justanotherguy2
Apr 12, 2013, 02:11 PM
Ever since I met this girl, I've wanted to be with her. We went on a couple dates and she said she didn't have those types of feelings for me so we didn't see each other for a while. I never gave up and finally after a few months we started dating again and made it official shortly after. During this time everything was perfect. I always gave her time to hang out with friends and go out. She's 20, I'm 24. We would go out together and with friends too. After about a month and a half, she went on a week long venture to another country. Before she came back, I left for a week on vacation. We missed each other like crazy during this period and couldn't wait to see each other again. I invited her to a wedding and she was very excited to go. However, I lost my phone during my vacation and was not able to contact my family to update the head count for the wedding. I told her she wouldn't be able to go. I also told her it wouldn't be that great because my culture would judge us and assume we're getting married soon and all that. She said it wasn't a big deal but one night after she was drinking she told me she was really pissed about it then apologized the next morning for everything she said and she said she really wasn't mad about it. Then, after about a week she told me she feels like we're just friends and she should like me more by now because we've been officially together for 2 months and the beginning of the relationship is supposed to be the easy part. I didn't really see how anything in the relationship was hard. We never fought. Not once. Unless you count the wedding thing but she swears that is not what caused her feelings to change. After the breakup I told her how much I love her and all that and I do not want to give up on us. She says she can't be in a relationship with me right now. I just want to vent and ask for help. I don't know how her feelings just changed out of nowhere.
A little bit about her:
She is a very caring and helpful person. She still cares about me but as a friend. Her dream is to help people. She goes to other less fortunate countries to help the community and all that. She is always very stressed about almost everything, whether it be about school, family, etc. She also overthinks everything and complicates them. She said she may just be overthinking the status of our relationship and may be making a huge mistake by letting me go but still wanted to breakup in the end. Her past relationships have all been bad. She said that she may have gotten in them because she saw someone who was troubled and wanted to help fix his life. She didn't feel that way with me though. Although it took me being really sad after our first few dates where she said she only saw me as a friend for her to finally give us a chance together. She may be depressed too at times and cries at home just thinking about problems all around. I know she has her issues and she isn't perfect but I know she is perfect for me.
Now I know I can tough it out and move on and not contact her. However, I do not want to give up on us at all. I'm very goal driven and I like to get what I want. We have a vacation in Vegas with a couple of other friends (all staying in the same room) which I cannot cancel. We also work together but the no contact rule can be applied at the workplace easily. We have our own groups of friends and share one with our coworkers. We go out every now and then. Should I keep going to these outings? She can easily avoid them and just choose to stay in or hang out with her friends. Just looking for a little advice on what to do. Keep in mind my goal is to get her back and not move on. As for sex life, she has had 2 sexual partners before me and has only done it a total of four times. We have had sex maybe 5 times in that two month period. She has never had an orgasm before ever which may be cause by all her stress. That's all for now thanks in advance.
A little bit about her:
She is a very caring and helpful person. She still cares about me but as a friend. Her dream is to help people. She goes to other less fortunate countries to help the community and all that. She is always very stressed about almost everything, whether it be about school, family, etc. She also overthinks everything and complicates them. She said she may just be overthinking the status of our relationship and may be making a huge mistake by letting me go but still wanted to breakup in the end. Her past relationships have all been bad. She said that she may have gotten in them because she saw someone who was troubled and wanted to help fix his life. She didn't feel that way with me though. Although it took me being really sad after our first few dates where she said she only saw me as a friend for her to finally give us a chance together. She may be depressed too at times and cries at home just thinking about problems all around. I know she has her issues and she isn't perfect but I know she is perfect for me.
Now I know I can tough it out and move on and not contact her. However, I do not want to give up on us at all. I'm very goal driven and I like to get what I want. We have a vacation in Vegas with a couple of other friends (all staying in the same room) which I cannot cancel. We also work together but the no contact rule can be applied at the workplace easily. We have our own groups of friends and share one with our coworkers. We go out every now and then. Should I keep going to these outings? She can easily avoid them and just choose to stay in or hang out with her friends. Just looking for a little advice on what to do. Keep in mind my goal is to get her back and not move on. As for sex life, she has had 2 sexual partners before me and has only done it a total of four times. We have had sex maybe 5 times in that two month period. She has never had an orgasm before ever which may be cause by all her stress. That's all for now thanks in advance.