Ok so there's this guy who's 18 and I am 23. Is it OK for me to have a crush on and possibly date someone who's 5 years younger? Hes so good looking

No, not because of the 5 years, that is nothing, it is because you have to ask. You have a personal doubt and it bothers you or you would not ask this question.

So it will always worry you. Until you are OK with it and do not worry about what anyone would say, then it will not work.

Some people will not want it or think it is wrong, some people will find fault in anything

No if both of you are adults. And since you both are adults, it does not matter, legally fine.

You do not date a guy because he is good looking.

The legal answer is that there is no legal problem.

He may be younger in years but you are interested in him because "he's so good looking" so I suspect you're on the same maturity level.

The legal answer is that there is no legal problem.
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There is no question at all.

Not only don't I think there's a question, I don't see there's a problem - but here we are on the legal forum.

You do not date a guy because he is good looking.

I Know Hes Also Really Nice And Respectful

Hello a:

You're BOTH adults..

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Hello a:

You're BOTH adults..

excon

OK so I wouldn't get in trouble

I removed your most recent post since it started a new thread on this same topic. Please post your comments and questions in this thread that you already have going.

How about starting a conversation with him.

I removed your most recent post since it started a new thread on this same topic. Please post your comments and questions in this thread that you already have going.

How about starting a conversation with him.

Ok what would be a good convorsation starter

Ok what would be a good convorsation starter
"What's your favorite kind of pizza?"
"Which is your favorite sport?"
"Do you have any pets?"
"Which food do you hate the most?"

You're 23 and you don't know if a teenager, someone you are really good friends with, is flirting with you? I'm wondering why a young lady your age would want to date a boy that age. Girls generally mature faster than boys, so I'm not understanding this. Why don't you just ask him.

"What's your favorite kind of pizza?"
"Which is your favorite sport?"
"Do you have any pets?"
"Which food do you hate the most?"

I Know he has a dog he plays football and bball and right now Lacrosse


You're 23 and you don't know if a teenager, someone you are really good friends with, is flirting with you? I'm wondering why a young lady your age would want to date a boy that age. Girls generally mature faster than boys, so I'm not understanding this. Why don't you just ask him.
I Know he Likes me

He thinks I Am Awesome he's always there for me

Well if you know he likes you what is the problem? You said you don't know if he's flirting with you? He is 18 so you could date him although I don't know why you would want to date an 18 year old. What makes you think you would get in trouble? I suppose if you took him out drinking or gave him alcohol, that would.

Well if you know he likes you what is the problem? You said you don't know if he's flirting with you? He is 18 so you could date him although I don't know why you would want to date an 18 year old. What makes you think you would get in trouble? I suppose if you took him out drinking or gave him alcohol, that would.

I Would never let him drink I Have always been a little guy crazy and guys that are my age are either taken or creepers

Does he live at home, is he in high school? How would his parents feel? If he is in High School, that would be kind of weird. Would you go to prom with him, or are you just looking to have fun and not date?

He is a senior in High school his parents are awesome I would go if I had the option but I can't because I have a dance show that night

He hates dark choclate

I don't see any reason why you would get in trouble. If you want to date him, do it.

I don't see any reason why you would get in trouble. If you want to date him, do it.

OK

Why dose love have to be so complicaited Same guy I want to date him I just dono how his parents would feel And I don't want to make them mad

Threads merged

There is something here that is not right - something very wrong, in fact.

Either OP is not the age she states OR there is some other issue.

Spidey senses tingling.

I agree Judy. A 23 year old should be finished with college and beginning her career path. While the 18 year old is still in high school and just learning to be an adult.

Maybe the 23 year old cannot relate to people her age?

The spelling is atrocious (12 year old level, if that) and I just don't understand a 23-year old not wanting to make his parents "mad," and one of the things she knows about him is he likes chocolate.

Something not right -

And he's "so good looking!"

I'm wondering if the OP is 13 and the person she is interested in is 18.

