like broccoli and cauliflower. Cooked on steam. Ive never tried asparagus.

Yea I like broccoli and cauliflower. Cooked on steam. Ive never tryed asparagus.
So if you and I got together and fixed our own supper, we could make grilled fish, a nice fruit salad, steamed broccoli (with cheese sauce or butter on it?), and what for dessert?

So if you and I got together and fixed our own supper, we could make grilled fish, a nice fruit salad, steamed broccoli (with cheese sauce or butter on it?), and what for dessert?

I don't like cheese that much and butter. But if we would get together that would be good but not at my house. So I don't know where we could get together. And for dessert I don't know I like chocolate but only very little. I don't like caramel,or BS. But maybe have... I really dk

I don't like cheese that much and butter. But if we would get together that would be good but not at my house. So I don't know where we could get together. And for dessert I don't know I like chocolate but only very little. I don't like caramel,or BS. But maybe have... I really dk
Well, unfortunately we aren't able to get together, but now I know there are foods that you like and will eat. I plan to make chocolate brownies in about fifteen minutes, so I will be thinking of you while I am making them and then smelling them while they bake. Do you like brownies?

I'm also thinking it is time for you to go to bed. What about that?

Can I ask you something? Do u have kids? If one of your kids would pass through what most teens pass through(like all of this) what would you do?
Sorry for it being such a personal question

can I ask u something? Do u have kids? If one of ur kids would pass through what most teens pass through(like all of this) what would u do?
Sorry for it being such a personal question
You can ask me anything.

I have two sons (adults now), but no daughters. If one of them went through something like this, I would make sure he knows I love him very much and would find just the right person to help him with the eating problem and with the bullying problem.

One of my sons is autistic, so I could keep you up all night with stories about him and things that have given him problems -- and how he has conquered those problems.

Bedtime, and we will talk more tomorrow?

Well, unfortunately we aren't able to get together, but now I know there are foods that you like and will eat. I plan to make chocolate brownies in about fifteen minutes, so I will be thinking of you while I am making them and then smelling them while they bake. Do you like brownies?

I'm also thinking it is time for you to go to bed. What about that?

Ive realyhavent had a brownie since I was amout 13 and well there OK.

Im really thank full to have found you here. I can open my mouth(in this case a message) jaja without to worry about people laughing. And I think that going to bed is a good choice, just to think about our conversation. Really do appreciate the time your giving me. Its has been the longest time I've ever had someone talk to me and about me for once(I'm not being self centered) thanks

U haven't ansered the question I did earlier about what would you do is one of your kids were to pass through this.

[QUOTE=Wondergirl;3442363]never mind and OK I'll go to sleep

[QUOTE=Wondergirl;3442363] are you going to be
Available tomorrow? Will I be able to find you here
Tomorrow?

Thanks

Yes, she will be here. You can got to bed now, CMG 1.

You havent ansered the question I did earlier about what would u do is one of ur kids were to pass through this.
Yes, I did. I said this a few posts ago --

"I have two sons (adults now), but no daughters. If one of them went through something like this, I would make sure he knows I love him very much and would find just the right person to help him with the eating problem and with the bullying problem."

I was making brownies. The whole house smells good now!

And yes, I will be here tomorrow (Sunday). I'm glad I found you.

are u going to be
available 2morrow? Will I be able to find u here
2morrow?

Thanks
Start a new thread about bullying.