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SensitiveGirl
Apr 9, 2013, 09:23 AM
Should I be worried that quite a lot of girls post on my boyfriends Facebook saying ''hey ;)'' with winky faces.. he cheated on me in the past and I am finding it very hard to trust him again and I am constantly worrying about where he is or who he is texting, I look at his Facebook and twitter page 24/7.. Help :( I'm 15. I know I'm young still but, I can't bring myself to break up with him because I really like him and he makes me so happy.. but it's just the past that is haunting me :/ and well he said he is changing and I have to give him time and he said ''i'm faithful now'' Just need some advice and an answer to make me feel a bit happier and less worried :(

odinn7
Apr 9, 2013, 09:26 AM
You're better off without him.

You say he makes you happy but I don't believe it. If you have to snoop through his stuff and constantly worry that he may be cheating on you then that doesn't sound like a happy person or healthy relationship.

Truth is, he probably is cheating on you.

garboozle
Apr 9, 2013, 12:20 PM
You should try to let go and not care if he cheats on you. If he cheats on you but treats you well and is nice to you maybe you should consider overlooking his infidelity.

odinn7
Apr 9, 2013, 12:40 PM
You should try to let go and not care if he cheats on you. If he cheats on you but treats you well and is nice to you maybe you should consider overlooking his infidelity.

Are you serious? That is one of the most ridiculous things anyone could ever say... well, aside from all your other posts.

Overlook the fact that he's cheating if he treats her OK otherwise?

Listen, based on all your other posts and questions and your skewed view of relationships, you are the last person that should be giving any kind of relationship advice... seriously.

Alty
Apr 9, 2013, 12:54 PM
You should try to let go and not care if he cheats on you. If he cheats on you but treats you well and is nice to you maybe you should consider overlooking his infidelity.

Ya, and if he starts beating her once in a while she should overlook that too, as long as he treats her nice most of the time (sarcasm engaged).

Garboozle, the more you post, the more I think you should stay away from women and relationships all together.

To the OP (Original poster) do yourself a favor and ignore garboozle. If you don't want to take my word for it, look at some of his threads. This man knows as much about relationships as hookers know about brain surgery.

Sigh.

garboozle
Apr 9, 2013, 09:52 PM
Ya, and if he starts beating her once in a while she should overlook that too, as long as he treats her nice most of the time (sarcasm engaged).

Garboozle, the more you post, the more I think you should stay away from women and relationships all together.

To the OP (Original poster) do yourself a favor and ignore garboozle. If you don't want to take my word for it, look at some of his threads. This man knows as much about relationships as hookers know about brain surgery.

Sigh.

I don't want to detract from the OP's post but.. Do you really feel like I should stay away from women and relationships? Because it's like all I've ever wanted for the past couple of years.. Like. Seriously. All I want is someone to gravitate to and to live for.

J_9
Apr 9, 2013, 09:54 PM
You should try to let go and not care if he cheats on you. If he cheats on you but treats you well and is nice to you maybe you should consider overlooking his infidelity.

This is the absolute worst advice I have ever seen given. Absolutely disgusting and degrading to women. You are a very sick person who needs some intense therapy.

J_9
Apr 9, 2013, 09:55 PM
do you really feel like I should stay away from women and relationships?

ABSOLTUTElY!!

garboozle
Apr 9, 2013, 10:00 PM
This is the absolute worst advice I have ever seen given. Absolutely disgusting and degrading to women. You are a very sick person who needs some intense therapy.

Sorry, I didn't mean for it to be degrading to women, I have very much respect for them. It's just what I would do in the given situation.

J_9
Apr 9, 2013, 10:04 PM
You have NO respect for women at all. Women should be treated with respect. There should never be cheating. We don't want an STD any more than you do. We want to be loved and respected. How can you love and respect someone if you are sleeping with someone else?

Dude, you need some serious counseling.

I don't know what planet you come from, but the planet I live on loves and respects their partner. By sleeping with another person you are neither loving or respecting your partner.

garboozle
Apr 9, 2013, 10:07 PM
You have NO respect for women at all. Women should be treated with respect. There should never be cheating. We don't want an STD any more than you do. We want to be loved and respected. how can you love and respect someone if you are sleeping with someone else?

Dude, you need some serious counseling.

I don't know what planet you come from, but the planet I live on loves and respects their partner. By sleeping with another person you are neither loving or respecting your partner.

I DO have respect for women and I'd tell a guy in this situation to do the same thing.

J_9
Apr 9, 2013, 10:10 PM
You have no respect for women at all. I've read your other threads.

You need intense therapy, maybe even inpatient.