I agree Judy. A 23 year old should be finished with college and beginning her career path. While the 18 year old is still in high school and just learning to be an adult.

Maybe the 23 year old cannot relate to people her age?

I Am Almost finished

Thank you for the unnecessary reddie. >removed<

So, you are almost finished. Good for you. I can pretty much guarantee that this boy is interested in your because you are older than him and he can brag that he has an older woman. If you are indeed 23.

Are you planning on going to prom with him?

In fact I Am 23 he hasn't asked me yet And I have a dance show that weekend

Again, thanks for the reddie for merging your threads. This was done for continuity so that you had one subject in one thread rather than have the same question scattered throughout the site.

I Am Almost finished
I started in 2008 and its 2013

You say you are worried about his parents, you also said they are nice. Why don't you ask them how they feel about dating the 18 year old son?
I'm still trying to figure out why a 23 year old woman would want to date a guy in high school.

I can tell you I wouldn't want a 23 year old dating my 18 year old. Yes, I have an 18 year old.

Whoops, my 18 year old is now 19, so I wouldn't want my 19 year old dating a 24 year old. Same age gap.

The spelling is atrocious (12 year old level, if that) and I just don't understand a 23-year old not wanting to make his parents "mad," and one of the things she knows about him is he likes chocolate.

Something not right -

His parents are super nice and good friends of mine so that is why I Wouldn't want to make them mad

His parents are supper nice

Supper is what you eat at 5. Super is a very good or pleasant. And you are a college student?

You say you are worried about his parents, you also said they are nice. Why don't you ask them how they feel about dating the 18 year old son?
I'm still trying to figure out why a 23 year old woman would want to date a guy in high school.

Thanks

His parents are supper nice and good friends of mine so that is why I Wouldn't want to make them mad
C'mon now. We won't hold it against you, but please admit your real age. We know you are not 23. We really do want to help you.

No My birthday Is June 27th 1989 the fact is I Am 23

Then there is some other problem here - a college student who thinks "dose" and "infact" are words? As I figure it she's in her 5th year of college - ?

I'm not buying it.

And then there are the undeserved reddies -

I Do Have some learning disability so I would Like it if you would stop bashing me in the head

No My birthday Is June 27th 1989 the fact is I Am 23
Well, if you are in college, are you learning disabled? That would help us help you with this guy, if we knew more details about any disability you have. ***ADDED Ah, thank you! Can you tell us what the problems are? I'm a former teacher and a counselor.

C'mon now. We won't hold it against you, but please admit your real age. We know you are not 23. We really do want to help you.

No My birthday Is June 27th 1989 the fact is I Am 23 It even says so on my profile

If you are in college, why are you interested in a high school guy? The two of you have virtually nothing in common.

Well, if you are in college, are you learning disabled? That would help us help you with this guy, if we knew more details about any disability you have. ***ADDED Ah, thank you! Can you tell us what the problems are? I'm a former teacher and a counselor.

Just some challenges I Am working on

Ah, thank you! Can you tell us what the problems are? I'm a counselor and a former teacher. Is he learning disabled also?

If you are in college, why are you interested in a high school guy? The two of you have virtually nothing in common.

Because Like I Said before the guys my age are either taken or went to school out of Colorado after high school and we both like chocolate and sports and both have dogs


Ah, thank you! Can you tell us what the problems are? I'm a counselor and a former teacher. Is he learning disabled also?

No he's not my problems I would like to keep to myself


Supper is what you eat at 5. Super is a very good or pleasant. And you are a college student?

Sorry my brain is not awake yet

No hes not my problems i would like to keep to my self
It would really help us to know, so then we can help you better. For instance, my son is high-functioning autistic, so I know how that works and could suggest things to you based on how he deals positively with relationships. And my husband has Asperger's!

I Just Have some Learning Challenges that I am working on step by step I Am not physically challenged I was in sped for my whole life but now I Just have a tutor I meet with once a week

I Just Have some Learning Challenges that I am working on step by step I Am not physically challenged I was in sped for my whole life but now I Just have a tutor i meet with once a week
That's good to hear! Are you willing to tell me which college you are going to? The big ones especially give wonderful help to students with challenges.

Colorado Mtn college

Colorado Mtn college
Thanks for telling me! Are you from that area since you know that guy who is in high school? Or how do you know him? (CO is my favorite state -- have been all over the place and love the Front Range and Boulder especially.)

Yes I was born here His bro graduated in 2009 and he started playing sports and his younger brother started playing sports and I got to know him

yes I was born here His bro graduated in 2009 and he started playing sports and his younger brother started playing sports and i got to know him
No wonder! Now I understand. So both families know each other, right?

Does the younger brother have a girlfriend right now?

I Don't think his bro has a girlfriend right now

I Dont think his bro has a gf right now
How often do you see him?

On Saturday, my husband is heading out to Arches for a vacation and to see the Colorado aspens and breathe the mountain air. Are the aspens budding or getting leaves yet?

No aspen leaves yet but I See him at all the home lacrosse games

no aspen leaves yet but I See him at all the home lacrosse games
Is he a pretty good player? What position does he play? That would be a good thing to talk about with him -- lacrosse.

Is he interested in talking much with you or anyone? Or is he shy?

He Plays Middy And he has friends to talk to and yes He is an amazing athlete period he was Captain of the boys basketball team at Aspen and yes we have conversations he played full back for football he ran track last year he is super cool and really nice

He's not shy at all

But maybe he thinks of you are more of a "big sister" than a possible girlfriend? Especially if your families have known each other for a long time.

Its hard telling not knowing but I think it could work for me to be one of his possible girlfriend Not only do I know about the sports he plays I am also the #1 fan for AHS And spoil the teams and he was totally defending me when I got in an argument

Another thing is when the Lacrosse team is Away it drives me crazy because I Adore the guy

Is he interested in a 23 year old college student (5 years older than he is)? That might very well be the bigger question here. Have you had boyfriends in the past?

Is he likewise learning disabled?

I suspect a track, football and lacrosse "star" is beating off prospective girlfriends with a stick. Is he just being nice to you or is he interested in you as a girlfriend?

I think if you ask him out you will upset both families - yours and his. What do your parents say about you having a crush on this guy?

I will join WG in loving Colorado - I liked Boulder best.

Maybe I dono he might be and no he's not

I asked 4 questions. Which 2 did you answer?

The one about him being disabled and him being interested in a 23 year old girl and my parents just tell me to becareful

I realize you are almost finished with College - what is your major? I know there are lots of Environmental Studies degrees available in Colorado.

I Haven't decided but I want to work with our athletic trainer so Next week I am going to be taking Community cpr and first aid courses so we will see where it takes me but I also do a lot of art

Is he interested in a 23 year old college student (5 years older than he is)? That might very well be the bigger question here. Have you had boyfriends in the past?
No I have not and he might be his ex is in college Love is just a tough thing

Is he likewise learning disabled?
No he is not

explain please your Answer
I Don't know what you mean

I suspect a track, football and lacrosse "star" is beating off prospective girlfriends with a stick. Is he just being nice to you or is he interested in you as a girlfriend?
He thinks I am Awesome because I never miss a game and spoil the teams with goodies and if its someone's birthday a birthday card and gift hand made and lots of good birthday wishes

I think if you ask him out you will upset both families - yours and his. What do your parents say about you having a crush on this guy?
My Parents tell me to be careful with who I chose to date and have a crush on because they love me

I will join WG in loving Colorado - I liked Boulder best.
Yup, Boulder, and next on my list is Dillon, home of The Little Brown Drug (store). Great Sand Dunes is pretty nice too, especially in May when the creek is full and gives cool relief to hot-sand-burned bare feet. And of course, there's Black Canyon of the Gunnison. Oh, and Wolf Creek Pass. Heck, maybe we should move to CO.

To aspenchic, just be sure you aren't trying to "buy" his affection with "stuff."

"He thinks I am Awesome because I never miss a game and spoil the teams with goodies and if its someones birthday a birthday card and gift hand made and lots of good birthday wishes"

I don't understand your relationship with him - you go to all his games. That I "get." But you bring birthday cards and gifts to his team mates?

Not a legal issue but this is a huge difference in terms of where you're at in life. My son is 18 and a senior in high school. I would STRONGLY disapprove if he were dating a 23 year old girl and I would consider something seriously to be wrong with her. Why would a woman old enough to be a senior in college want to be with a boy who's just barely old enough to graduate high school? Find a man your own age.

Find a man your own age.
If you read the more recent posts, you will see it's a lot more complicated than a simple age difference.

To aspenchic, just be sure you aren't trying to "buy" his affection with "stuff."

I Am not

"He thinks I am Awesome because I never miss a game and spoil the teams with goodies and if its someones birthday a birthday card and gift hand made and lots of good birthday wishes"

I don't understand your relationship with him - you go to all his games. That I "get." But you bring birthday cards and gifts to his team mates?
Not only his team mates but him to
My relationship between him is that I Am his#1Fan And not just his but everyone's

So there you have it

Post deleted - sorry - problem with my computer and this post was not meant to be in this string. Computer crashed while I was posted and when I logged back in it posted here!

I Don't have a half sister

I Don't have a half sister

Sorry, dear - that response was meant to go to another question. It posted in response to your question by accident! I've deleted it now.

I'm still not understanding what a lady your age sees in a teen. I know as a parent I would be very displeased if you were dating my 18 year old son. You are too old for him. Not even in the same stage of life.

Sorry, dear - that response was meant to go to another question. It posted in response to your question by accident! I've deleted it now.

Its OK

I'm still not understanding what a lady your age sees in a teen. I know as a parent I would be very displeased if you were dating my 18 year old son. You are too old for him. Not even in the same stage of life.

True but I can dream can't I

Yeah you can dream but you don't have to put an 18 year old in your dreams. You don't have to act on it. He's a teenager for pete sake.

I suspect 18 year old prospective boyfriend is more mature in many ways than the OP - I still think he treats her like a little sister or team "pet."

Sad but true - where are her parents?

I suspect 18 year old prospective boyfriend is more mature in many ways than the OP - I still think he treats her like a little sister or team "pet."
There's a cognitive difficulty here too, a la redlipsticklena.

There's a cognitive difficulty here too, a la redlipsticklena.

Thanks tell them to please back off me then I really apprecaite your help

thanks tell them to please back off me then i really apprecaite your help
Please promise me you will be careful and not be the kind of mindless pleaser who loses herself and her integrity as she tries to please someone else and hope to win them over.

Please promise me you will be careful and not be the kind of mindless pleaser who loses herself and her integrity as she tries to please someone else and hope to win them over.

I will

"I am totally agree with "Fr_Chuck's" . Perfect answer and perfect advise for this question."

Did you actually read the thread before you responded?

And to WG, yes, I get it now! Slow study!

And to OP - are your parents aware you are on line, sharing your name, school, State? That could be a dangerous practice.

So the same guy I Was Talking about before his birthday is May 6th mine is June 27th so Again is it Legal or ilegal for me to date or like him in that way

So the same guy I Was Talking about before his birthday is May 6th mine is June 27th so Again is it Legal or ilegal for me to date or like him in that way
Nothing is illegal. Your birthday months have nothing to do with it. Just be careful you don't get a reputation as a stalker if he is not interested in you romantically.

Nothing is illegal. Your birthday months have nothing to do with it. Just be careful you don't get a reputation as a stalker if he is not interested in you romantically.

OK thanks, I Am not A Stalker or have the reputation

I Am not A Stalker or have the reputation
Good! I do not want anyone to begin to think of you that way either.